c section by choice-sorry not sure if this has been done before.
5/7/08 11:53
5/7/08 11:41
Their bodies their choice as Sage said.
But either way who are you to tell women who hae had horrific labours that have ended in anything from Stillbirth to serious physical and psychological damage to the mother and/or child that they cannot choose how to birth future babies?!
What if hearing of these experiences is why people are opting for c-sections?
5/7/08 11:36
But its their bodies. If they want to have major surgery and deal with the recovery time and so on then its THEIR bodies. Who are you to tell them they shouldn't. You don't OWN their bodies, do you?? So who gives a flying rat's ass what they do with THEIR bodies.
5/7/08 11:35
Kimbo has a point - yes there are many, many valid reasons for women with previous horrendous experiences, pre-existing medical conditions or tokophobia to opt for a c-section as their best way of giving birth.
But they're not who's up for debate here...
It can't really be denied that there is a trend of mums opting for a c-section as the "easy route" and I do worry about that. The recovery time is longer, the impact on your body is more (it's major surgery after all!) and how anyone can see it as an easy option purely because you bypass the indignities of contractions baffles me!
5/7/08 11:26
You're still dismissing it as being a bit scared. People don't just get sections for being a bit scared. Tokophobia can be so bad that women who are desperate for children but scared to death of childbirth go childless. It's not as simple as being a bit scared.
Anyway, who are you to judge anyone elses' decision as to how THEY give birth? It doesn't affect you in the slightest.
5/7/08 11:19
this thread is about people who choose to have c sections for vain reasons or people who have them cus their a bit scared.not about people who have to because of medical conditions or people who have been through something as upsetting as a stillbirth.
5/7/08 11:18
this thread is about people who choose to have c sections for vain reasons or people who have them cus their a bit scared.not about people who have to because of medical conditions or people who have been through something as upsetting as a stillbirth.
4/7/08 23:20
I don't believe that we can say its 'natural so we should'. If i'd allowed nature to take its course ds1 would have died in labour and i'd have died with ds2. But hey, sure dh would have just said, 'well, it is natural'.
4/7/08 22:11
It's natural but still incredibly dangerous- the day you are born is said to be the most dangerous journey you will ever make!
Nature is all well and good but thank god for science when nature doesnt quite do its job properly.
4/7/08 22:10
no its not
our pelvis' have developed for upright walking NOT childbirth which is why it hurts so much and babies frequently get stuck.
4/7/08 22:08
god i wasnt trying to sound like that sorry!
it is natural though isnt it?its what our bodies are made for.
at m&b group on weds me and this other girl were talking and here labour was something like 22 hours long!if mine had been that long then id probably have wanted something but i was lucky.
do yuo think labour patterns run in families cus all the women in my family have very short labours,my mum had my brother in something like 20 minutes!
4/7/08 22:07
My first labour was easy although long and slighty early. It hurt but was easy iykwim.
Stupidily I assumed birth is easy/natural/straightforward for everyone and people demanding sections were dramatic fuss pots.
Ho-hum you live and learn and all that.
4/7/08 21:26
Im glad that somone thinks that child birth is such a natural thing. someone should really have told dd1 about that because she was basically dragged from me with a ventose because my contractions had stopped (for the second time ) during the 2nd stage.
Im really glad I didnt miss out on that terrifying experience.
4/7/08 21:24
shameful
how very dare we call ourselves women
shame on us
4/7/08 21:23
20min labour! mine was 23 hours of being practically pinned to the bed and not allowed to move off my back never ever again
4/7/08 21:21
oh it's eating half my posts now
4/7/08 21:20
LOL
4/7/08 21:19
Yeh Yibba - we are just silly women who don't accept that birth is a natural thing (so natural that without proper medical care of infant and mother mortality rate used to be very high)
Pathetic we are!
4/7/08 21:15
oops don't know why that posted twice!
Adding to my previous post though, i too had a pretty horrendous natural birth and wouldn't rule out an elective c-section, other than the prospective longer healing time.
4/7/08 21:15
s'k gordy those of us with bad labour tales are all imagining it.
We wouldnt want people to feel deprived of ALL birthing experiences now would we....
My worry is actually about the experience that trainee midwives get...
We already hear of problems with mums who want home births or water births because midwives don't see enough of them in training to know what to do - is there a risk that the growing trend for elective sections will soon see a reduction in the number of midwives who know how to handle a straightforward natural birth without panicking and diving in with interventions at the drop of a hat?