(((((big hugs))))))) ladies

I have been feeling very emotional the last few days and wondering how I am gonna cope. I think we all feel like that. When the excitement dies down from your BFP your left thinking of the realisation of what it all means.

Im sure we will all be fine xx  It doesnt help when you are feeling sick/tired/poorly etc

i am in the same boat as amy (as she nows). I also have 2 sons 1 is 5 yrs the other is 4 months. I sometimes feel like i cant cope with what i have got let alone have another.

But then i think to myself the reason i am here is my own doing. I have to deal with what is in front of me.

My mum passed away when i was 23 so that was 2 yrs ago. she was the only person i could turn to. But since then i have had a second son and my first son has been diagnosed as autistic. So i also wonder if i am being fair to him.

But i do know one thing. When i thought i was at my lowest i always got through it, so really i couldn,t of been as bad as i first thught.

There is always a light at the end of the tunnel. And everything happens for a reason.

hi amy, i spoke to the colposcopy unit this morning and they said that it wont affect the baby in the slightest, they cant do any biopsies or anything when u are pg but they can do smears and make sure that everything is the way it should be, as for mc it is unlikely as the body finds ways to repair itself when i needs to,

i am sure u will be fine with this pgy and once the reality sinks in the pgy will be something to look foward to rather than wondering what might happen or how u will cope. i know i should prob take my own advice but it is difficult all i can say is take one day at a time. xx

Hi there, just reading the thread and thought I'd say hello and am sorry to hear you are all upset I am 6wks pregnant with my first at the age of 36 and I am wondering if I will be able to cope and that's with no other children.  I know most people on here are so happy to be pregnant (and I am too) but at the same time there are so many doubts and things crossing my mind.  I still live with my elderly mum who is 70 and quite poorly and I feel guilty that there are things that I can't do to help her etc etc. I also worry about when the baby is born, if it'll be ok, where we'll live (my boyfriend lives in the south of ireland, i live in the north)..loads of things.  All I can say is have a good think about things, I do believe that everything that happens is for a reason so it may be a blessing in disguise even though it may not seem it now.  I have my own thread if anyone wants to talk..hugs and hope you are feeling more positive soon..xx

Esther

hi linsr thanks for sharing how you feel. ive had 2 abnormal smears in the ast 4 months so due a little op on the 22nd. thats worrying me too. plus i have so many problems. with my youngest daughter, i had so many problems in the pregnancy, spent most of it in hospital. just dont know how im going to do it. im just sitting here and crying and i feel so selfish knowing how much i want a 3rd baby but not knowing if i can do it

hi i feel i might be in the same boat as u  guys, i have 2 lovely boys already and after my youngest was born i was trying everything in my power not to have another baby, i didnt feel like i was cut out for another. it got to the stage where the night b4 i was ment to be sterilized my dp begged with me not to go through with it and that he wnated another child, but by then i had already had the coil removed and i cannot take anything other contraception due to problems i have had with taking them all, then find out i have the earlu stages of cervical cancer and had to be treated for that, well here i am talking to you guys wondering what would be best and can i really cope with having 3 kids and going through the sleepness nights again with all the nappy changing and the bottle feeding weening etc...

i do hope u guys start to enjoy ur pgy's and we all see the light at the end of the tunnel! im here if anyone would like to chat. xx

im just not coping well at all. ive always wanted three children but after hearing that i need a hysterectonmy in feb id resigned myself to just having my two. youd think that finding out im pregnant would me amazing but instead i feel terrible. the most intense guilt ever for my 5 month old. she was such a poorly baby and had such a hard time in the pregnancy that i want her to have my undivided attention. like you i keep thinking, its ok, i might miscarry. i know its a terrible terrible thought but im just so scared. i cant stop crying, feel utterly depressed and i hate it cos im such a strong person

Thank you for admitting it too...its not easy to say when there are so many ladies on here that are really excited... its also not easy to find time to chat, especially with a little one of 5 months, thank you for the offer...we'll have to work out how/when to hook up!!! It doesn't help that dp is on lates this week and has decided to spend the morning in bed and listen to me trying to cope and throw up...he made dinner last night, bless him, however I had to face the washing up this morning...

i have exacty the same thoughts about the miscarriage hun. i thought it was just me. im new here, i have a 5 month old daughter and a 3 year old. this is a total shock to me and i dont know what t do. im here for you if you want to chat

Feeling a little rubbish and sorry for myself today, sorry ladies, however, I just wondered if anyone else was having nerves about how they'll cope?

I have a cold, horrid morning sickness and my son has tonsilitis..on top of that, I have not long started my own business and begun an evening course at college...not really fitting it all in too well and my son is being such a wimp (unlike him too ) and I'm just getting really short tempered...I even found myself wondering if I'd actually be relieved if I lost this one to mc like last time...I know its terrible, but I just had to air it and admit to feeling so bad about it all..I'm not in a state, but i am worried that i'm loosing a grip on my control of things and suddenly thought how much harder it will be once lo is born and i feel rubbish, over stretched, and exhausted...OK i'm terrified!!!

Thanks for reading