had my scan today :(
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- had my scan today :(
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16/10/08 21:26
Gatecrashing from dijan, I;m so glad your results are good so far. Just wanted to tell you my story to see if it helps you in any way.
I had my first at 16, then next one at 18 he has autisum, and youngest at 20, and i was married to a horriable man but i coped. I have always refused any testing (not that there is one for autisum) and we have not had any this time either.
It is hard, but being a mum is no matter what your age, i think i coped better when i was younger i had lots more energy. My kids have grown up to be happy well adjusted, non judgemental people.
I'm sure everything will be good for you, i'll be popping in here to see how you are getting on. x
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16/10/08 13:41
Hi hun. I am so pleased for you. thanks for the messgae, it was really kind of you to reply. Not sure what the measurement was sorry but glad i have been a little bit of help. I think we are all a lot stronger than we think. I would never have believed we could get through what we have but your body and mind are amazing things and you 'just cope'. Take care and try and relax now. XXX
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16/10/08 10:12
glad that things went well and that there is positive results already, good ole mums they know what they're talking about try and do whatever you can to not let this consume all your waking hours hunni , im feeling very positive for you that everything will be just fine thinking and praying for you and your family sweety and will keep my eyes peeled for more good news from you soon xxxx
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16/10/08 10:09
Am so pleased thats things are looking up for u. Ur mum is probably right try to keep ur mind off things by keeping busy. Will be thinking of u over the next 10 days.
Vikki xx
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16/10/08 09:47
thats so good i am really pleased its good news
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16/10/08 08:19
Glad everything sounds more positive let us know how the next scan goes! Thinking of you. mylee 11+3 xxx -
16/10/08 08:01
naffy caffy - i suppose where all really lucky to have the technology these days arent we unlike your mum shes so brave to go on to have more without the knowing if her next ones would have dissabilities ur sisters so lucky to have a loving family around her especially u and ur brothers to look out for her. i hope u have a happy and healthy pregnancy and enjoy it something i cant do just yet! x
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16/10/08 07:49
wow i cant beleive how many of you have left ur kind messages of support thankyou soo much! bounty's one of the things keeping me going im greatful to have the positivity from u all otherwise i think i would crumble. i got my results back yesterday which came back normal so thats give me alot of hope i get the second half in about 10 days but the midwife says that if the first ones come back normal the second ones generally do. so she said thats good news so far! shes booked me 4 a scan at 15wks to see how the babys growing and whether the fluid has gone (fingers crossed) and to get a good look at its organs. i asked if i was high risk and she said not particularly no
considering they seemed so 'grave' about it all when i went for my scan. so now its just a waiting game till my scan and ive had strict orders from my mum to get up and take dd out the house to not think about things untill the time comes which will be hard but probably the best thing to do!karen (bailey and angelseths mummy) i think thats your name i remember you from dis07 i have a dd 12months, i never really posted much but always popped on to see how u was and read about ur little soldier seth, u was so blessed to have him and i dont think u need anyone to tell you that. i really hope this time round the rides a little smoother for you u so deserve it to be. u have coped amazingly and ur story about your friend with the little boy has really reasurred me that everything will be ok i told dp about it do u no what her nt measurement was? i would love my child no matter what and you never offended me dont worry im just not sure how i would cope with a child with problems maybe im alot stronger than i think but i suppose for now ill have to cross that bridge when it came to it good luck with your pg and thanks for ur support and that goes for all of you ladies on here x
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15/10/08 21:47
Just to send you lots of love & luck & to say although if things dont turn out as you hoped dont rush into your decision,whatever you choose will be right for you but give yourself time to think it over.As Bailey & Seths Mum mentioned,you will love your baby no matter what.My older sister has quite severe physical & learning disabilities,she is now 41 years old,back in the day when my Mum had her they had no tests for that sort of thing & they didnt know anything was wrong until after she was born.My parents cared for her,brought her up & went on to have a further 3 kids as well & myself & my brothers just look at our sister in exactly the same way as anyone else looks at their sister!!Make sure you get lots of advice & support if it turns out you do have a tough decision ahead of you.All the very,very best.xxx
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15/10/08 18:47
hope everything turns out ok for you. xx
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15/10/08 18:34
Hiya
Sending lots of
for your results!!Thinking of you at this really difficult time Hugs to you both!!
Katy x x
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15/10/08 17:05
Hi love,
Am not around much but I want to send my support.
Nettie
xxx
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15/10/08 17:00
omg so sorry hun, what an awful thing to go through, got everything crossed for you. let us know how the results go this evening won't you xxxxx
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15/10/08 15:57
Ahh darling, you poor thing, but you know what you are a woman, you are a lot stronger than you think girl, hang in there for the sake of your lil bubs.
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15/10/08 13:30
Thinking of you and DP and keeping everything crossed for some very good news today. Lots of hugs.
Kirsty
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15/10/08 09:25
I have everything crossed for you i cant even begin to imagine what you are going through but hope you can keep strong and do what is right for you and your family no one can tell you what is right or wrong as eveyone is different good luck for today will be thinking of you.
Gayle
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15/10/08 08:51
i dont know what to say sweetheart, only that ill be thinking of you and dp and keeping you in my prayers for some news later, today is going to be the longest day for you but hang in there, we're all here for you . luv and hugs Lins xx
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15/10/08 08:19
Hunny, I am so sorry you are having to go through this. My cousin went through this 4 yrs ago with her baby. They picked up on too much fluid around his neck and in his brain. She had an amnio as she was 18 weeks by then. the amnio came back showing no chromosome abnormalities but like you they said the baby could have some problems they couldn’t see or predict. Her and her husband continued the pg and after 9 long months had a healthy baby boy who turns 3 today!! She is now expecting #2 any day!
We have been through things the other way. we knew nothing about how ill seth would be and no one could have known until after his first 4 months of life. I guess what i am trying to say is, we had no idea what we were in for and when we found out how poorly Seth was and his problems were going to be we were terrified. Seth was so very special and needed lots of care. He changed from a healthy baby boy into a baby that had no control of any part of his body, he lost his sight, and all development by age 6 mths. I am trying to say in a roundabout way that if we had known what was going to be wrong with Seth then we probably would have been terrified and had tests and considered termination but we didn’t and I am so glad because he gave us 9 wonderful months that i will treasure forever. I am now 9 weeks pg and we have turned down genetics testing because we know how we feel about any child of ours having a problem. Also, we have bailey and he loved and still loves seth so much, to him Seth was Seth, his baby brother, not a baby with problems. XXX
You have to do what is right for you and your family. We haven’t told anyone yet because we wanted to make the right decision for us. All I will say is (not to offend you I promise) you will love your baby however it comes and they will always be perfect to you. i know it sounds hard but you will. take care hun and if you want a chat feel free to pm me. My heart goes out to you and your family. Hope I haven’y upset you, just wanted to give you an insight into loving a baby that is special. XXX
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15/10/08 07:01
am so sorry u didnt get the answers yesterday that u were hoping for. Good luck with the results today, try to stay strong! The desision is ur's and u do not need to justify that to anyway.
Wishing u all the best
Vikki xxx
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15/10/08 06:56
age 18 that was supposed to be
at 11wks+1 and they have said that there seems to be a little more fluid on the back of the neck than usual and are sending me to sheffield tommorw at 11.30 for a second opinon by a proffesional. me and dp are soo upset i cant stop crying please wish me luck for tommorow im praying everything will be fine
good luck to all the other girls with scans coming up i hope i havent scared anyone im just really upset and needed to tell someone.
soph x x