iv got my scan on monday adn i still cant decide if i want to know the sex
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- iv got my scan on monday adn i still cant decide if i want to know the sex
8/10/08 13:29
8/10/08 12:53
I did not find out with ds and am/was convinced that it was the right thing for us to do at the time. I thought I would leave it a surprise this time for many reasons and yet I like the idea of knowing and bonding earlier as I find I am less interested in my pregnancy this time as I was first time around. I also think it is a nice half way treat to find out and it will be a new experience for us. Lastly it will be nice for ds to know exactly whether he is expecting a brother or sister. For that reason I think I have come full circle this time and now want to know.
I think there is no right or wrong and I am sure all will be happy with whichever decision they make. I don't know anyone that has wished they did the opposite to what they chose at the time.
I have my scan Friday.
8/10/08 12:41
Well had my scan on 6th and decided to find out and we are having a boy! Can start looking at blue now!!
1/10/08 18:08
congratulations hun!!
me and dp done the envelope thing, got home and lasted about 10 minutes before we tore it open and proceeded to call everyone rather sheepishly and tell them we have no self control and had to look lol and to report that we have a little boy bump
claire 21 wks
1/10/08 16:03
i decided to find out and im havin a girl im so please even tho i was convinced it was a boy. its really nice being able to say her instead of it and knowing i can but all the lovely pink things.
25/9/08 09:36
Iv got my scan today at 3pm, i think im 90% sure i want to do the envelope thing!!!! Wish me luck. Im a nervous wreak!!! xx
25/9/08 09:28
I love the envelope idea, I would like another girl for my daughters sake and for cheapness! But would be happy with a boy too. I can't make up my mind to find even tho' hubby says we should find out. Might do the envelope idea but not tell anyone if I find out. Soooo many decisions!!!!! Went into Baby Gap on saturday and kept thinking...if only I knew............................
24/9/08 21:03
Hi all. If you are really unsure about finding out, just get them to write it down and put it in an envelope. That way, if you want to find out, you will have thought it through properly and not have that one moment to say yes or no and even if you decide not to, it will be mice to open after the birth to see if it was right. GL in whatever you decide to do and hope your scans go well. x
24/9/08 21:02
I am the same dh wants to find out so we can prepare dd so she is prepared, my mum keeps saying find out because you can get loads in the Janurary sales. One minute I want to find out and then next I don't. We didn't with dd and I was really pleased at thebirth as I really wanted a girl. This time I am not botherd but a girl would be cheaper as I have all the clothes.
Knowing my luck if we decide to find out baby will probably have legs crossed so we can't tell. I have to wait agaes for scan too it's not till the 28th October that ages away
24/9/08 20:54
I have the same problem!! My dd is 11 months and we didn't find out the sex with her although i had 6 scans and towards the end was so tempted to find out but we waited till she was born and i am so so glad we did wait. My dp was the one who told me she is a girl and that was the most special moment.
I have my scan on Tuesday and dp really wants to find out but i'm not so sure. I don't know why but when i was preg with dd i really wanted her to be a girl but this time i'd love a boy. I'm worried that if baby is a girl maybe it'd take ages to get used to that wheras if we don't find out and bubs is a girl then who cares. She'll be right in front of me and i'd accept it straight away i know i would.
Dp keeps saying we should find out so we can prepare but in all honesty what do we need to prepare....we still have everything from dd and we've got plenty of neutral babygro's, vests etc. We honestly don't need a thing before the baby is born apart from the obvious hospital stuff!
I did say to him tho that if the person doing the scan can tell for sure either way then i don't mind him/her telling dp after the scan as long as i don't know. That way if i change my mind before baby is born and don't get to have any more scans i could still find out!!!
Ria 19+6
24/9/08 20:15
HELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP.............
omg i need help i hae scan 2moz and i really c ant decide wat to do.... i say find out so can prepare buy pink or blue but then part of me saying u have 2 dd's 1 ds so dont matter wat sex as long as baby healthy of course but if i ask will i regret askin n wanting to experience a surprise or do i not ask then walk out of there regrettin it not knowing till the birth????? i really dont know wht to do i ask df he says its entirely up to me
24/9/08 17:02
Hiya hun scan is tues and i really want to find out!!! Its not just me though all my kids and dh are dying to know too so think i'd be in big trouble if i didnt find out lol I dont mind what im having but my kids want to know so they know who is going to have to share their bedrooms lol
I didnt find out with my eldest but i did with my youngest 2 and def prefer knowing! Its nice to think of them as a little boy/girl rather than an it but thats just me so goodluck in whatever you decide xx
24/9/08 16:52
I have my scan on Monday as well, I did not find out with my dd and did not want to but this time I just cant decide, so hubby and I have taken the desicion that if they can tell clearly then we will find out, I think he just wants to know if he is going to have with loads of women!!!
Good Luck Monday x
24/9/08 13:16
now i think i really want to know lol
24/9/08 12:40
see i' the kind of person who huntpresents opens and rewraps thingsas i can't stand not knowing andi didn't find out last time as i thought a surprise wuld be nice and i personally hatedi t soo much lol and itmade no difference to how i felt at delivery (i found out with my first 2) this time when they couldn't confrm at m 20 week scn i was t the private clinic 2 days later finding out and i have 20 weeks of excited shopping to buy pink lol m dh wasn't bothered he said whts wrong with getting white??? so its not just a man thig
so i guess it depends i you like surprises if you love the build up and anticipation of things then i would wait but if you hate it then find out
24/9/08 12:34
I was exactly the same as you, couldnt decide at all, it was doing my head in!!! i have experienced both finding out the sex, with dd, and not finding out, with ds. I wouldnt say it made much difference knowing or not knowing as they were both still the most amazing experiences, seeing what my babies looked like, meeting them for the first time.
Anyway, i decided last minute outside the hospital with this bump not to find out, we got called in and i was rearraniging my trousers about to get on the bed when DH chirped up 'can we find out the sex' !!! well blow me, i didnt get chance to say boo pmsl at the end of the scan she asked me and i agreed to find out (my hubby and daughter were so excited how could i say no lol) and im soooo glad i did find out as we were told we were having another little boy, and i wasnt expecting to feel how i did, i was shocked, i didnt know how to feel (my first ds died 14mnths old), guess i got scared etc... anyways a couple hours later after my moment of sillyness i was ecstatic and really happy and now im so excited to be having another son.
Guess this time my hubbys decision to find out was right for us, and im so glad i did, i cant bear the thought of me feeling how i did at the birth, finding out i had a boy then, and then possibly havin bonding issues etc
the only thing thats totally doin my head in now is finding a name for him ARRRGGGH!!!!
if ur really stuck Jus leave the decision till your lying on the bed, then decide yes or no that way you wont have time to change ur mind lol xx
24/9/08 12:33
Reading these replies and from my own relationship it seems that its definitley a guy thing to want to find out the sex at the scan. My partner can't wait to find out and has talked me into it. At first I didn't want to know but now I can't wait to find out. We already have our names so it will make it all the more exciting when I start buying stuff. My scan is next Weds - a week to go and I am so excited! Amy 20+4
24/9/08 12:28
hi, I am also pg with first baby and have been debating whether to find out or not, but i have decided that i want it to be a surprise. i know it seems strange when the technology is there to tell u what sex it is, but can u imaging how exciting it is not knowing what the sex is until it comes out! i also don't want to know coz i'm supersticious and don't want to start giving the baby a name and acting as though its already here before its even born....good luck with what everyone decides though!
dounya 18+1
24/9/08 12:12
the only reason i want the surprise is because when i had my daughter it was kinda the same feeling as when u already know what your getting for xmas. but i am also very impatient and my other half wants to know i think im jus gonna have to see how i feel when im acctually there.
24/9/08 12:08
My scan is on Monday too & am sooooooo tempted to find out! This is my first baby so I think I will keep it as a supprise!
We'll have to see on the day, DH really wants to know, but I think I would love the supprise after the 9 months & labour!
Amy 20+1 xx
congratulations. i found out yesterday im having a boy and really glad i did. its helped me bond more and given the baby an identity other than it. u can also get every thing ready xxxxxxxx