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never even thought of it that way, i'll put it to him to do it personally, if not i'll go through them, she has a wee bank account so it can go straight into that

that makes sense hun and i completely see whwere your comig from .... BUT ... you dont need his money to provide for her if he was to pay you CSA each month set up a bank account for her and just keep putting his money into her account so when she's older and wants to get a car or go to uni .. move out or get married or even have babies of her own she has a healthy start to her adult life ... even if it was £100 a month she would have £21,600 when she was 18 ....just a thought

part of me wants to but then part thinks, iv done this myself, iv provided for emma myself up till now and will always do so, so i dont want his money, but i hate the thought of him getting to have this fabulous single guy carefree life!

big hug's hun he sounds about as conciderate as my DD's dad has become !!!

You are doing the right thing by keeping him in the know and lettinghim see her but seriously go to the CSA and start getting payments ... then if things go belly up when she's older you did everything properly even the payments and if he chooses not to see her she will see this for herself

shes a bit better, just not herself, shes sleeping a lot but managing to feed quite well still so shes not going to get dehydrated i hope..

shes just a wee soul and im trying to just do right by her, im starting to think not having him in her life at all is the right thing though

What is going on in his head??!! Seriously, he needs to sort his priorities out. You did right to tell him what was going on tho.

Is she ok now??

hi girls...i need to rant, this may be long...

my daughter is 7 weeks old today and yesterday when i got her up she was covered in a rash, i gave her a tepid bath and some naked time but it just got worse and worse and she was screaming hysterically till she'd cry herself to sleep. rang nhs 24 and they said she needed to be seen at hospital so i took her up. on my way at around 11.30 i think, i text her dad to tell him, and every update i had i sent him, bearing in mind he lives 5minutes away from the hospital the only response i got was "what kind of rash. is she ok"...

when i got her home i messaged him again a couple of times and tried calling a few but his phone was off...and the last message before a response was thanking him for showing concern to which i got a response "if it was that serious i figured you would have said so"...erm....im sorry she wasnt seriously ill enough to warrant her father giving a sh*t!. Now to make matters worse, the hospital said i might need to take her back up if her feeding slows down, or she gets a fever, so they said they wont be surprised if she's back, and i told him this and he's going away with 2 girls he's friends with today until thursday and last night he said did i want him to not go, and when i said yes (which i really would rather as it'd give me a bit of knowledge that there is someone there should it come to that) he went mental at me and it became that this was just me trying to control his life...which i really couldn't care less about. Emma is my priority but she's clearly not his.

He doesn't pay anything for Emma, he just expects to see her whenever it suits him. He was bleating on about not having a day off in over a year, yet went away on holiday in April, away 3 weeks before i was due to have Emma and was away at T in the Park when i was taken in to be induced and had her. People ask me why i even bother telling him things any more as i've always just been let down but i feel like me keeping him in the know is me doing the right thing...how terrible would it be if he found out other ways that i'd had her in hospital for 6hrs and didnt tell him!

So now i don't know what to do...i have never been quite so angry with him, he cheated on me for a year and i was very angry then but Emma's health not even taking priority over a stupid holiday is one step im not willing to forgive..

sorry to trundle on but im fuming!