u are NOT A CRAP MUM. It cud be the formula milk u are giving is too heavy. Try the milk that is closer to breast milk. I think its aptamil. U may need to ask MW, they'll know which milk. If u keep switching between light BF milk and heavy formula milk this may cause colic. Also a bf'd baby is less likely to get colic. I'm bf'ing my 4th and have never had a prob with coilc. Don't get me wrong not all bottle fed babies get coilc either. Also if Bf'ing try to avoid gassy foods and drinks for the first few weeks, this was advice i was also given my MW. baby's tum is weaker first few weeks.

hth

xx

Hiya, mini - gatecrashing from Fertility Treatments, a bit of advice - my sister breasfed for 5 days while she was in hossie to keep the midwives off her back, when she got home, she boiled water to make up the bottles, left them to cool and then as and when Caitlin was due a feed she'd add powder to the water and feed her!  She never warmed the bottles up, she gave them to her at room temp.  As she was breastfed she never experienced warmed milk so never turned her nose up at the bottle!  (Superdrug/boots sell containers where you can store 3 or 4 bottles worth of powder so you can carry it around to make up the bottles)

Just telling you this really & anyone else who is reading this that you dont have to warm the bottle up, saves time waiting for the milk to warm and also means the bottles last all day!!

Your not a crap mum, men dont understand at all and like Kezzie says its prob cos he'll have to do something!!!!

the reason ure oh is annoyed, is because he knows there will be no excuses for him not to share the burden of feeding if u bottle feed! -  f*** him, do what u know u need to do, and dont say u are a cr@p mum, because if u were, would u really be here asking advice? ... no!! - not everyone can bf hunny, i tryed with my last ds, done it for 9 days, not long, but he got a good start, i was like u couldnt produce enough to feed him, and when i turned to formula, it was the best thing i done!!! -

you need to rest up as much as poss aswell, so get ure oh, to get off his butt, and takeover, while u grab a hot bath and some kip... express if u need to.

xx 

i was like this with paige after the first couple of days as i was feeding her every 2hours. but i told myself if i could just do it for atleast the first 2 weeks just to get the first lot of nutrients then i will have done some good.

You have to remember hun that if your not happy,baby will pick up on it.

Tell your OH that his support wouldnt go a miss. i had to give Oliver a bit of formula the last two night when he has a feed about 3am as i was just soo tired. I felt a bit bad,and apologised to Darren but he said, do what ever i felt was best.

Your not a crap mum hun

Its up to you, if you feel like you can keep going until you see hv then do it.  If not dont feel gulity for making the decision to switch to bottles.  You will feel better when you decide either way what to do.  If your still really undecided then could you try maybe express some so your oh can help, or maybe just reduce the amount of breast feeds your giving.  I know some women just bf for the 1st morning feed and the last one at night and all other feeds are bottles with either expressed or formula.  Big hugs xxx

Thanks everyone. HV is coming on Thursday anyway. Shall i keep going until then and talk to her about it first do you think?

So annoyed with my other half, he has no idea, I have to feed her all day and all night and he does nothing!

Aw, I'm sorry to hear you feel like that. Don't feel bad if you want to switch to formula,if bubs isn't getting enough and it's getting you down then that's no good for either of you. At least you've given it a go, a lot of people don't even bother. As for DP, it's your decision imo as you're the one who has to do it. Try not to beat yourself up, hope you feel better soon.

Kelly & Ava May xxxx

Aw hun...((((HUGS)))) You are not a crap mum!!!  You have tried to feed and if it's not right for you, there is nothing wrong with that.  My friend had the same troubles as you. She was convinced she was a bad mum (and this was reaffirmed to her by some not very helpful MW/HV too! ) She was getting stressed and so was her baby.  The minute she made that decision to change, she felt like a huge weight was lifted off her shoulders.  That is one of the reasons that I am not committing to BF-ing when I go into hospital.  If it feels right for me I will do it,  but if not I wont.  If you are determined to do it, see if your HV can arrange for a BF expert to come around and give you some help, if you're not feeling like it is right, make that decision and feel better.  OH doesn't know what its like to BF so he should really support what is best for you.  xxx

hey mini, you are not a crap mum. I know how you feel my twins are 17 days old now and im BF both of them. Ava is ok but we have had real bother with Jay he wll not keep his feed down and is really unsettled all night. i called the HV today and she suggested we put him on infacol so hopefully this will work as it is really destressing.

If you want to continue to BF remember the positives. If you change to formula you will need to get up and heat the milk and sterolise the bottles ect. 

Tell your DH that if he would prefer you to continue to BF then you need more support from him. I do all of the feeding the DP changes the nappies and winds the babies.

You need to do what is best for you tho. Happy Mum = Happy Baby xxxxxxxx

HTH

HI hun, Hugs. I remember feeling like this when i switched to bottles after breast feeding my ds.  I felt so guilty but at the end of the day it was for the best.  Once you have made a decision and go with it you will feel so much better.  Men dont understand how exhasuting and hard breastfeeding can be at times.  You have done your best and and have already given your baby a brilliant start in life.  If bottles will work better for you and your baby then go for it, it doesnt make you a bad mum.  Once I got my ds on bottles full time he was a different baby and I was so much more happier.  xxx

oh huni... *HUGS* ur not a crap mum, and at the end of the day u only want to do whats best for ur baby, if u want to switch to formula for her then whats the problem, uv given bubs the best part of ur milk and stuff. If he knew how hard it was to breast feed then im sure he would be wanting to swtich too!

xxx chin up hun xxx

Feeling really fed up today.

Emilia has got colic so been up for the last two nights trying to comfort her.

I was combing breastfeeding and offering a formula top up after feeds because she's not getting enough from me and its doing my head in. Told OH i wanted to move to full formula feeding and hes got in a right mood about it and has made me feel like i have to carry on. Its not fair