should you be able to use sperm from your husband after he has passed away
10/10/08 18:38
10/10/08 17:07
if my dh was ill, id want some of his sperm freezing so in time i could have a baby in his memory!
9/10/08 15:10
I agree, it is important to put yourself into the fathers' shoes, isn't it? I would not be happy if my DH took a decision to remove some of my eggs like this, 'hours after death'. I'd be even more cross if a court granted permission without any written evidence that I wanted that to happen.I would personally much rather my DH looked after our existing children, eventually perhaps meeting a new love and creating a life with her. I wouldn't want to be mum to a child that I have never had the chance of knowing - for the childs' sake, more than for my own. As for giving the child a sibling - as others said, being a sibling is about more than genetics.
9/10/08 14:12
OMG snap again (though I type considerably slower than you).
9/10/08 14:12
Exactly DR. I'd come back to haunt the jerk if he did something like that
.9/10/08 14:11
I would be turning in my grave if dp ever did that i would haunt him lol
9/10/08 14:10
I think that is a good point Samba - how many women WOULD be happy with the idea of their dh finding a surrogate to carry a baby created from one of their eggs, once they were dead? i certainly wouldn't.
9/10/08 13:19
Even though they had already decided to have children, it hardly follows that he'd want to be an absentee father (as it would be difficult to be present when you're dead). How many women who desperately want a baby and will go through IVF for it wouldn't mind their eggs being used by their partner for a baby after their death? Not many I think. If he had consented to this while he was alive, fair enough, it's nobody else's business. But if he died without giving consent it's wrong to make a baby out of him posthumously.
9/10/08 12:55
Half blood what that all about both my brothers and my 2 sisters are my half siblings but that dosnt make them any less my brothers and sisters at all in my eyes we all came from the same mum and grew up together, Its not your right to have a child nor is it your right to have a sibling just be happy with what you have got and make the best of it. I totally disagree with the bloods thicker than water saying family is who you make it not what dna you have.
9/10/08 12:51
All of my siblings are half siblings, we are all equal!
9/10/08 12:18
My dss has a half blood sibling (brother from anuvva muvva) , is he second best? 
9/10/08 12:11
What about the human rights of his daughter being given the opertunity to have a full blood sibling.
It is NOT a human right to have a full-blood sibling.
Like Marmite said, he may well have been planning to try and conceive another baby - but because he wanted to be a father! I cannot see how it is acceptable to deliberately plan to conceive a child when the father is already dead. Yes, later in life the woman may well have another relationship and the child may then have a step-father, but to deliberatlely create a father-less life is wrong, IMO (I disagree with IVF for single mums on the same grounds).
She should be concentrating on dealing with her grief and helping her dd to do the same, not planning another pregnancy
9/10/08 12:00
I can't agree with it. There is just something fundamentally wrong about it, I can't quite explain. I understand she will be devastated, but I think she should concentrate on helping her daughter - and herself- through this difficult time.
9/10/08 11:42
Why is it so important what the woman wants, what about the child who will want a dad only to find out he/she was concieved from a dead man, i dont think this woman is thinking about her children
9/10/08 10:03
It just doesn't sit comfortably with me, I don't think she is considering the affect it could have on child and only of herself, she already has one child that is now fatherless is it fair to do that to a second child.
9/10/08 09:49
hmmm - in this case i would say no as there is no proof that he wanted more children - for all we know she could've been pestering him for another child and he refused or a reaction to losing him so suddenly. But then it's not like it'll effect him now!
I would say yes if maybe he had a long term illness and provisions were in place "just in case" prior to his death like if he had cancer and the chances of him being fertile after if he survives are slim and there was the understanding that the sperm would be used even if he died then i would agree.
9/10/08 09:40
I agree that it appears he wanted more children... but shouldn't we assume that he wanted more children and to be alive and so to be able to be a present father to them?That's the sticking point for me.
8/10/08 22:49
The thing is, would this man of signed a consent form knwoing he was about to die? It was supposed to be a routine operation but instead went wrong and he died. He wasnt expecting at all to die so that thought to sign a consent form wouldnt of even entered his head.
The fact they was both trying to conceive beforehand shows he wanted more children and so did she and i believe that she should have that right.
8/10/08 22:38
It's a difficult one, My husband has just been diagnosed with cancer and we have frozen his sperm before he starts chemo. H e has signed a consent to say that I may use it in the event of his death.
This decision was not taken lightly, he worries about how his child would feel about this, how our daughter would feel and the impact on the extended family. In the end we decided to sign so that I have the opportunity to give our baby a blood brother or sister but whether I would actually do it is another matter.
8/10/08 19:59
I think you should be able to. However I think their should be time limits on the use of the sperm.
We at bounty believe that men should never have a say,opinion or right over anything. Therefore we summise that yes jizz should be used even if the male in questionb hasnt been asked.