Letting Children Pick Their Own Clothes
8/10/08 14:51
8/10/08 14:39
i have brainwashed my children to like what i like as it saves time and arguments. however dd (4) is showing definite signs of having her own opinion
and keeps wearing a head scarf princess anne stylee (her fave film is bedk***s and broomsticks). 8/10/08 14:11
My dd is 6 and she does get some choice in what we buy if I chose to take her shopping with me. For example this summer I took her shopping for some sandles and I loved one pair and she loved the other, it didn't really matter which pair she had so I let her chose and she wouldn't take them off her feet all summer, but with her school shoes again we both loved different pairs but mine were more suited for school on the winter, so I got final say.
Same with clothes in her wardrobe, we normally chose between us, so she doesn't kinda match and is weather suitable. She is complete opposite of me when chosing clothes as it always pink and girly for her where-as I live in jeans and trainers
8/10/08 12:14
DS2 hates shopping more than anything so it's pointless asking him to choose clothes. With ds1 though, I pick out things and then asks if he likes them. If I left him to his own devices, I would have had to spend £30odd on a Spiderman outfit from H&M the other day instead of the very nice jumper and shirt I did buy!
8/10/08 11:43
Flynn picks his own clothes and I say whether he can havethem or not. I don't see the problem at all.
8/10/08 11:41
Mmm.. at 2 or 3 I would be unlikely to let them have a say in it, no! After all they will forget about it within a zillionth of a second...
I didn't let dd2 have pale pink shoes for the winter... she got black. She likes to look excessively girly for some reason, but she also enjoys rolling in mud, puddles etc. and is magnetically attracted to dog poo...
8/10/08 11:32
Ds has an ok taste in clothes, funky hoodies and baggy jeans etc etc... loves his retro comic book t shirts too, but dd will like anything as longs as it's pink, floral, has funky tights, is a 'spinny dress' or is 'princess' clothes. She loves hats.
Both of mine have a thing about shoes, mainly my shoes, mainly my 5 inch patent black mary janes
and my 6 inch platforms (according to ds these are his 'walking shoes'). They also have a vast collection of handbags.8/10/08 11:08
I dont see the problem with them having a say, unless they are prone to changing their mind or being fickle. If they really like a coat, then they will be happy to wear it., can't be a bad thing.
8/10/08 11:06
They don't get to choose what I buy, but I will consult them if they are with me.
They both choose their own clothes, and go out in some very special outfits.
8/10/08 11:04
what i do with both of mine is pick things out and ask them if they like it or not; DD usually likes my choices DS never does - so I must be more in touch with a 4y/o than a 14y/o lol!
however I do pick out what DD wears daily as left to her own devices she looks like some kind of strange travelling gypsy child
8/10/08 09:46
I usually hold up 2 or 3 items and say which top do you prefer, at home he gets a choice a the weekends, he's in clothes he can trash for pre-school.
8/10/08 09:42
i think they should up to a point,i always go to shops which sell mostly nice stuff anyway so when their old enough to say "mum i want this" then chances are ill probably like it,plus i hope to bring my kids up to be stylish like me lol.
8/10/08 00:29
i think im lucky really, my lil madam loves her skirts and pretty dresses but i will draw the line at her wearing clothes that make her look older than she is, its the same with footwear, she has 1 pair of shoes with a tiny heel on them which she has for school otherwise she wears boots or dolly shoes, i cant even get her to wear trainers most of the time!
8/10/08 00:19
lol, i know a little girl who has always chosen her own clothes and she looks like a porn star at the ripe old age of 6... lol that is when i vowed never to let my children dress themselves
some kids have a more 'mature' style/ taste/ choice... and some, like my son... wants to be a princess
he also has handbags... more than i care to count, lol
8/10/08 00:16
omg ive just read my post back n my daughter sounds like a spoilt brat!!!!!! lol she really isnt though!
8/10/08 00:15
my daughter is 4 and for as long as i can remember since she has been big enough to get her self dressed ive put her in 1 set of clothes and within minutes she will have changed into a completley different outfit. she is very opinionated and has very definite ideas about the kinds of clothes she wants to wear to the point that to be able to buy her things she has to be with you otherwise its just a waste of money!
8/10/08 00:15
Lol ds2 does this also. He seems to have a fascination for girls shoes at the moment. He has also nicked my mum's handbag and likes to wear my friend's dd's little hats when we go and see her.
8/10/08 00:10
i have to do it with ds otherwise he would be wearing barbie tshirts and frilly skirts... lol
8/10/08 00:05
I like the fact that he has his own little style, it's so NOT my style but I don't want a mini me. On the other hand, he is only 3. It's not like he threw a tantrum or anything, he trotted along after us quite happily when we left the shop. It's just he really seemed to like it. He was cuddling it and rubbing his face on the fur lol. I was just wondering what age people consider appropriate to start giving lo's some input.
GFB that's a good idea about giving him a couple of choices
7/10/08 23:57
i thi nk that yes i would have bought it for him ,if he needed it . its your son that has to wear it not your dp and if it was suitable for what you needed it for wheres the harm ?
when children get to a certain age a have their own opinions etc then i would let them choose their own clothes with my consent.