You`re only pregnant...
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- You`re only pregnant...
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7/2/12 17:55
:O im shocked, some people have no idea.this is my first pregnancy and im lucky enough to have it the other way around,everyone wants to do stuff for me and i find it quite patronising as i was very independant before, im not minding so much at the moment as my belly feels like it weighs a ton and my back is killing me D:. but then thats nothing compared to what some pregnant women have to deal with. People that acuse pregnant women of being lazy need a good old slap.
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7/2/12 13:06
It definately gets harder with each pregnancy. My first was a doddle. I worked until the day before and never even has any feelings of sickness. I was even accussed of choosing what made me feel sick on Sunday. Glad I'm not the only one getting wound up!
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6/2/12 21:39
men aint got a bloody clue what it feels like to be shattered every day! i'm up all night peeing, or dealing with my other 2 kids. my 3 year olds had a stomach bug and now has a cough that makes her sick grrr, i totally know how you feel witht the aneamia - it's killing me!! i've been on iron for weeks but feel so breathless i feel like im suffocating all the time. got spd, had flu that nearly killed me, put me in hosp and took 8 weeks, nebuliser,steroids,and antibiotics to recover - all this whilst moving house! feel crippled at the mo with the spd and varicose veins and im only 26!.
some people just see the same old you but with a bump so don't get how s***ty we're all feeling. even when i try to explain to my hubby...i can tell he just don't understand. he's been docs once in the 7 years we been together! one bad cold/flu he wants all the sympathy, but you tell him how s***ty you feel you just get a blank stare. i've given up, even his help ends up more work for me...this week he managed to dye several of my dd's brand new pink clothes indigo....grrrr who puts new jeans in with pink clothes!!! looool
can't live with em, can't live without em i guess
think every women who has a child deserves a medal, its no easy task carrying, labouring, c section or caring for a child. even when mine reach 18 i'll still be a nervous wreck that they are ok
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6/2/12 21:29
i havent read all the other posts but just wanted to say i honestly believe whoever said pregnancy is not an illness was obviously male who had never had children (or if he had he was very quickly divorced!) this is baby no 3 for me and this pregnancy isreally taking it's toll on me... but hey ho, not5 long to go now
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6/2/12 15:18
Hmmm agree with all - at different times (my oh would say "typical woman!!) I've only got a small bump thats not even very sticky-outy so depending on what I wear even now at 7mths pregnant I can look, well just fat I think!! Therefore I think people presume because I've not got this massive bump that Im ok to do things / feel ok etc. I feel like saying "just because it doesnt look huge I still feel huge!!" and get tired / struggle to bend / move etc.. Infact I feel like an old woman grunting and groaning when I try to get up / turn over in bed!!
No one at work seems too bothered either - they will quite happily sit and watch me do things with no concern or offer of help. But then if they did offer, and i was feeling that way out, I too would probably snap that I can still manage lol.
Can see why sometimes men say they can never win with us women lol!
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6/2/12 14:14
I know how u feel. I've left work now due to it not being a safe environment for a pregnant woman. however i got the same treatment at work. i found it hard to be dependent on others but shortly after leaving work i've learnt that no one thinks ur lazy... just u feel it. But at home my inlaws and husband have a completely different attitude towards me and my pregnancy. you see my sister in law is pregnant too.. so my husband has the attitude that if she can do housework, you should too. thing is she lives with her husband and no one else. i live with inlaws and a brother inlaw so i alot more work to do. They dont have a mop in the house so its pretty much get on ur hands and knees and scrub. I have refused completely to do that. Plus doing things has now started to take a toll on my lower back so if i was u i wudnt do anything that can cause physical harm.
One thing i dont understand about my own husband is that he can stay in bed all day and wake late evening and head out, yet im the lazy one. drives me up the wall.
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6/2/12 12:52
I'm a bit of both, I refuse to hoover, we live in a three story house and hoover is very heavy so OH does that. At work I've been banned from carrying anything up or down the stairs (our tea making facilities are upstairs) and feel like a right plum, I keep worrying everyone will think i'm being lazy even though they have been really nice about it. Thanks for the tip smileyrachel, i'll def be burning the next item OH asks me to iron
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6/2/12 12:07
blimey you all sound much nicer than me. I am taking full advantage whilst I can! Have told by hb that the hoover is too heavy for me and very early on in our relationship made such a hash of ironing one of his shirts that he has done then ever since! hee hee -
6/2/12 11:57
Awww Sarah, it sounds like people are taking advantage of your kind nature - do what you can, and if you can't do - don't feel guilty, and i swear if my DH had made a comment about his shirt i had just ironed i would have screwed up the rest of them - and he would be doing his own chuffing shirts, i am sure that would put an end to the moan PMSL
I know that breathless feeling is bloody horrible, and you you feel like pants - not long now hun - keep smiling
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6/2/12 09:30
I'm not saying i am laying on the sofa issuing commands. I am pregnant with my 3rd. My DD is only 13 months old. I have sciatica really badly, sometimes I can barely walk. My knees ache, I struggle with the stairs. I am anaemic and get really tired and breathless. I do what i can, but just really annoyed when I went out with my whole family on Saturday and because I was sat on the end so i could get out, people had me running round , getting the drinks, getting condiments, checking on the kids (all 12 of them) and when I refused to get up for the 12th time was told "You're only pregnant, not disabled" and when after I had been stood ironing my DP shirts for an hour last night, he decided to pick fault with one of them and I said I had had enough and he came out with "just because you are pregnant". Even before I left work, I rang the caretaker to come and move some boxes and he came up and said "You could have done these yourself, you are only pregnant" (I couldn't have lifted them even if i wasn't). Its just getting to me. I don't want special treatment, but I don't want people accussing me of being lazy because of the pregnancy.
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Am now thoroughly fed up with people saying "You're pregnant, not disabled" or "Just because you're pregnant..." whenever I ask them to do something or say I can't. They should try it!