n/d but what should i say to a friend whos always picking ou bad things about my daughter
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3/7/09 09:25
I had a 'friend' like this too.
My 5 year old son has special needs (autism) and she would always come out with inappropriate comments such as "he reminds me of a Downs Syndrome child". Nothing against Downs children just that he hasn't got Downs! Would tell me how clever her son was and at the same time tell me that she thought my son was about 12 month's behind her son intellectually. Little does she know lol!
She would put my son down at every opportunity she got and in front of him. Once she said right in front of him that her son told her nobody wanted to play with him at play time (had a word with teacher and told it was a load of rubbish) and I had words with her afterwards as she really upset him before he went into class.
He is a clever boy above average for his age group but because he is autistic and she is ignorant she just assumes he is stupid.
I avoid her as much as I can now. It is difficult like you say at parties and that type of thing and for some reason she always makes a bee line for me (to start saying negative things about my son usually) as soon as she sees me.
I just move away from her at the earliest opportunity and try and get in conversation with one of the other mum's.
Don't put up with this. It is no good for your dd self esteem to be hearing such things.
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2/7/09 23:57
Thanks that totally makes sense to me xx
Also its quite obvious my dd doesnt like her.
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2/7/09 23:53
Life is too short, and time too precious to have to put up with people like this.
When you are younger you think its important, but its not. The fact that you are upset about this means its time to take action and put a stop to it. If you havent got the confidence to say something, just avoid her when you are at these gatherings.
These times when your daughter is really small are really important and will soon pass and you dont want it marred with the memories of this horrible woman.
Arrange to have gatherings but dont invite this woman, in time, other parents if they feel the same, will also stop inviting her.
At work you have to tolerate people you dont like. In your social life, you dont. People are always judgemental and you will come across it all the time.
Sounds hard I know but you have to think of you.
heidih
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2/7/09 23:43
she is part of our group of friends, im not keen on her but have been trying. she also is always b***ing about others peoples children to me which i think is wrong. oviously i cant say anthing but wonder if anyone else has noticed ho she is. she comes across as very uneducated to me!
think im going to have to avoid her will be hard as shes always "there" at other friends houses and parties ect. makes me upset my dd is such a lovely girl.
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2/7/09 23:40
being shy not being she
sorry its late
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2/7/09 23:38
ah children are so perceptive!
could point out to her your daughter tends to be less shy around others who do not make a deal out of her being she or the way she is
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2/7/09 23:38
I have a friend who a few months ago was saying some awfull things that would leave me so upset every time i saw her. I tryed to talk to her about it and she just kept on going. In the end I cut her out my life for a while. eventualy she realised just how upset I was and appologised and we've started to see each other again
Sometimes you have to do whats right for you and if talking doesn't work drop her as a friend
She is always making comments, my daughter is shy and is not keen on her like she is my other friends, so she sits on my lap or will just be shy around her. Also my dd is clever but is behind on speech but she keeps saying my dd is slow. She treats my dd like she the only toddler who has problem sharing sometimes and has a mind of her own. Basically she is always negative about my daughter and it gets on my nervous. But she loves my son an is always lovely about him.
Should i just say something next time she comes out with one of her delights? Sometimes i feel like i could snap at her. I will see her at toddler group tomorrow and im not sure i can put up with anymore. What should i do?