Husband has problem with wieght gain
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8/10/08 20:25
8/10/08 20:18
Michelle my husband is exactly the same. He never really tells me that he doesnt like me putting on weight but i know he hates it. Im currently on baby no3. I put on loads of weight with my first growing from a size 10 to a size 14/16 after baby was born. I really struggled to lose weight. I then had another baby with only losing little weight. I really watched what i ate and managed to be the same size after as i was before.
I am so paranoid that my husband doesnt find me attractive. Its an added pressure i dont really need especially when you have first had your baby. I wish i had watched my weight more with my first cause i definatly think i would have enjoyed the first few months of my babys birth.
If you look on any site about eating and pregnancy they tell you this is the ideal time to adopt a healthy eating plan. Make sure you are getting everything you need from every food group. Dont watch calories its a myth you need to consume more calories, it nutrition you need, and your baby.
I dont think my husband is a idiot for liking me too look good. He still loves me just preferres me to look slimmer. To be honest i dont think i would like it if my husband pilled on 3 stone!!! Id tell him to hit the gym. We love our partners but what attracted us to them in the first place is what they looked like right???
Sorry if anyone doesnt agree xx
8/10/08 17:11
my dh thought it was hilarious in my last pregnancy when I got to the same weight as him. But it was never an issue for him and certainly liked the other assets that come with the big belly. I forgot how big your boobs get. He's loving it this time to. I love getting fat, worry about it later :0)
8/10/08 15:23
my sentiments exactly crapnickname, im usally 10 n half stone roughly and a size 10-12 ive put on 3lbs so far but hubby wouldnt care tbh as its his child im putting weight on for cause im looking after baby and nuitureing it, id tell him to stick his opinions where the sun dont shine and more some...
8/10/08 15:17
Katywoo, this is the same for me lol... my dh has put a stone on since I fell pregnant and I only put 3lb on up to now hehe..he LOOKS 16 weeks pregnant but I dont have bump yet lol he also suffered from sickness, cravings and I caught him getting emotional the other day at Eastenders, tears and everything lol...how strange!! As for the girl that started this thread, dont let him get to you, I DONT understand some men...bless you, as though you aint got enough to think about than your weight gain.. xx
8/10/08 14:49
Oh hunni so sorry to hear that. Are you sure he feels this way or do you just think he feels this way? It might be a good idea to sit down and have a heart to heart and just say you are really upset that he may not fancy you anymore when youve put weight on, you never know he might tell you that your being daft anyway! And if he doesnt well then your conversation can lead onto you explaining to him that is natural blah blah and tell him to stop being so shallow.
It quite funny actually as since i got pregnant my dh has put on almost a stone through me demanding takeaways and treats - so he has now decided he is on a diet! lol!
xx
8/10/08 14:48
It sounds like your married to a complete tw@t !
8/10/08 14:47
Aww thats really mean of him! You have to put on weight 1 the baby is not going to be the size of a peanut!! and 2 you need to lay down some fat reserves for the baby, your body will start storing it ready for breastfeeding (if thats what you choose). It'll soon come off after the baby is born but in the meantime you should feel under no pressure to maintain your size - it would be nigh on impossible and dangerous for you and the baby. Men!!!!!!!!!!!!
8/10/08 14:44
LOL
8/10/08 14:41
Tell him he looks fat then see what he says. haha xx
8/10/08 12:02
OMG!!!! Don't want to upset you anymore then you already are but how awful!!! maybe you should bring him on here and let him read what people think.
With my DS I put on 5 STONE!!!! and that was due to serve swelling. I looked like a blown up beachball and my DP was just amazing and although I looked and felt like sh!t I was complimented every single day
.Don't feel any pressure, eat what you what when you want and enjoy this pregnancy as much as possible.
8/10/08 10:55
Sorry to say it but he is being very shallow and mean. Unfortunately people just dont get pregnant and not put weight on. Basically i think you should tell him its a silly thing to say and he just has to live with it. My other half hasn't got aq prob with my weight gain its me who dreads putting it on. He loves the bump.
I think is a very immature thing to say to a pregnant women. especially one who is a fine weight anyway. You feel pressured by yourself to not gain too much so you definately dont need it off your partner as well.
8/10/08 10:54
Im the same as you nicky - Im normally size 14/16 and get upset with all the progs of skinny women with no stretch marks looking beautiful but my DF says exactly the same - im beautiful, sexy and he adores me and everything we share and that i have given him, he loves me and will never stop and loves my body changing when im pregnant, especially the boobs
- also gives him the chance to call me big mamma without getting a slap hehe!!I would definitely not lilsten to such a selfish man and enjoy your pregnancy..... it is such a special time and you will always lose weight when baby born
8/10/08 10:45
I too would have some rather colourful words.
Dh doesn't give a crap what size I am, he really couldn't care less cos he loves and fancies me regardless...
I remember getting upset when watching a film full of skinny women shortly after dd was born cos I was flabby and covered in stretch marks... He said that I have given him everything, a family and a home which we have made together and that no other woman in the world was as beautiful as me as the gifts I have given him are his whole world. He said he had always had immense respect for me but after seeing me give birth to his daughter he is in awe of me and forever overwhelmed by what I have done for him.
Don't take any notice, that shallow attitude needs checking, once you have had his child he will see that your body is amazing, HE can't grow humans now can he? Pregnancy is what your body was designed for, and ultimately men's attraction to women comes from a need to pro create. He will come round i'm sure.... maybe he is projecting his fears about becoming a father onto you? (like the bigger you get the closer he gets to his life changing forever? - just a thought ) xxxx
8/10/08 10:37
I'd have to agree with Jenny. I'd certainly have a few choice words for him!! I'm a 14/16 and my other half loves the fact that my belly is growing and of course my assets. He loves how i am and how i'm becoming and tells me daily...awww bless him, i've just realised how nice my OH actually is at times ha ha. So if i were you i'd just remind him that it is partly down to him for teh reason of your growth and if you didn't gain weight he should actually be concerned!.
Men! they can be proper ********* at times!!
Stacey x
8/10/08 10:28
hi hun, i think ur husbands bieng a bit mean, u carnt go through ur whole preg n feel worried bout puttin on weight!!! ur nice n slim anyway, my bf loves the fact im gunna get a huge bump, im the 1 who doesnt wanna put weight on, if its any reasurance in my last preg i put on 5lbs, n this preg ive lost 2 stone,due 2 morn sickness, but im not as slim as u at all, just enjoy ur preg n enjoy eating what u fancy!!! xxxx
8/10/08 10:16
You should tell him he should feel immensly proud of you, the fact your weight gain and bump is due to you carrying his child...
You wont be fat for long, so he will just have to lump it
Some people take ages to lose the weight (Like me...lol), and others are back in their old clothes straight away.
Just eat healthy, lots of fruit and veg, and try and eat 3-5 small meals a day rather than 3 big meals
Try stay away from full fat drinks, etc and you should be fine
I just eat like a pig right now and I dont care lol
8/10/08 10:14
jenny - i was thinking the same thing haha, just didnt wanna say it..... poor girl must be up the wall tho and last thing she needs at such an important time!
8/10/08 10:13
Well, I know what I would tell your DH but it's not actually allowed on bounty so I will keep it to myself!! Tell him to carry around a baby in his stomache for 9 months and not put on weight! Men are sooooo stupid sometimes.
8/10/08 09:51
oh dear - theres no getting away from the fact ur gonna put weight on hun... Ur gonna be carrying a baby and the last thing you need to do is worry bout weight gain. U should be eating an extra 300 cals a day whilst pregnant too. I think your husband sounds a bit selfish....... (sorry to say)
Would your husband not prefer a healthy baby and you to put on a bit of weight which will easily come off after the birth or have you worrying and not eating because your scared of putting on weight and risk the health of your baby????
PLease do not worry bout putting on weight - enjoy your pregnancy and eat what you fancy..... baby will love it
x x x
what an odd thing to be worrying about. surely he should be worrying about having a healthy baby rather than you gaining weight? i'd have a serious talk with him and explain that gaining weight is what happens to pregnant women, and if you don't eat you'll be denying your baby of the vital nutrients it needs to grow!
you don't necessarily get fat anyway, just have a lovely bump
you need to enjoy your pregnancy and not be worrying about weight gain. i put on nearly 3 stone last time but didn't really look any different (apart from the enormous bump!) and dp loved it!!
hope you get things sorted x