oh its just horried isnt it,  i'm very sorry about your mother, this is what annoys me, heaven forbid people should have emargency sits were the dog poo gets left, or you return home late, or your child is sick, or the babys crying.  hell thats life, sorry we can't all be perfect like our f*****g naibors.

And i think thats a great idea, i'll just go over there heads and avoid the conflict with them. Its not going to help getting my blood pressure up.

And with a bit of luck i'll come charging down the stairs at 4am well into labour, screaming my head of in pain (they gona tell on me for needing an ambulance oh i'm playing the worlds smallest violin, labour or not i cant disturb there sleepy weepys)

sorry i'm getting sarci now, i'll stop, unlike them i dont set out to bother people.

thank you for your reply, i really do feel better (well as much as i can)

i know exactly how u feel aaargh - my neighbours a b*** and i live in a house - the walls are paper thin.shes reported me to the policve for apparently beating my daughter (they checked her body and no marks obviously),reported to social services (andthey did a thorough report and obviously theres no prob - apart from when i said her name they said she was well known for reporting ppl),then housing ass on a cpl occasions.same as u,some of the things have been pathetic,and if all truth be told i've had just as much to complain about,but i don't feel like i should.she reported me for dog poo in the garden,but the reason it was left was cos we got called away for over a wk cos my partners mum took a turn for the worst and actually died and then we had to arrange funeral,this was 200 odd miles away - last thing on my mind when rush packing was cleaning up the garden.and she reported me for noise cos i came back at 4am after a night out,and went straight to bed.reported for a party too i forgot,which ended well before midnight.funny thing was she had a hot tub party the wk before til 3am,and believe me that makes noise.she's put a letter thru my door about the dog left alone his first day here,and her dog ewas out the other night til midnight friggin barking!!!then the other night,my daughter had been sick every night for 3 nights,off school v ill for a wk.at 11pm my partner jumped in the shower after he cleaned up her sick,and my daughter was crying (obv) and she banged on the wall - this isn't the 1st time either,she bangs on the wall when we go up the stairs sometimes.......well its got to the point when something happens now i phione the housin ass and tel em.they said they're happy that i'm livin my life as i should and certainly not being a nuisance as apparently is bein made out.we were offered mediation,anout the noise,she refused to the mediator sayin it was a case of abuse,which was rubbish and i think every1 involved was confused...well i accepted it but obv didn't go ahead cos she didn't.social services saidnow they're aware of the situ ononymous calls would be discussed with me but not takin v seriously as now they're aware of the situ.i am sick of it.i've been round there,so has my partner and she just isn't goin to stop.we're havin another baby too,she's not goin to be impressed with a baby cryin at 3am haha.we were thinkin of moving to a bigger house,but i really like the area i live in,and ppl round here r lovely generally.i don't see why i should move for her i really don't.i've been here much longer and had no complaints before.we even stopped havin gatherings this yr (usually bout 6 ppl at these and leave round 10/11),and rarely go up town on a night out anyway so these complaints r pintless...i'm sick of it but she won't push me out.

you might find discussing this matter with the local council beneficial to you,and explaining ur situ.i found thhat i was sooo angry ad really worried about them moving me somewhere else,but if you're honest and tell them what's goin on they'll be better able to help u.the housing ass have been great really,altho there's nothing they can do to help me,just tell me to report anything that i think she might complain about then they're aware of the situ,but i'm less worried now,and i'm glad they're satisfied i'm just 'living' not being a nuisance - i'm not a bad neighbour,we're loud as in we've all got big mouths lol,but we rarely listen to music,we rarely go out,rarely have ppl over,don't bang on the walls doin diy at all hours....u get the jist!!!   i hate busy bodies!!! oh and grasses (altho to be a grass i think means tellin on ppl who've actually done something???)

I'm so sorry you had such a bad time, I feel kind of silly now knowing its not as bad as that, but its nice to know i'm not the only one whos suffered bad naboirs.  I guess i'm really deffencive at the moment, this is my first baby i waited 4 years for it and natrully i want everything right, and when thats not happening i feel frightened and think of the worst possible out come.  This location is ideal because i'm disabled as well and my mum, dad and other family are just a stones throw away. i also suffer with anxsity issues and this is an ideal quiet place.

I also just get low because people look down on my situation in their eyes i'm lazy pregnant none working scrounger, when thats not it at all, i REALLY miss work, and would traid anything to get rid of my health problems.  I hate being juged, but i guess not matter what your situation people will have there oppinion.

thanks for replying, i really needed to get it off my chest   I'm off for my scan now.

WOO HOO

Hi hun.  I really feel for you.  I used to be in a similar situation but we lived in a housing association flat.  It was a block of 6 with 2 flats on each floor.  We were at the top above a totally insane lady.  She was fine when we first moved in, it was a new build and we all moved in at the same time.  Once me and dh got married she got all funny, following him about and always being were we were.  It got nasty in the end, she'd keep ringing the police at 2am saying dh was beating me up and we'd be woken but the police trying to bash the door down etc.  Constatly making complaints about us making a noise and threatening her.  To be honest she was so insane she scared me and i did all i could to aviod her.  My dh is a retained fireman and she'd lock herself out her flat and call the friebridge and then refuse to allow dh in with the crew.  last straw was when i was 11 weeks pregnant with my first, she tried to push me down the stairs for turning the hall way lights off.  They were on a timer to save us all electric money as we paid for it, but the light switch was stuck.  Anyway, the police finally stepped in and got us moved to a house away from her and its lovely to be away from her.  I felt like she'd won tho but truth is we moved from a 2nd floor 1 bed flat to a 2 bed house with a drive and garden.  I guess thats not an option for you as its private but the advice i would give is to avoid any confrontation with them, be nice, polite and say hello when you pass.  Do nothing to give them amo (not saying you wold) but with these types it doesnt take much to wind them up.  maybe even approach them and agree a rota system for hoovering the hallway.  I hope everything turns out ok and its just teeth probs with them hun.  Good luck.

I live in a small block of flats, which consists of 4 flats.  I lived in one of the upstairs flats for over a year,  but had a horrible land lady who wouldn't sort out the mold problem or leaky toilet etc...now our naibour had a stroke and could no londer manage the stairs, long story short we ended up renting off her because we loved the area and didn't really want to go far.

I have been living at my mum's for a week whilst she was on holiday and cared for her pets, when i came back someone had moved in to our old flat which is directly opposite.  Apart from hoping there decent people (as you do) i didn't think much of it.  Now the annoying thing about living here is their is a privet council, who if you make too much noise or cause problems have the right to deny your tency agreement.

since i have been back i have been woken up a minimum of 3 times a night by these new people thudding up and down the stairs and slamming doors.  Its really been upseting me but haven't had the time to put in a complaint.  We found out tonight that they have put in a complaint about us because the landing we share hasn't been hovered.

First of all i'm not cleaning the crap left by them after they've dragged there furniture up the stairs.  Second, apart from being really busy, pregnant, sore and tired the past couple of weeks i do normaly hover the landing not to mention go over it with the carpet cleaner once a month.

I just feel so wound up were mad out to be the bad guys.  i feel like screaming and pulling my hair out sometime

what should i do? P.S sorry for long post.