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Different flatmate hun we have Mikes best friend as our flatmate at the moment lol hes not bad he at least cleans up lol

Omg i cant believe i missed this thread before!

Lynette im glad ur feling better now, sorry i wasnt here before i just didnt see the thread! Im always at the other end of a phone if u need me, even if its just that u and Nathaniel want to come round for a bit to get away and spend time together without the boys.

P.s. why is the flatmate back??

ok ladies you can stop worriying about me now im feeling much better and after a long talk with DH then im much happier

know how you feel-ive even lost my milk cos of bleeding and tiredness-im not happy....

Hi ladies, not been on for ages due to lack of internet, but can I just say IT WILL ALL CALM DOWN, with your first you think it never will, can't believe you did this and it's upset every balance etc, with your second you count down to the 3/4 month mark knowing routine will appear, calm will conquer worry will change. I promise it gets better - you have to remember they haven't been here before and they need so much reasssurance - I have a dd who is 2 next month and everybody comments on how nice and lovely person and happy she is, she wasn't put down parctically for the first 3 months - the only reason I can remember this is cos I said about Mikey being demanding and dh reminded me how bad it was with Poppy - I had honestly forgotten life had calmed down that much - so hang in there x x x x x

Thanks hun, I got to put DS to bed tonight and spend some special time with him which has helped me feel better I just want to get more family moments and less time whre i feel like the spare wheel

you are only human and you do need to have a break sometimes i know its easier said then done but for your own sanity you need time to be lyn and not just mummy,wife and worker(sorry i dont know what you do for a living x) your husband i am sure can sort himself out if he needs to sorry to be crude but its true and as for the flatmate and brother thing put your foot down and make it clear he's your son you went through alot to bring him into this world so i think you you are more then qualified if that makes any sense sorry if i am not making any sense i just hate the thought of you feeling like this and dont try to push yourself to hard i know its easier said then done but you do have to look after your self you are important in all of this too your baby boy needs a  happy mummy x

cassie xx

ps i will add you on facebook and send you the application x

Big hugs to you hun, sounds like your going through a tough time but you know it hasn't been long since you had ds! your dh should try to understand that when it comes to the bedroom dept you are shattered and its only been WEEKS since you had ds!

Honestly, i'm sure you will feel better soon its probably just things have come to ahead now. talk to dh about how you feel, you have gone back to work really early as well so don't be hard on yourself. I'm sorry i'm not much help but didn't want to read and run x

michelle xx

Hey hunni... I cannot believe it's you writing all this. You seemed so strong and ready steady mummy!

We all, especially new mummies, have our ups and downs. My poor ds had to listen to my yelling for about 2 weeks when my mum left... poor thing. I left him screeming his throat out for 2 hours (!!!!!!!!) once but I knew if I come close to him I might not control myself. I used to sit and cry while he was crying in his cot... I used to get angry if I cannot do my things... it seemed as if he was getting in my way... I spoke to my dh and he said that everytime he called me I used to complain that I can't do this I can't do that because Charley is crying again... I sat down and thought 'this baby was sooooo wanted, I could not wait to see what he looks like and now I get angry at him because I cannot have a minute for myself or check Bounty?' Then I realised that nothing is going to come first apart my baby! Nothing!

We couldn't wait to start rumping pumping too... Sooooo we found other ways to comfort each other and I must admit our sex life now - ooooh!!!! the best ever!!!

When it came down to coping with Charley, we sat down and checked which feedings suits us the best and shared them. House cleaning was in the end of the list. We did it when we both were at home. We used to rub the bath together while Charley would sleep and share the moments we had with him.

Walks - I love them. Till this day it helps us to leave everything behind and relax our minds from all the stress we get. Especially my dh because he is running our company. And it's growing fast so he's kinda at work 24/7 and I try to do paperwork when I have time... well usually at night

Every problem can be solved but unfortunately sometimes it takes time. Our babies are getting bigger. They will get harder to handle once they start crawling etc. But that baby is the most important thing and it should be only bringing you two closer... And your dh is not only a husband, he is the Father, he is one of the main roles in your ds life so he should be valuating those first fatherhood moments more than his friends... and if flatmate or his brother wants to help you guys looking after the baby - ask them to do the cleaning!

if its possible ive reached breaking point im fed up and tired and nothing i do seems to help my baby and dh is mad at me for not helping and im tired and stressed from work and sometimes i snap and get mad and not at the person that deserves it most of the time it ends up being ds who gets me yelling caus i cant handle his crying as well as everything else

i feel s*** caus dh does everything for ds and takes care of the house and everything while i work and i feel bad caus hes working hard and caus i enjoy my job it seems wrong for me to want a break when i get home when he has had ds all day but i cant help it, im sure im getting pmt again as i stopped bleeding/dischage 2 weeks ago and have had thicker white discharge for a couple of days like i used to get the week before my period and i dont know what to do,

also feel s*** caus im not being a good wife and fulfiling my husbands needs iykwim and that is making dh cranky all we end up doing is fighting all the time and i hate it but i dont know what i can do we had a nice couple of weeks of being a nice family but im getting stressed with work and hes getting stressed from the lack of action in the bedroom and our little family isnt so happy anymore,  and to top it off our flatmate is back and suddenly this seems to be a "boys house" and my opinon no longer matters and dh's little brother is coming on monday for a while till he starts back at school and theres no way around it and i know when he is here i'll have no say in anything and i dont want our flatmate or dh's brother to have too much input in ds's routine caus i dont trust them to do things the way that me and dh aggreed it will be done iykwim?

sorry for going on and on i just needed to get it off my chest