if this is the first pregnancy between you - I'm not surprised. I think men can be the biggest babies. Only a marginal few will be as supportive as you want them to be. Mine was awful. This is our 3rd pregnancy, and although he's handling it better than the 1st two, he's still not quite there. Not sure what comes over them. All of a sudden they feel a burden to handle some responsibility on their own without us to back them up, and we're to blame! Duh! I don't think they'll ever see how much we actually go through during this time stright after the baby is born. But I think it will gradually get better once they see that you are physically doing something & not just sitting on our asses or sleeping all day (which is what they imagine we do). Not that they will turn into reliable and responsible partners - now that would be a miracle! Sorry, can't offer you anymore advice. Its reality for some of us....

We've had a long chat and he's promised he wouldn't just pack his job in. He said he feels like he's letting me and the baby down because he can't provide lots while I'm on maternity and he's worried that him not earning enough would force me back to work early which he says he doesn't want. He's also feeling bad that he can't drive and I'm starting to worry about getting to hospital when I go in to labour, especially if baby comes early i.e. new years eve and he's working an overnight shift. I've  told him that I think the root of it all is his unhappiness at work and he needs to change jobs if he's so unhappy rather than be nasty to me. Since our chat he's been really nice and made me a lovely dinner and apologised to my friend so I'm feeling a lot better now and my friend gave me cheque for £200 to get something for the baby, I'm so overwhelmed I can't believe how generous that was, it will help so much.

I completely agree with Carlymoon.  He's being a complete baby.  He needs reminding that  you might be the one carrying the baby but it is very much both of yours. Talking of leaving his job doesn't sound like he's facing up to the responsibilites of being a father.

If he won't listen to you when you try to tell him how you feel perhaps writing it down for him will help. Let him read it when you are not around and give him time to digest it.

How can a grwon mad be jealous of mat leave!!! I bet if it was the other round - you going back to work and him staying home to look after the baby all day - he wouldn't be so keen on it then!

why on earth is he being such an idiot over your maternity leave, tell him to bloody grow up you need his help and support not him being an idiot and upsetting you and threatening to quit his job when you need it most!!! he sounds incredibly childish hun, I wouldnt be able to put on a front and sit and be civil with him this afternoon I'd wake him up and tell him he either sorts it now or your not going anywhere! and make him listen cause he's being so out of order! maybe he should start thinking of you and his baby! Jealous of maternity leave I have never heard anything so ridiculous!xx

Is anyone else feeling completely unsupported by their oh, mine is being awful to me at the moment, he hasn't bought a single thing for the baby, its all come out of my money and he keeps saying he's going to hand his notice in at work cos he hates it. He's obviously very jealous that I'll get maternity leave and I'm worried he'll put his notice in just to force me to go back to work early then he has an excuse not to get another job. He had a complete go at me last night when we were having dinner with one of my best friends which was so embarrasssing for her and me. If we had been alone I would have left the room and had nothing to do with him until he changed his attitude but I felt I couldn't do that with my friend staying. He's had another go at me this morning in front of one of his friends and accused me of being really negative about having a baby. He's the one who keeps on talking as if he regrets us getting pregnant. As soon as our visitors left, they are doing Great North Run, I confronted him about how he was treating me and told him it's really upsetting me and he just went to bed. I've spent all morning crying, he's just slept and we have to meet our friends in a pub about one when they'll finish the race. I know he'll wake up and make no effort to sort things out and we'll have to put on a false front until they leave. I'm really angry with him for making me feel so stressed and laying all the blame with me.