hiya ladies well i have told ryan how im feeling he is trying alot harder now!! told him how much i need his help and i can't do it alone he said his gonna try alot harder and took us out yday and taking us shopping today lastnight he had Ellie from 10 till half 2 so that i could get some sleep!!

mental im soo sorry your oh isn't any help i bet itsgetting really hard feel free 2v pm or chat if u need or want 2!!!

and dawn weshould meet up would be nice 2 get out!!

sorry 4 short reply ellies crying 4 a feed

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my oh is useless to, i have an 18 month old and a 7 week old my other half hasnt got up in the night once yet. the only time he did something was monday night, i had a sickness and diarea bug and he had to cuddle ds2 because he was hungry, but i was busy throwing up snd changing ds1s bedsheets,he had the bug to and had threw up allover his bed  poor mite,

he comes in from work,  goes upstaires and has a play on his decks, hes a hardhouse dj,i make dinner, he picks ds1 up from nursery, we then have dinner, i bath both children put ds1 to bed,then sort out ds2, otherhalf plays on computer until 11pm i wash all the pots and clean up,  ,while ds2 screams as other half wont console him i   then spend my night cuddling ds2,hes unsettled from 7pm until about 10 pm so i have to cuddle,rock,sing and hold him until he goes to sleep at 10pm 

then i have a bath, other half then has the cheek to pester me for sex wtf

at weekends he works sat day, goes out everysat night,then stays in bed until 11am while im up with both kids, since ds2 has been born ive had a cold,mastitus and gastroenteritus and ds1 has had a cold and gastronenteritus still no help from other half  

Well, tbh I do all the night feeds, and get up with both my boys. I get Louie ready for school, and he gets collected by school bus at 8.30am. That sounds like I do alot, but Louie is 5 and sleeps well, and Ben is 3 1/2 weeks and only wakes once for a feed. And I'm sleeping better now than when I was pregnant so I have no problems with things here.

Nige gets up at about 10ish and does all my shopping (send him off with a list lol), the washing up and cleaning. He wont clean the toilets though, or make Ben's bottles but hey, thats it. Hes a very hands on dad, so I'm very lucky.

My mum and dad came for a few days, and went back home this morning. They live 200 miles away, so quite a big distance. But my mum is one of those who rarely gives a compliment, and today she touched Nige's shoulder and said to him "I'm really proud of you. You are looking after them (being me, my eldest boy and our son) really well. You weren't expecting me to say that were you?" - put a tear in my eye.

God I love my man. We've talked about wedding bells next year!!!!!

Awh hunni bigs ((((hug))))))))) for you xxx Think men just dont think sometimes at all, My dh does help with nightfeeds every now and then but tbh i dont mind  doing them cos iam awake while he is feeding her anyway. BUt hes a nightmare when it come to house work n washing up n doing bottles he just doesnt do them. DOnt get upset though hun although i know its really hard to do, try tlaking ot him again and dont bottle anything up even it just talking baout it on her iam sure you will feel much better. Iam always here if you need a chat. We should meet up soon to seing we are only baout 30 mins away from each other  xx

My DF is really hands on as well but I feel mean making him get up in the night when he has 2 go 2 work. This causes rows lol. Plus, now he is back at work I feel a bit swamped with everything n even though he tells me 2 leave stuff til he's home I try n do it all myself b4 he gets back. All my friends have said im not myself n tbh do feel bit lost. I dont like leaving the house unless am just goin 4 a drive in the car, n I feel fat n awful even though am only half a stone more than was b4 preg. Do u think this could be a bit of depression or just the norm with a new baby?? Cant remember being like this with my other 2. xx

aww hun hope you are feeling better nothing better than a bit of violence lol. i have no idea what to adice hun, ian is probably one of the few men in the world that is a very hands on dad.

but heres a big hug

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thank you ladies, well ryan got a really nicewake up call lastnight i slapped his man bits deffo woke him up and wasvery moody but hey he would be anyway!!

aww seems like your oh being abit unfair an all bet he realises his in wrong when he hasn't seen you all night!! i also have 2 ask hubby 2 do stuff he sometimesdoes it on his own socant complain 2 much!!! men

im going 2 the doctors later should i mention feeling soooo tired and upset or not?? i feel like im admitind defeat telling everyone how im feeling!!

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me to, ive had a row with my bloke hes gone to stay at hes brothers house tonight as i said he aint helpin me as much as he should do and where im hormonal and sleep deprived it sort of esculated to me telling him to f off, lillie is 3 1/2 wks old and goes sometimes 6 hrs at night but every 2hrs in the day but i have a 28mth old ds aswell that wears me out enough, so i dont seem to get anything done

ok dp helps me out abit with the housework but basicly does what he done before i had baby num 2

it just feels like i have to ask him to do things when he should just do them like if lillie needs feeding instead of seeing that im busy doing housework and feed her himself he just sits there unless i ask him to do it or in the case it has been lately i end up shouting at him for just sitting there or walkin about in a strop stamping my feet about like a stroppy teenager making sure he knows ive got the ump

so your not alone luv if you need a b*** about men im here just pm me

awww hun.. men r such gits sumtimes..

I have 2 do all the night feeds as i don't have a partner.. but when nathans dad did come and visit and said he would do the night feeds it was like having 2 children 2 look after.

I prefer 2 get it done and then i can go bk 2 sleep lol

kick him up the ass.

i am not sleeping due 2 Ellie feeding every couple of hours in between that im trying 2 settle her and then its feed time again hubby isn't helping what so ever had a massive talk and said he would help out on the night but i can hardly get him up he moans his tired and then says i sat with ellie 4 an hour im tired i do it 24/7!! the only good thing iswhen he ent workin he gets up at 6:30 and has her untill i wake up around 9-10 so weekends!! i feel ill constant headaches bad back and its really bringing me down ive been fine with it untill 2night and im in tears im soooo tired and upset!!

sorry 4 rant xxxxx