jay, sorry about your twins angels ((hugs)), i bet your others keep you on your toes a lot and bring smiles a plenty into your home!

cathy, i just love love your advice re the chocolate will go stock up today, though won't be good fo rmy diet and the weight***chers lady might not agree with you, but i thing its a fab idea, thnks for sharing it

we will all cope, its all part and parcel of being women, inbuilt so to speak. challenging and at times tiring, but so very rewarding!

can you see any of the men coping with all we do as well

had twin daughters that passed, 10months later had ds, 14months later hsad dd and due again, 10 months gap, then 14mpnths then 13 months

Im going to be 33 this december. I think if i was younger i would find it harder. Iv mellowed with time lol. I panic too in the middle of the night when it dark and quiet how will i cope, will i manage, will i end up in the funny farm. Thing is we all manage, we all cope and get on with it because we have to. I take it day by day and if i have a really bad day i eat chocolate. It really works but you have to cram loads in at a time. Do it in private tho my DH was horrified to see his wife with choccy all round her gob lol.

Hi Ammie dont panic. The first thing i thought when i found out was termination. When you think about it how do you feel about having an abortion. I found the thought of a termination more upsetting than keeping the baby. The trouble is, its very difficult to stay objective when your hormones are racing. If you boyfriend is willing to support you and is good to you, why not. 2 failed marriges does not mean this one will fail, 3rd time lucky and all that. I had only been with my DH 3 mths when i got pregnant with 2nd son and we been happily married for 3 years now. How old are you?

Hello, im new on here and really needing some advice! Ive just found out yesterday that im expecting another child. The others are 13,11 and 2. I have two failed marriages behind me, and only been seeing my bf for 3 months!! What the hell do i do??? My bf says he will stick by me wotever we decide to do. My job and flat are safe, but i went to see my mum and thought i could get some advice from her, and the first thing she suggested was that it would be better for me to get an abortion. That upset me, but is she right? To be honest, i dont think i could get one, its not the babies fault and no matter how things turn out with my new bf, im already a single mum of 3 with a full time job, could i cope with one more??

Any advice would be great as im feeling quiet scared and alone at the moment!

Thanks xxxx

aimie

hi im liz im 37 i currently have 4 kids jordan 11, hayden 9, josh 3 and ellie-may 2 and pregnant with 5th so i have my hands full too, and im wondering how i will cope but i think we just do, josh was 4 months when i fell with ellie-may so around the same sort of time but she was planned, and they get on great, the older to figh 24/7 they have 23 months between them, but im just really worried about everything this time its just an age thing i think how old are you? x

hey hun i feel ur pain lol im 27yrs old and i have 4 kids and am on my 5th mine are harry 7 in 2 wks jodie is 3yrs tillie is 2 yrs and benjamin is 6 months so my house as urs is very busy and loud lol if u need 2 chat at any time im here hun

i also have a husband in a million and i know that i wud not cope without him even tho he is self employed taxi driver and he does split shifts so we never really see each other but we do try to make time once a month like go for a meal or cinema or sumthing like that

hope ur well and i beleive that u will cope as will i

stacey xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Suprise bump i can totally empathise. It can be hard trying to juggle them at the same time, and it does seem to be my eldest that suffers, tho i try, he can be difficult as he is 12 and we live in the country so he goes out with his friends most off the time but even 10 mins every day just chatting seems to content Tom as sometime he only wants me on his terms. Its difficult for him as he has a different dad to the others and he was 9 when my next was born but he has adapted really well. Parenting teenagers and toddlers at the same time is totally mind bending.

We have not told anyone yet. Can you believe im a married 33yr old woman and am scared as to what my mother is going to say. She was not to chuffed about my last baby and he was planned so god knows what she will say about this. MIL prob wont be very pleased either. Even tho we are grown up, parents still think they have a right to lecture, i really hope im not like that.  I can understand their concern but we are not kids anymore we are in our 30's.  We going to wait for the scan before we tell people and we decided we are not going to find out what it is. Its our little suprise accident so it seem right we have a suprise at the end this time.

i can totally see why you would worry about your eldest, but it'll help build their charater! It may seem hard now, but as soon your lo is born youll wonder why you worried so much! Have you told your other kids yet??  I remember being so excited every time my mum got pregnant and i loved being the oldest!

tinker, some things are just meant to be aren't they and I bet Christmas and Birthdays at your home must be wonderfully fun

Good for your daughter doing so well!

yes but your eldest, will have the pick of the women when he grows up and proves what a dab hand he is with helping

Seriously though, I am sure it will be fine, I am also a bit concerned that I will need to make some time where my soon to be 5 yr old and I get to spend some one on one time, as he had me to himself for 4 yrs, now not only to share with his sister of 8 mths but a new baby too, seems I need to remember he needs some of me time

hi..

my eldest daughter who is 22, has a 5yr old son, a 14mth old daughter and a 3 mth old baby boy.... despite the morning after pill 2x breast feeding and being on the mini pill.... she did struggle for the 1st few weeks but now she copes well, especially as her eldest is a real handfull.... now her little man has settled and sleeps through most nights she finds it much easier.... i am so proud of the way she has coped... 

i have 6 children but they are spaced out 22, 17, 12, 8, 5, 19mths... when we are all in the same house including my 3 grandchildren it is chaos but they are all so close....

xxx

My boys are 12, 3, 2 and 3mths. My eldest does help me alot but im more worried about the effect it will have on him than the others.

Congratulations, I hope you have a happy and healthy 7-8 mths

although I am not onto my 5th, this will be my 3rd and I also intially was upset and panicking, I posted about feeling guilty!

I also have a Mum who had 7 of us and she never has a boring life I would of loved lots of children and am very blessed to be having this 3rd, I will be 38 when its born! I

Its just my little one turned 8 mths yesterday and I do wonder how I will cope as the other age gap was 4 yrs, but I think we will all just muddle along and it does get easier the older they get(I hope)

I think its only natural that you were freaking out,,, 3 months is a really short space of time... when my lo was 3 months df wasnt even getting any lol, so there was no chance of a surprise pregnancy.

you just gotta remember you have dont it all before, and you will cope no matter how it seems now.

Even tho df and I were discussing trying, when i found out i was pregnant i panicked, and my lo is 5 months older than yours, and is my only one.

My mum had 7 of us and she coped fine, how old are your others? maybe they can lend a hand?

anyways, congrats on ur pregnancy and ill look forward to chatting to you in here till April!

AHHHHH. Im pregnant with my 5th baby and my last baby was only born 3 months ago.  It has come as huge shock as we were sure our family was complete. We did consider a termination due to the fact that we already have 3 under 4yrs.  When it actually came to it we could not come up with a good enough reason. Am i mad doing this. When i found out i was hysterical i only gave birth 3 mths ago and struggle to believe im doing again.  Are there any other mums who have lots of kids id love to know how they do it as i am concerned how im going to cope. Lucky for me my hubby is 1 in a million and will support me but he still has to work and im on my own with the kids alot of the time and i think that is very daunting. Im worried that i wont be able to care for my other boys while im pregnant as i find it really hard. Sorry for moaning and if this sounds disjointed, im in shock.

Altho now we have decided what to do i cant stop smiling.