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21/11/08 11:19
Aww Im so sorry to see u feel like that =( . Im sure everything will be fine thou, baby grows alot in these next few weeeks, cud jus be growing pains? I went to my epu when i was 7 weeks really worried cos i bled and had cramping had myself so para after 2 mc but everything was fine, cramping can be a number of reasons =( people lye when they say being preg is easy, its a rolloercoaster for your mind and body !
hope your doctor puts your mind at rest , look up and see if u have a epu in ur area and call them tell them u cant wait that long for a scan its makin u ill wondering.
hope ur okies thou and so let us know how u get on =)
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21/11/08 10:51
hi all, i went to the quaks this morning and i think she thought i was nuts. i was getting ready for the straight jacket to come out haha!
well she thinks i have nothing to worry about and that i just need to relax, so that is just what i am going to do!
she actually annoyed me with some of the things she said but i wont go into it as maybe it is just my hormones!
in regards to my oh he is still a d***, but i have read in a pregnancy book that sometimes we will just not like our men for no reason hahahahahaha made me chuckle, well i have reasons for not liking him becuase he is lazy but still made me laugh.
i hope everyone is well and thanks again for all of your support and kind words xx
roll on next thursday when i will have my scan xx
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20/11/08 17:58
as for not getting on with your oh, your not alone there either, my DH really winds me up for the simplist of things, its not that you dont love him, your pregnant, those hormones have alot to answer for!! xx
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20/11/08 17:01
eya luv x its normal to be worried, i have been the same all through out my pregnancy so far and im 12 wks tomorrow and iv'e already had three scans. first scan was to check it was an interuterine pregnancy because iv'e had an ectopic pregnancy before thn the next was at 9 weeks cz i was rushed into hospital with severe pain in my stomach then again at 10 weeks because i was bleeding...alarm bells rang as soon as i saw tht blood it wasn't spotting either it was quite a lot and tht was for about 3 days on and off even with slight crampiness but i also lost pregnancy symptoms my boobs werent even very saw no sickness nothing...and because i was thinking the worse i was checking for them and looking out for them so phsycologically i think i was making them disapear if tht makes sense? i really believed the worst was hapening i was in bits so anyway went fr my scan n after all tht there was the little monkey... dancing around in my womb happy as larry with a really strong heartbeat...so just goes to show.. these things are infact very common in early pregnancy i just seem to be having one of those nightmare pregnancy's.. its so hard not to worry but just think positive and im sure everything going to be fine...good luck sweetie and take care both of you!!! x x x
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20/11/08 17:01
eya luv x its normal to be worried, i have been the same all through out my pregnancy so far and im 12 wks tomorrow and iv’e already had three scans. first scan was to check it was an interuterine pregnancy because iv’e had an ectopic pregnancy before thn the next was at 9 weeks cz i was rushed into hospital with severe pain in my stomach then again at 10 weeks because i was bleeding...alarm bells rang as soon as i saw tht blood it wasn’t spotting either it was quite a lot and tht was for about 3 days on and off even with slight crampiness but i also lost pregnancy symptoms my boobs werent even very saw no sickness nothing...and because i was thinking the worse i was checking for them and looking out for them so phsycologically i think i was making them disapear if tht makes sense? i really believed the worst was hapening i was in bits so anyway went fr my scan n after all tht there was the little monkey... dancing around in my womb happy as larry with a really strong heartbeat...so just goes to show.. these things are infact very common in early pregnancy i just seem to be having one of those nightmare pregnancy’s.. its so hard not to worry but just think positive and im sure everything going to be fine...good luck sweetie and take care both of you!!! x x x
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20/11/08 15:51
Well im popping off to the doctors in the morning to see what they say, im seeing a woman doctor instead of my usual doctor as he is on holiday, hopefully she will make me feel lots better.
Fingers crossed my scan will be brought forwards but im not holding out much hope.
I would probably put bets on it that they just tap me on the head and tell me to be a good girl and be patient hehe xx
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20/11/08 15:37
I cant believe the woman you spoke to was so insensitive!!!!
I didnt have any symptoms with DS apart from some tiredness and thats really all I have this time.
Im sure you have nothing to worry about hun, and it wont help you or bean to be stressing like this.
I hope your mw will be able to put your mind at rest, or maybe they could try move your scan forward.
xxx
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20/11/08 15:24
Hi Anz mother, to be honest with you having no symptoms isn't a bad thing so please try not to worry about that side of things. 2 out of 3 women get symptoms and some dont so its not always a bad thing, if anything its a good thing as the sickness etc can be bloody horrible.
I am only really concerned as I have had symptoms and they have just stopped suddenly, if I never had any symptoms in the first place I dont think I would feel as bad.
I too have read far too many sites about empty sacs and sudden loss of symptoms can be a sign of this. i wish i never read any of them!
And I definitely wish I never called that stupid woman!
The first trimester is a very tough time, some people can sail through it and I very much envy them.
I have always been a worrier and when I was younger I was diagnosed with depression so how I am feeling now could hopefully just be all to do with that.
If you would like to chat about anything feel free to PM me xx
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20/11/08 15:02
i'm in the same boat, have absolutely no symptoms at all, only had stretching pains at 4/5 wks and nothing since. Have been pretty worried, at first i thought it doenst matter even if i have no symptoms i know im pregnant cos my periods are like clockwork and i havent had the last 2, also preg tests positive and as clear as day. However i then read abt mmc's and empty sacs which frightened the life out of me.
The thing that gets me through each day is knowing there is nothing i can do, what ever is going to happen (or has happened) is inevitable. The only 'regret' i have is, IF anything is wrong, then i will only find out at the scan (2 weeks away) and if i'm lucky enough to conceive straight away then it'll be aug/september time. We plan to move house around then so it'll be very awkward. Sorry not a very positive post but just try not to think abt it too much.
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20/11/08 14:56
oh and Ella I did book a private scan for next Tuesday but as I found out my scan was for Thursday i cancelled it thinking that waiting an extra two days wouldn;t be too bad.
I am being positive though and thinking that ok I have a little pain but nothing too bad and i dont have any bleeding so just be positive for now.
Im going to complain about that stupid woman though, I really dont think she needed to say what she did to me.
xx
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20/11/08 14:54
Hi all, thanks agin for your messages.
The pains dont really concern me to be honest, I can feel some kind of discomfort but nothing to make me think ouch or this isn't right.
The symptoms have concerned me, but I knew I had my scan on Thursday so just thought I would wait until then. I'm petrified that i will have one of those blighted ovum things but I know that the only way to find that out was to have a scan and as I had one booked in and it was only a week away I thought I could cope until then hmmmmm obviously not!
Someone convinced me that tlaking to the MW was a good idea as they could help me to feel al little more calmer about the whole thing, and they are completely right I should feel comformatable about calling them about these things, but what that woman said has really shocked me!
You ladies are lovely and I am glad that i do have people to talk to, I have come back into work this afternoon but i look a bit like a zombie! My clients are being arses as well and im struggling to cope with their stupid demands, but thought it would be best to be here to try and keep my mind occupied. Plus I dont have the internet at home so I wouldn''t get to talk to you guys hehe!
I am going to go home later and climb into bed and hopefully just sleep, I have only had about 5 or 6 hours sleep over the last couple of days so that isn't helping me to be a bit more rational about everything.
Thank you again everyone, I really do appreciate it xx
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20/11/08 14:38
I am sure everything is fine hun but is it an option to book a private scan? It would certainly put your mind at rest? xx -
20/11/08 14:32
First of all, you are not alone, you've got us!!!
Honestly, thare are many of us who really do know what your going through, not me personally coz i'm feeling sick as a dog! With my other daughter though if i hadn't done a pregnancy test then i honestly wouldn't have known i was pregnant. Not a minute of nausea or tiredness. No sore boobs or backache. I would have just wondered about the bump!!
I'm confident everything is fine, just remember i think it's only 80% of women suffer with symptoms so your just one of the lucky ones!! I know you'd rather 'feel' pregnant to make it more real but i'm sure you'll be just fine.
With reguards to the pain, obviously depends on how bad they are. Last week i had really bad period pains to the point where i could barely walk. The worst always goes through your mind, it did with me.
Were all entitled to down days, i've had my fair share!!!!
Tuck yourself up with a duvet and hot chocolate and wait for a good day tommorow!!
xxxx
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20/11/08 14:24
I am 11 weeks and have been getting period like pains and sharp twinges on and off for while now. I have checked with my midwife and she said there is a big growth spurt at this point as most of the development stage has already happened. Also your placenta kicks in around this time so your body is not having to do as much so you will probably start to feel better.
My morning sickness disappeard over night at 10 weeks. My friend only had symtoms for the first 2 weeks then nothing at all, she goes to the gym everyday and she is 6 months pregnant now.
I phone my mum every other day moaning about pains and she said to me "think how painfull a toothache gets and thats just a tiny hole" which makes you understand how a rapidly growing baby could cause you some pain too, with all the nerves and muscles in that area.
This is my first pregnancy too and I am not an expert but I would put money on it that you will be fine.
I have my first scan next Wednesday and I am terrified, just trying to enjoy myself at the moment and will not worry until the morning of ( this coming from someone that had to come off anti anxiety medication when I found out I was pregnant!).
Take care. x
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20/11/08 14:12
Hello, im trying not to worry but I am so tired I think it is making me feel even worse.
I was up for hours last night until I fell asleep, my head is swimming with stuff and its driving me insane! I think I might be going a bit nuts haha!
Im also not getting on with my OH, in fact at the moment I just dont like him. Its not his fault and if I am honest he hasn't really done anything wrong there are lots of worse men out there. I feel he doesn't car and has left me to worry about all of this on my own. He didn't even seem concerned when I said that I was going to the doctors about it all!
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20/11/08 14:10
She shouldn't have said that to you,there's lots of reasons you can have lack of symptoms and pain. I get mild period type pain and sharp pain like a pulled muscle on and off since beginning and it could just be that your symptoms are easing off abit.You need to go and get it checked out through to be on the safe side and to put your mind at rest.
I am thinking of you and hope all's well xx
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20/11/08 14:10
oh hun my symptoms have started to go to but this happened with my dd and she was fine i've also had a few pains which i was going to actually write a thread because i think its because of my uterus stretching more try not to worry i know its easier said than done but honestly you'll feel so many weird feelings and pains if it will put your mind at ease ring your epu and i'm sure they will reasure you aswell when you do see your mw make a point of saying the lady on the phone made you feel even worse and basically tell her what she told you and that you got in a state they just don't think do they i hope you start feeling better as soon as you see your baby wriggling around you'll be the happiest person on earth xxxxxxxxxxxx
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20/11/08 14:09
Hiya hun, Just wanted to post a wee msg, I was exactly the same as you and as this is my 2nd pregnancy (1st I had every symptom going and was so ill) this time round I have had no symptoms at all, even on 2ww, Ive had spotting (well, blood stained cm) and was preparing myself for the worst yet had no real reason to worry but had just got myself so worked up thinking that because I have no symptoms I cant be pregnant but today I had my first scan and all was well, lazy little baby was lying there and let out a little wave, I spoke to mw bout it too and all she said was bear in mind no 2 pregnancies are the same, so try not to worry, I know you will still as I did, no one could ease any of the worrying I felt and I think most of the worrying was caused by my over symptom spotting, if I hadnt noticed the blood tinged cm, if I hadnt noticed the slight pains (which Im now told are stretching pains in your uterus) Im sure Id have been more relaxed!! anyways if you wanna chat just give me a pm xx
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20/11/08 14:04
try not to worry, i know its easier said than done, im the same as you, i have had no sickness but slightly sore boobs, i have my scan 2moro so im so scared now and time is going soooo slow.
im sure everythin is fine hun, your lucky u have your scan on Thursday once you have that your mind will be at rest. im stressing as i had to wait til im 13+2 weeks for my scan.
good luck xx
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20/11/08 14:01
Hi hun I was the same. I had my emergency scan yesterday and all was well. As for symptoms some people have hardly any, I didn't when I was carring my boys. If I hadn't done a pregnancy test and the absence of my period I wouldn't have know. I'm sure everything will be fine. Do you have a local Early Pregnancy Unit , as at mine you can refer yourself and they may do a scan if you explain the pains you have been getting. I'm sure everything will be fine.
Hello all, I have held off from posting on here today as i have been feeling down.
Basically I think I have mentioned that my symptoms have pretty much dissapeared, the only thing I really have left is my tiredness but this is due to only sleeping about 4 hours a night from worry.
Well I have also been getting a few pains, nothing bad but even so. I mentioned it to someone and they said I should call my MW as I have worked myself up into a frenzy and have been up all night crying presuming that the worst has happened.
I called my MW but her phone was switched off so called the office to ask some questions to someone else. And the lady on the phone although was nice made me feel 200 million times worse than what i felt before.
I told her that my symptoms had gone and that I had a few pains in my stomach, she said that I had to call the doctors as they couldn't do anything and that was that. Fine fair enough, however she could have been nicer to me and not dismissed me so much (I was crying on the phone at this point too). She then turned round and said becuase my symptoms have gone and I have pains she couldn't garentee that the baby is still there, I never even asked her if she thought the baby had died she just came out with it, which made me think that what I was thinking is what has happened.
She asked how far gone I was and I told her just over 10 weeks and she said it was probably implantation pains WHAT?????? I had them at 4 1/2 weeks not at 10, ok maybe if she said that things are growing and stretching etc then ok.
Well I have called the doctors and I am going in tomorrow at 9.20, i dont know what they will be able to do but she has freaked me out even more now I feel that I need to go in. All i called for was a little bit of reasurrance but I got the opposite.
I know that they cant turn round and say yes your fine and the baby is fine so dont worry about it, but surely they aren't there to make you feel worse than what you do already???
I am supposed to be having a scan next Thursday so they will probably tell me to wait until then, but it makes me feel a little better that i am doing something constructive rather than stewing away by myself.
I feel so alone, scared and frightened I just dont know what to do anymore. My world is crumbling around me and im trying to hold on but my grip is getting looser!