hmph think i over did it with hoovering.the pains are back

yep,and no bladder weakness (which was a major worry for me).

im 13 days now and although im still taking painkillers my tummy feels so much betteer definately feeling more positive

I know what you mean, Charlotte. I find myself feeling jealous of women that have had normal natural births! It seems crazy but I almost feel like I'm less of a woman and feel stupid almost for not being able to do what should come natural to a woman. You are a crazy lady wanting another baby. I'm put off for life now after my labour and birth experience.

Mind you there is a major positive aspect to having our babies the way we did.................... no stretching down below! It is intact as it always was

xx

I had emergency c section and I look at my friends that have had babies and wander why I could not do normal birth but then I look at my little man and just thank god he's here. My little man had poo in waters and was stressed and he was transverse or whatever its called. Then looked a tnotes and he had cord round his neck. But baby is happy and healthy thats all that matters. Roll on baby 2!

mekc my stitch was taken out today.the whole area is like a yellow bruise (and another bruise where a dog jumped on me ) the area feels really tender aswell,im pretending it doesnt by taking loads of pain killers that the hospital gave me.aaah its so scary,i keep checking on it all the time!

did u have a section aswell littlepiglet?

having spoke to u girls about the section experiance i am feeling abit better...im not thinking about it so much ( except the scar! ) it definately helps to talk about it

I really really feel for you girls - i was so lucky Joseph Thomas was not in distress but rather the problems laid wit me (will explain in birth story when i get around to putting it on on Monday) - but i know how you feel as every time they put the foetal monitor on and i couldn't hear anything for a few seconds i nearly lost control.  With me i was just so grateful when they decided i needed the op -the mw had been apalling.

Speak to your mw's and hv's - it's so important to express your emotions (God knows there are lots of them running throug us all right now) - but thankfully for the majority of us we have been rewarded with the most precious little gifts.

hi i had my emergency section 3 years ago, and the whole experience totally traumatised me for months. I just couldnt get it out of my head what had happened, and like a previous person mine was also undiagnosed breech and I just kept playing it over and over why hadnt they noticed she was breech and why they let me labour for 14hours before they did notice. I ended up with pnd and on anti-ds for 18months because I let it get me down. The hv advised me to write down exactly how I felt and to make an appt to talk to someone at the hospital who would go through my notes with me to see if it made more sense. I was also totally freaked out by the scar, conviinced I was going to burst. Its a huge experience you have been through, and it does take time to get over. take care xxxx

when the ctg showed Ben's heartbeart dropping erratically i knew instinctlvely that if it wasn't just a one off that it may be  a c section for me, i thought i'd got my head round that but a couple of hours later when they confirmed it it was like i'd been punched in the stomach, the shock was horrible, i was absolutely terrified.  i'm really worried about my stitches that i'm going to harm them or they will get infected.  i'm bruising a little around the scar at the moment - is that normal?

its just so horrible...ur baby is distressed and u r cut open all in a short space of time,its so much to deal with.then the awful stay on the ward after where the baby is so upset because he cant get a minutes sleep with all the noise

the wound is terrifying,im so scared im going to burst have been feeling abit better about it today but its still v upsetting.

it really helps to hear other peoples experiances and talk about it.thanks for sharing

I feel incredibly upset by my emergency c-section experience. I lost total control.

I had mine due to her being an undiagnosed breech! They didn't discocver this until I was in labour and went to the hospital when they did an internal. They were going to make me wait 2 1/2 hours for the c-section but then I suddenly went from 2cm to fully dilated in about 15mins and was trying to push her out! It was a mad panic then and was told I couldn't push and was rushed straight off to theatre. Unfortunately when I got to theatre I was then told that I had to have a general anaesthetic as they did not have time to give me a spinal. I was even more mortified. Not only had I not long been told that I had to have the one thing I REALLY didn't want but that I had to have it under general so neither me or my DH could witness her being born. It makes me so teary 5 1/2 weeks on

To make matters worse 2 weeks later I got an infection and my wound started to break down and weep everywhere. That sent me right back to square one! I have been so down over the past few weeks and fed up of not feeling myself or being able to look after my DD properly.

I feel so upset by my experience that it has put me off ever having anymore children

(((HUGS))) hun and take care of yourself and bubs. Don't try to be superwoman.

xx

thanks kelly its just good to know somebody else feels the same.i think i will tell the mw tmoro,but its hard to find the words to describe how it feels.x x

hun i know my was 5years ago and i have since had finley but i know what its like my labour was 22 hours in totally and was the worst thing in my life that i had been though i felt like i was a failer and why couldnt i give birth like i wasnted to and that some how i had let Ethan down i was so down about it, And felt like i had let everyone down, felt so bad for my df that he nearly missed Ethan being born, and that he could of died it was so bad that i never ever wanted any more children as i never wanted to feel like that again and when i found out about Finley he wasnt planned i did honstly think about not going though with it (so glad i didnt now) but thats how much it upset me i spoke to the midwife at 6 weeks and she told me she would help me as much as she could to cope with this labour. If you want to talk about anything im on here most days. Take care hun xx

just wondered how people felt about their emerg c-section experiances?
i feel abit traumatized by it...its weird,like i dont sit thinking about it or anything but i have the wound healing and it crosses my mind how bad a time it was and i know that its really bothering me like in my subconcious if u know what i mean???
its just so horrible that my baby could have died and i was cut open all in a short space of time...its alot to get ur head round