Just for you ladies that weren't aware, if you are not married and you want dp on the baby's birth certificate as the daddy, he has to come and register the birth with you. If you married you can register baby on your own. 

If you do eventually get married, as we did after missy arrived, you also have to reregister baby's birth!

My dd has my surname and her dad isn't on her birth certificate. We did this at the time cos we were unsure of our future. We did eventually split, but when she was 6 lol. I knew we would not be together forever so would never have given her his surname. I wanted to give ds (with new dp) dp's surname but he wasn't sure for some bizarre reason so he had mine name. Then two weeks later he changed his mind and we changed his surname to dp's via deedpole. It was about £50 I think. It doesn't mean anything - you just have to show two different certificates whenever anyone wants to see his birth certificate.The new lo will have dp's surname straight away.

I'm absolutely +ve that we'll get married someday so will change dd's name to her dad's surname as an extra middle name and dp's surname as her surname. We do have a reasonable relationship with her dad (she sees him every week) so it will make sense for her to have his name but also dp's as he is more like her dad on a daily basis anyway. We can't double barrel any of them because all our names are far too long. It would be painful lol...I will be sad to see my name go though xxx

ooooh just remembered that I think it was posted under Debates or another thread that if you get married to your baby's father and the baby doesn't have his surname, then you can change their surname to his for free?? Not sure if that's right or not but def read it somewhere on here... xx

My ds has my dp sir name as we have always said we would marry one day. 41/2 years later still single. my condition of another baby was to be married before it was born so fingers crossed I'll be a Mrs. before the years out. Nikki 12+6

double barrelling is really common now (we have 2 married girls in our office who double barrelled their names recently). It depends on the names, I would never have double barrelled mine as it would sound ridiculous (Sowter-Halliday, errrm Noooooo). My friend gave her ds her married name (obviously) but now her ex-h is no longer in their life she still can't change his name to her new family name. This is an extremely strange case though. My relative changed her kids name by deed pole to her name after her partner absconded.

If I wasn't married, I'd want the baby to have my name or (if not too long) double-barrelled.

It's not really just his decision is it, so I think you should stick to your guns. It sounds as if you've gone half-way and offered to have a double-barrelled surname and I think that unless you WANT your baby to have your boyfriends surname, you have done all you can.

When I was pregnant with my 1st I only ever thought she would have my dp surname! never even thought about double barralling it, so this baby will have his surname aswell, sorry I know its not much help but hunnie you stick to what you want as its your baby as much as his, x

Hi,
A friend of mine's first born has her then boyfriend (now husbands) surname but has her surname as a second middle name.  His name sounds double barrelled because of the middle name but now they're married, they just use the surname.
There second born on has his surname and not hers as a middle name.
I think she did this because she wasn't sure on their future at the time.
I do agree with the previous poster though that he might be feeling insecure if you choose not to use his name.  This could cause problems in the future if you were to marry and have more children together.
My neighbours have a 1 year old and she has her daddy's name.  He has told his OH that he has no intention of getting married and if she wants to have the same name as him and their daughter tehn she will need to change it by deed poll.  In fairness to him, he has always said that he doesn't want to get married so she has known this before she had a child with him!
If it were me, personally I would use the fathers surname and use my surname as a second middle name.  
x x x
 

Just to put a different perspective - maybe he feels that you not wanting them to have his surname means that you are not certain about your future with him? Maybe he feels insecure as he thinks it means that you don't see yourself marrying him? Men can be odd and have trouble expressing themselves xxx

You could be extra sneaky..... my freind gave her kids what her dp thought was double barrelled but actually gave them his surname as extra middle name.  So they legally only have her surname.  To this day he still doesn't know! lol.  Cheeky or what!

Hi there, my kids will all have their fathers surname as we fully intend to get married in the future. However if worst should happen and we don't get married....I will change my name to the same as his (you can do this by deed poll for 40 pounds if you have a good enough reason). It depends on how everyone feels about names? I am old fashioned and believe in children taking their fathers name but at the same time I hate not having the same name as my kids and will definately change it one way or the other. Maybe if you don't want to get married one of you could change your surname so that all your families name is the same? It's a tough one really as things don't always go the way they should. But as pp said I would stick to your guns and make sure you are both happy with the decision made. hth xxx

Hi there im from dif and wanted to reply to your post, hun.

Me and dp had this row with my first, we ended up having double barrelled as it was fair to us both then, keep bugging him am sure he will give in soon x

Lyndsey 18+1

hi there, i'm not married to my OH and neither of us is really interested in marriage anyway but the children have his surname, we live together as if we were married and its only my name that says or shows that we aren't, i wasn't too sure about which surname to give my first but OH really wanted him to have his name so i didn't have a problem with it at all, then when i had my 2nd she was only ever going to get the same surname as my son and i'm now preg with my 3rd, we went through a bad patch just before i fell preg and if i had got my bfp and we weren't together i would've given the new baby his name too whether he was there when baby was registered or not, hope i've not waffled too much, lol, would it be possible to use one of the surnames as more of a middle name rather than having a double-barrelled surname?? obviously that would depend on what your surnames are, lol, good luck with whatever you decide hun, xxx

i have a different surname to my mum, unfortunatly you cant plan ahead for everything! i take it your bf diesnt want double barrelled?

hi my 2 kids from my previous relationship and they 2 have there dads surname.we never married but still i had no problems with them having it.this baby is having my df surname,we are planning on getting married but if we never did i am still happy for our baby to have his name.not much help i know but i guess u have to do what u feel is for the best

but if i do it double barreled that way baby x can use which ever it likes because you dont no what way things could swing i dont want us to split up one day and my child hasnt got same last name as me i really am confuse this is my first so i dont no if im right or not arrg

well i have a similar thing with ds, but i decided quite easily to have his surname, coz i intend on getting married (and am getting married) to him, so aiden will be a davis then anyway! so i guess if you think one day you will be married to him, go with his surname, so you dont have to change it later! hth x

hello,

i am havin a problem me and my bf are havein silly arguments about our unborn babys sir name im thinking about double barreled now but he still dont want none of it what should i do please someone give me some advice x