No kids at weddings...
10/10/08 18:45
10/10/08 18:41
Oh my! pmsl!!!!
But back to post, i personally wouldn't take my children, i love my kids to bits, and i rarely get to go out alone. If i brought them with me i would be constanty watching them etc and if they tantrum about its embarrassing as i get all flustered. Plus i ALWAYS end up watching everyone elses kids which i hate doing.
10/10/08 18:31
We at bounty believe that it should be illegal for children to go to wedding. We are starting a petition for child kennels to provide childcare for such events.
10/10/08 18:29
She's paid in advance for the meals????
Gosh I was lucky.
I paid a deposit and gave rough numbers, and only paid afterwards based on how many there were. Although my numbers were pretty close and we'd asked the caterer to do 'too much food' and if there was any leftovers to serve them up in the evening instead of paying for a complete evening buffet - cheapskate that I am - my caterer was chuffed, because she was earning a decent amount from the food anyway and HATES waste, so was only too happy to do that.
The food was to die for. Lots of unidentifiable gorgeous 'interesting' food combined with stuff that grannies like.
10/10/08 18:04
TBH I think it's more the money side of things as she's paid for dp's meal which I totally understand and feel awful about
I've not had a reply from the email i sent (probably cos she's busy not cos she's ignoring me) so will text her over the weekend andhope she's found someone to take his place. I wouldn't dream of missing the wedding and would leave dp at home all day with ds if i had to...I don't think this is the same thing as the bm's hair - which i totally agree should be at the mercy of the bride/sister. Am gonna be a total Bridezilla when it comes to my turn so am gonna save up all my frustrations til then - and I'll have a long time to save them if dp has anything to do with it - lol! Maybe I'll get all of them to be bms and wear little bo peep costumes, complete with bonnets and sheep!! xx
10/10/08 17:35
OP I think you've done the right thing BTW.Twas the only choice you had and if Bride is upset, she probably won't be for long. If she is, then I think she'd be milking it really. Probably just has a lot on her plate.
10/10/08 17:27
I agree, it up to the brdie and groom, if mu lo's name was on the invite, i simply wouldn't take him and have someone to mind him for the day, i wouldn't sulk over it.
I am going to a wedding next month, and lo is invited, so because of this, i'm taking him.
10/10/08 17:23
It does irk me tbh that people who think kids are the best thing since sliced bread expect everyone else to as well...if people would enjoy their day better without kids then respect their choice, dont be sulky about it and imply they are cold hearted/lesser people than yourself.
The last wedding I went to (my Uncles) some brat of a kid shouted and rolled around the floor the whole way through and I had a great time going and fetching my kids back from the stairs/door/wedding cake stand- didnt get to spend anytime chatting to my family etc...so yeah it was so much fun having the kids there!! LOL
At my wedding there were no kids- and im also peeved at people saying 'how boring having no kids there' my wedding day was the best day of my life, how dare anyone imply it was 'boring' just because I didnt invite kids!
10/10/08 16:56
However, its MY problem! x (She still shouldn't get huffy with your compromise though).
no i dont think she should either!
10/10/08 16:56
As I said Bassi, its their decision not to have kids there, but I absolutely cannot see why she has any right to be upset with you. You ARE going, your dp is having the kids because childcare fell through.... So basically she is upset because your dp is not going? Seems very irrational of her really, things do fall through and you are doing the best you can to be there and comply with her wishes.
10/10/08 16:55
i know it must be hard for you to want to have your whole family there, i know if it was me id tell the bride i couldnt go due to childcare reason and take her out for a drink this wekend, see if your hubby will have the kids for an hour or two and take her out for a pre wedding drink! x
10/10/08 16:54
BB I empathise, my only babysitters (my mum and dad) have just moved 200 miles away, so I understand the problem. However, its MY problem! x (She still shouldn't get huffy with your compromise though).
10/10/08 16:52
hey I'm the OP but I'm not sure that any of these last posts are anything to do with me...
I knew months ago that kids weren't invited and only one person could do it due to the wedding being on a Friday and I actually don't have a huge number of people I can rely on to have both kids - especially as dd is at school until 3.30 and I sorted it out as soon as the date was arranged.That person then let me down on Monday with the wedding being next Friday. I have tried and tried to get someone to have both kids but I can't - even ds's nursery can't have him as they're full that day.
I'm not sure what else I could do with regards to childcare which is why I've resorted to dp not going at the expense of the b and g unfortunately
x10/10/08 16:51
i turned down being a bridesmaid after i saw the dress. i think i was 12 and it just looked hideous.
10/10/08 16:51
fpmsl! id love to see that dress!......any pics?!?! lol
10/10/08 16:50
lol cos im allowed!
i think its abit different from how you/your bridesmaids look than having no children at your wedding that coudl be half your wedding guests!
10/10/08 16:50
Not in any life damaging way... just some sad old twát rubbing my knee, but coupled with the stupid lemon dress its wasn't fun. I think I was actually more damaged by the dress!
10/10/08 16:49
omg you was touched up at 12 at a wedding?
she was prob just putting your best interests at heart after you saying you never wanted to be one again!
10/10/08 16:49
See I could understand the bride getting upset if her mate said she wasn't coming, when she could have left children with her dp. But she IS going, her childcare fell through so her dp is staying with kids... Don't see what she has a right to be upset about tbh. If we can't get a babysitter for a function without kids then one or other of us (usually whoever is closest to the person inviting us) will go while the other stays with dd, we are obviously making the effort and no one has ever got upset with us because of it. My mum works shifts so if its short notice we often can't go, things like weddings she would book day off in advance for.
10/10/08 16:48
Oh and I took GREAT delight in telling her that I m going to be BM for my best mate next year.... she wants me to look like a 'woodland nymph' OMG... I look more like an oak tree.
When my best mate gets married she has DEMANDED that my kids are there, she's their BFG (brilliant fairy godmother)... I am however a bridesmaid... its my duty to have a knees up after supporting my best mate and wearing a daft dress and being looked at all day.
So, we have booked a hotel about 50yds away from the venue... our kids will be with us til they drop, when they do drop DH will go back to the hotel with them and I am allowed to dance til dawn (which I fully intend to do). If it was DH's best mate getting h1tched then I would be on duty.