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10/11/08 09:21
Alex and little bear, I am thinking so much positive thoughts for you both today, I hope all goes smoothly and if I could I would be there to hold your hand hun!
Good luck and be strong hun
Massive hugs (((hugs))) Sadie xxx
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10/11/08 08:19
Hi - you prob don't recognise me as I don't post much but just wanted to send you loads of positive thoughts for today and I hope everything works out well for you. xxxxxxxxxx
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10/11/08 07:16
Hi honey just wanted to let you know that we are thinking of you and hope everything goes the way you would like. Good luck. (((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))))). Lucy
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10/11/08 07:15
I'll be thinking of you today and I really hope you get some good news, you deserve it.
Melissa
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10/11/08 01:33
hi, I have been following what you have been going thru and haven't been able to post as couldn't seem to find the words.....will be thinking of you tomorrow, and have so much admiration for your strength. x
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9/11/08 22:00
hey
i genuinly wish i could do it for you.
just remember were all here for you my dear, i'm sending you plenty of good luck, and lots of hugs.i know you will probably hear it loads but if you need anything (even to swear at, shout at or even just rant that the doctor was pants ) just drop us a pm.
i will be awaiting a message from home when you have the results,
*MAHOOSIVE HUGS*
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9/11/08 21:58
oh hunni i wish i could but i cant, i shall b thinkin of u all day though till we hear everythings ok
gd luck though
dont 4get ur amazin ok?
xxxxxxxxxx jess
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9/11/08 21:28
will any 1 go for me..... ???? PLEASE.... xxxxxxxxxxxxx
i have been keeping myself so busy all day i've blitzed the house so that i wouldn't think about tomorrow....
well tomorrow will come soon enough but wether i find out our fate tomorrow or not is another thing..... just have to wait and see, i am so use to that now....
thankyou ladies....
alex and lil bear 18+2
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9/11/08 21:10
Hi Alex, just wanted to wish you all the luck in the world for tomorrow. Will be thinking of you. Take care. Love claire xxxxxx
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8/11/08 09:24
i really really wish i could help you, best of luck hon i'll be thinking of u xxx
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7/11/08 20:28
hi alex i never no wot to say on ur thread so just read n thats it which i feel bad bout. i no nothin i say will change ur situ or help it.
so i wish u all the luck in the world for monday. keep positive u are 18wks now so not long now really since they have left u so long so far. if i cd i wd come n help u n ur family like many others wd to.
sending ((((((((((hugs)))))))))) n
good luck n take care mandy xx
and i agree with jess u are an amazing woman u always giv others advice etc when u got lot goin on too
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7/11/08 18:42
aww hun's thankyou...
i've resided to the fact that i have to go on monday wether i want to or not (deep down i still don't want too).... i am still petrified of what it may bring, and worried that it will be bed news.....
i have also accepted that our lo's chance of survival and future maybe taken out of my hands, and there is nothing at all that i can do about that but accept it... if this scan on monday shows that the patch they are concerned about has turned sinister then i hope to god that they can hold on until lo reaches 26-28wks atleast, so that the risk of long term problems are lower..... the fact that i may not find out monday is going to be a nightmare, the uncertainity and all, but then it's not like i haven't been there enough times already to know that the waiting game is hell....
i would be over the moon if they said all was ok, but from my previous experiences i am preparing myself for the worst, i'm not getting my hopes up i've learnt from that mistake before... so i've preppared myself for the worst, looked up the risks of chemo and the risks of delivering lo so early so i sort of know what i could be facing....
what i am going to find hard is that if they do have to deliver lo so early to start treatment etc then, i will be struggling with the effects of that as well as trying to look after my family and home and spend as much time as poss with lo waiting for the chance of a 1st cuddle.... i know oh will help as much as possible but he has a p/t job helps with mil's shop, is at college 3 days a week and is building his own business.... i don't have any family that close who could help out often, so that i am dreading.......
i hope they do tell me on monday so that i can either get on and enjoy the rest of this pg, or know what i am dealing with....... either way it will be a relief to know....
i want to take this opportunity to say a big hearty thankyou to all you lovely kind supportive ladies who have put up with my grumbling and whining.....
special hugs to all....
alex and lil bear... 18wks.....
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7/11/08 16:40
OMG alex u r amazin, i dont know how but ive managed 2 miss this thread 4 so long but hav just read through most of it n now i understand everything uve said 2 me, u hav it so much worse n yet can still find time 2 reassure me n 2 help me wiv my worries about wot this LO is puttin my body through-nothin compared wiv u though!
i believe weve fallen 4 a reason, like u i dont really believe in the person upstairs but sum1 has thrown a hell of a lot of crap ur way 4 no reason other than 2 test a throughly amazin woman.
as theyve left u this long now i cannot see how they can justify at all a termination now not wen viable is in sight, u will get there n we shall support u
thank u so much 4 ur support im so sorry i was so slow wiv mine-ur amazin n wonderful n soooooo carin n obviously an amazin mother 2 hav ur daughter post like she did
thank u 4 sharin this time wiv us, i feel honored
xx jess
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7/11/08 16:12
hi just wanted to send u a huge hug and say my thoughts will be with u, your an inspiration and though you don't feel strong at the moment (i would be a wreck!!) you are incredibly strong to have survived 1st time theres every chance you can do it again and your lo. just keep it in mind that you are the only one who can protect your lo and he/she is relying on you to be strong for them maybe that will keep you going when you feel like giving up? lots of love and best wishes hon, my thoughts and prayers are with you xxx
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7/11/08 15:14
any 1 love me enough to go instead..........?????????
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5/11/08 21:10
thankyou for the link hunni.... the % are better at 25 weeks alround, survival and disabilities etc, decreases..... and undoubtedly will keep reducing week by week.... but it still leaves me terrified....
god i wish i could wake up tomorrow and find out none of this is real....
damn walt disney.....
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5/11/08 15:23
For the same reason as Jax i have not left a message before now as i too have not known what to say.When i read, everyone has already said what i have been thinking.
I have been following your turmoil and now i just need to say to you..I wish you and your family all the best,you will make the right decisions for yourselves,which ever they may be.
I keep trying to put myself in your position and thinking about what i would do,and i can honestly say i haven't a clue.I admire you for being so strong.
Thinking of you and your family
Trish
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5/11/08 14:54
Carrie, your time last year is sad. But you as a person are inspirational.
I checked out the epicure link too. Alex if you do have to deliver early, 25 weeks would be pretty hopeful. And its just over 7 weeks for you.
xxx
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5/11/08 14:45
carrie i would like to say how sorry i am that you and your family were in a situation where they had to weigh up the benefits of a life for a life... so to speak... and that you lost your lo after only a few weeks... reading your post brought a tear to my eye hunni....
as you say there is hope but for every survival there are lo's that don't make it, even with the lastest equipment and medical knowledge... i am terrified of loosing our baby... from the very beginning i have had this horrid feeling that this lo isn't meant to be, i hope that that is just worry and not intuition....
thankyou for your post, i will look at the link you gave me....
thankyou again hunni... ((((((((((hugs))))))))))
alex and lil bear 17+5
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5/11/08 14:14
Dear Alex, I'm sorry to hear what you are going through. I saw your earlier post and you're right, it's tough when you are reading about everyone else getting ready when you have no idea what your future holds.
This time last year our world fell in around us when they diagnosed my baby at 19 weeks with IUGR. I then began to get ill from pre-eclampsia - it was all related to abnormal placentation. It came to a crunch point at 29 weeks when they were going to stop her heart to save my life as delivery of the baby is the only cure for PE. It was a Sunday morning, five doctors were lined up in front of me and my husband had just walked in - they didn't even call him or ask him to come in. I remember feeling totally helpless and just like being stuck in a room with 4 walls and no door, nowhere to go.
Between 19 weeks and 29 weeks, it was a case of waiting to see if our little girl would grow and she did, but not enough. Anyway, they changed their minds and delivered her but she was so growth restricted and tiny that she lived for 6 weeks but it's 6 weeks that a lot of people don't have.
Getting to my point, I also feel envious of the others even in this pregnancy...they have the innocence, especially the first timers and it's nice to see. I spent 6 weeks with my little girl in neonatal intensive care and saw all sorts. There were 2 babies born at 23 weeks, both are now home. I think if you can research as much as you can and get a balanced view of what hope there is rather than listening to stories about miraculous babies as for every one that does do well, unfortunately there are others who don't which the media don't focus on. But it is amazing what they can do these days and as my mother kept saying to me through the whole of my last pregnancy, "where there's life, there's hope" so please stay as strong as you can. I know our situations are different but I know what it's like when they are weighing up your life against your baby's.
Have a look at this site - this has useful up to date info on the survival stats for premature babies and their prognosis later in life. http://www.epicure.ac.uk/
Carriexx
hi ladies... i am worried sick, 3 days ago i started spotting first brown then pink then red. i always go by how i feel and i've still got sickness extreme tiredness and all but after 6 mc/mmc's i am worried... my gp has arranged a scan for me tomorrow, i sure hope all is well as we go away on sat..... atleast i'll know if hubby's dream came true......!!!!!
to top it off i had an app with my plastic surgeon this morning, to check my scar from the malignannt melanoma i had removed, and my lymph nodes in my groin an knee.... well all is not good....!!!!! i mentioned to him that a lump had appeared on the scarred area.... he looked at it and felt it and explained that it is exactly the sort of lump that they look for, and that it needs to be whipped of as soon as, they've booked me in for the 5th.... so they can biopsy it....
i feel like lightening has struck 2x... i was between 6-7 wks last pg when the skin clinic doctor took 1 look at my mole and told me it was coming off asap as without a doubt it was cancerous, which the biopsy confirmed...
i am scarred witless.... hubby keeps saying it will be fine... but that's what he said last time..... i know i should try to be positive, but i've been waiting 2yrs for the big C to rear it's ugly head, as they've told me that i am high risk of it spreading......
how can i relax and enjoy my holiday...????