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- c section by choice-sorry not sure if this has been done before.
6/7/08 11:12
6/7/08 10:55
My first pregnancy ended up with me having pre eclampsia, getting induced (didnt work) and then having an emergency c- section - baby after was very poorly but I was ok.
Second pregnancy, all the way through I was pushing for a natural birth, consultant was pushing for c-section. I ended up being two and a half weeks over due when I finally realised I had no choice in the matter, baby wasnt coming out naturally and they wouldnt induce me. This I have to say was the worse experince in my life, going in the night before and having a chance to think of all the things that could go wrong.
C-section itself was a nightmare, spinal started going the wrong way so couldnt breathe, ended up having a panic attack half way through and being sick. After had terrible pain in my shoulder due to trapped wind and still suffer with the pain, apart from that I was ok. Yet again baby was very poorly being taken down to scubu which was the other side of the hospital 12 hours after birth. Because I was stupid enough to attempt to breast feed and there wasnt enough midwives when scubu phoned down to say baby was hungry I had to walk all the way down and back, this only stopped when after the sixth time walking down that night I colapsed as I got to Scubu (apparently the midwives didnt know I was a c-section).
Thankfully both children are now fine.
Would I have another? If it wasnt going to result in a c-section then yes but seeing that Ive been told I wouldnt have a choice in the matter I am sticking with two children.
Although my c-sections wernt horrendous I really cannot understand people wanting to have major surgery and then look after a newborn baby. Its ok for the Celebs as nine times out of ten they have a nanny etc to look after baby.
After any major surgery you are told not to do anything for at least 6 weeks but your expect to be able to look after a baby and stay in good health the two dont really go hand in hand and I would hate to think what damage Ive done to my body yet to be discovered.
6/7/08 10:39
With my second son, I remember turning up to one mw appointment in floods of tears because I was petrified of having to have a caesarean. I'd been told that he was breech and my old hospital are renowned for jumping straight into the c-section option for breech babies. I cried and cried and cried and begged the midwife to give me all the tips possible for getting ds to turn so I could avoid a section!
Would I ever choose one? Not on your life! And I do feel really sorry for the women who have no option about it, whether because of a medical complication this time round or because previous experience means they just couldn't cope with a vaginal delivery...
6/7/08 01:01
i dont think im being judgemental at all,ive said i think that its ok for a good medical reason,im on about the women who do it for vain reasons or to fit in around work etc.
at the end of the say,whoo cares its their body let them do what they wasnt,as long as the baby is ok then thats all that matters,but there are far more risks in a c section than in a normal safe birth(by this i mean no interventions)
peronally id never choose one.
6/7/08 00:01
My first birth was a vaginal birth. I refuse to call it 'natural' because what was done to me was far from natural. Maybe nature could have done the job properly if there had been less interference and more support but I'm thankful that it all ended well. I had nightmares about it for two years and my underneath won't ever be the same.
My second birth was an elective c-section. I was told that things wouldn't be allowed to get so bad second time around and they'd happily give me an emergency c-section if things weren't going smoothly but I did my research and at the last moment I pushed for an elective. It felt like something wasn't quite right and I knew he was a lot bigger than my first. I had my elective c-section at 41 weeks and it was lucky I had because the cord was twice round his neck and not very long which could have explained why he hadn't engaged.
I decided that an elective c-section was a far better option than an emergency c-section and for me the recovery was far quicker.
I won't be having any more babies but if by some miracle I did find myself pregnant again I'd be looking at having a home birth.
5/7/08 21:08
i didnt hold ds for hours ater he was born via emer cs (born 8pm thurs night, didnt hold him til fri at about 10). was kncoked out and for few hrs after i didnt even care where he was, i just wanted to sleep. the other option was him dying so am not bothered about how he got here, just that he's ok
5/7/08 20:51
i just remember the doctor being covered in blood, i honestly thought my baby wasnt going to make it.
even though im having a c-section this time round im still very frightened.
5/7/08 20:50
Its not always quick with c-sections either. My babies were fine, but I was in no fit state to see them for half hour after they were born- i couldnt hold them by myself until 24 hours later.
5/7/08 20:48
dont mention the stirrups
i hate the feckers and im still suffering from them now
5/7/08 20:47
yeh but once your gorgeous baby was lying on yur chest i bet you thought iwas all worth it didnt you?
I didnt, might sound horrible but my natural birth was that trumatic for me i found it really hard to bond with ds i didnt even want to hold him after as i stupidly blamed him i beleive the whole thing started my pnd
5/7/08 20:45
yibba i didnt even though i had a girl for about 10 mins, absolutely awful and them damn stirups they bring back some horrific memories.
5/7/08 20:44
I do think that some people think that c-sections are an easy ride. Some are.... but some arent. Mine was blóody awful and i still get nightmares about it! However- it was the safest way to get my babies out, so cant complain!
5/7/08 20:44
my first birth was vaginal but for this pregnancy they have said i may need a section because of position of baby and tbh am not very happy at all. i dont want a surgical procedure to deliver my baby i want to do it myself and am trying all sorts to get baba to move around in the hope that i can avoid a section. to me, why would you want a section for any other than serious medical reason? i actually dont want one, and really want a natural vaginal birth and it stuns me that people who might be perfectly capable of doing the thing i so want are making the choice to have a surgical birth for petty reasons.
c section is for babies and mothers for whom there is no other way and for emergency, not in my eyes to avoid a tear or in case labour hurts. i tore giving birth to my son vaginally and i still want a vaginal birth again. i think it takes the p how some people give up on the natural way so easily when there are mums like me who want a natural birth and actuially may not be able to have one.
grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
5/7/08 20:43
i had a natural delivery she was gone for 10-15mins being resusitated (sp) and i wasnt told where she was or even if she was a boy or girl or even alive or dead.
I wouldnt wish that on anyone.
5/7/08 20:42
kimbo i couldnt even hold my daughter for about an hour after she was born, mentaly i was an emotional wreck as well.
you really are being judgement kim.
5/7/08 20:39
To answer the op- Personally i would NEVER choose a c-section over a vaginal birth. My c-section was horrible, my vaginal birth after was fantastic. I have been left with a problem after giving birth, as a result of tearing badly (sorry tmi- internally, externally in both directions), and healing too much! I am in the process of being refered to the hospital, so that they can sort it all out...... anyway, i know that isnt really bad, but i know of people who ask for c-sections just because of minor tearing, and i cant understand it.
I can understand people asking for c-sections if they have had traumatic labours etc before hand, but cant understand it for many other reasons.
5/7/08 20:32
im all for their bodies, their choices etc but am baffled by the 'easy option' theory. i had a cs 19 mths ago and my very ugly, angry scar constantly aches and itches (worse when on period-strange i know) and i dont know anyone who still hurts this long after a vaginal birth.
5/7/08 20:25
yeh but once your gorgeous baby was lying on yur chest i bet you thought iwas all worth it didnt you?
max was quite big,he was 9lb 12oz,and cus he was my first i cant really compare it to having a smaller baby so although i was in a lot of pain for a couple of weeks afrerwards cus of my stitches i couldnt say if it was worse than anyone elses cus i only knew my own experience.
5/7/08 15:04
I have had two huge babies naturally, and tbh not sure I would like to put myself through it again. My first was 10lb 6oz 15 days late and I had to be induced, her head came out sideways, it was really painful even with an epidural and I felt traumatised for a while afterwards, my second was 10lb 8oz, and throughout my pregnancy I was scared of having such a large baby again, they sent me for a growth scan at 36 weeks and he was approx 7lb 2oz then, and they told me he wouldn't be as big as my daughter, and they wouldn't induce me any earlier that 10 days overdue. They induced me at night, so he was born 11 days overdue, and all my worries and fears about birth came back while I was in labour, it was horrifically painful, gas and air and pethidine didn't even touch the pain and I was screaming for an epidural. I refused to push for an hour, as I was so so scared and the pain was awful, I was screaming at the midwives for someone to help me and I told my dp it felt like I was dying. In the end I couldn't resist the urge to push and he came out very quickly in just a couple of pushes taking everybody by surprise. As a result I'm scared to death tbh of having to go through that again. The thought of a C Section also scares me so maybe the answer for me is no more babies
5/7/08 14:43
If I had had any inkling about how my natural birth would pan out, I would have opted for a section in a second.
Had no pain relief (no time else it would have been every drug under the sun), ventouse delivery, third degree tear for which I'm about to undergo my 4th operation as it still isn't right one year on.
Each to their own individual choice. I never heard a bad story about a natural birth,( because everyone belongs to the secret society of not spilling the beans on just how painful it is). Had I done, yes, I would have opted for a section.
M x
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My first baby was stillborn and although I would have liked a 'normal' delivery of a living child, the 2nd time around I opted for a section because I believed it was safer for my baby. It was physically much harder after the section but I have no regrets as it got my baby here safe and well.