oh chaz u silly thing!!!

lots of hugs 4 the afterpains i remember how abd they were with aeryn n im sooo not lookin 4wards 2 it this time. apparently they get worse with each 1 u have

thats the only problem with havinga hoem birht. in hosp ur forced 2 rest... with a hb u feel great n wna carry on nesting n show wot a "super mum" u can b... i did it with aerynn this itme i plan 2 lay in bed the whole of the next day, be pampured with breakfast in bed etc and enjoy some bonding time iwhthe new baby.

yesterday he made the kids toast 4 breakfast n managed 2 trash teh kitchen. i asked him last ngiht 2 do a bit in the kitchen... things like the utensils n bakin trays i havent done yet alone with dinner bits... all he did were half the dinner bits coz he only did wot was sat next 2 the sink!!!! n the chilli i cooked yesterday he left the saucepan 2 soak een tho all he needed 2 do was wipe it round with a cloth/sponge/brush n it would all have come straight off so no doubt if i go in2 kitchen il hav all that 2 wash.

good news tho....

he said 2 me 2day hes NOT going 2 b paying the sbscription so in 9 days time wen his free trial runs out il b rid of the damn game now iv said that tho he'll prob find sumthin really interesting in teh next 9 days n wna subscribe

oh well... been gettin contractions all night so heres hopin they get stronger so i can go in2 hosp n hav this baby n then he wont hava chance 2 go on the stupid bloody thing lol

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Hey hun - I've only just now got back on the PC after speaking this arvo! I hope you're OK, no doubt we'll speak later today...

(Everyone in bed - including Seth, I've got bad after pains again!)

...Jesus hun, I'm so sorry! Thankfully, Chris is an excersise freak (cycling and weight lifting) so I'm not a game widow - BUT I do actually think those games are a real addiction. I went to spend the weekend with my mum at hers last year and they were on those games, (all 4 of them, her, her hubby and my two brothers) all weekend.

I do know what you mean about men not understanding, as you know I had Seth at home on Wed morn and Chris took William out on a bike ride (he has one of those seats) on Wed afternoon so I could get some cleaning done. I did the living room and cleaned as much of the birth area as I could and promptly fell asleep on the sofa! Thursday morning, Chris is in a foul mood because he has to empty the bin in the kitchen and he just looked around the kitchen (fair enough, its in a bit of a state!) and pointedly said, What did you do yesterday!?

HELLO!!! I GAVE BIRTH YESTERDAY you selfish little man! He apologised straight away but he shouldn't of said it.

Anyway, I guess my point is, I'm terribly sorry you're going through this, I had terrible SPD with William so I know how debilitating it is. And even though Chris isn't lazy and has William all day most days (he also thanks me for cleaning the house), I know how it feels to feel unappreciated and taken advantage of. Hope you're feeling better soon. Lots of love xXx

I do feel for all of you having problems with your OHs but sorry to say its made me feel very lucky.  Yes, he has a DS and has been playing lots of Mario Kart lately and he bought a WII last month which I can't really use at moment due to carpal tunnel syndrome in my wrists/hands but he works very hard and its a way of winding down and I spend more time on Bounty and EBay than he does on his games.  However, he does help around the house, does his fair share of cooking dinner and does the food shopping.  We don't have any other kids either and have only been married 4 months so still in honeymoon phase I guess xx

I do feel for all of you having problems with your OHs but sorry to say its made me feel very lucky.  Yes, he has a DS and has been playing lots of Mario Kart lately and he bought a WII last month which I can't really use at moment due to carpal tunnel syndrome in my wrists/hands but he works very hard and its a way of winding down and I spend more time on Bounty and EBay than he does on his games.  However, he does help around the house, does his fair share of cooking dinner and does the food shopping.  We don't have any other kids either and have only been married 4 months so still in honeymoon phase I guess xx

I cant moan about my DP as he has been fab.

But have to sympathise with the SPD the last week mine has got dramaticly worse im taking that means she might of engaged or had a growth spurt?

I am so sore all the time now, and as you know i also have a young DD so can unterstand how hard it is for you having to chase two young ones around.

Just dont want you to feel alone hun as you can see your not.

I hope your DP pulls his finger out for you.

i wish i could do nothing and let the house get so messy! but i couldnt stand waiting for him to get off his arse!

munchkinpie - i actually cooked a big load of spag bol the other day n coz i was in pain i put the whole saucepan in the fridge until teh next day so i could stik it in bowls 4 the kids n freeze it...

went in there the next mornin n the stupid tw@t had taken it outteh fridge n lef tit sittin ont he side all ngiht... his reply "its only food" ffs - were broke enough as it is atm with me on SSP without him wasting 6/8 meals for the kids

ok iv been givne a good idea... ds can wait until dh gets home from work 4 dinner at 7pm as he doesnt go 2 bed until 8pm anyway and dd can hav cereal 4 breakfast.

n dnt even get me started on our bedroom. i had a big pile of kids cltohes that needed washing for ds, dd and bump and a big pile of clean stuff that needed 2 be put away, along with new clothes i bought for ds and dd.... dh decided 2 tidyt eh bedroom. has not only put all the kids clothes together - clean and dirty alike - so now i have to wash them all again, but he has also managed 2 lose the new clothes i bought a week ago!

the only floor space in our room is 2m fromt eh door to the bed thats abour 3cm wide. the rest is covered in his dirty clothes that he cant b bothered 2 ptu away in the wash basket (n he wonders y he never has clean clothes ) and a tonne of stuff to go up int he loft. i cant put the stuff up in the loft but until its up there i cant even start eh bedroom coz i cant reach half of it regardless ofthe fact iv got a broken pelvis thats refused to work for the last 5 motnhs and the fact i have a huge 8month bump

Oh hun! 

Being a "games widow" really isnt fun at the best of times.  DP would live on the bloody things if he got away with it.

I really blew up about it a few weeks ago when he was getting a tad too stuck to it again.  I wouldnt mind but he works in animation/post production and believe me spends a big part of 9-6 at work doing what I call playing he calls research.

About 2 years ago I actually threatened me or WOW and he thankfully made the right decision.

As for the kitchen stuff etc he needs a kick up the ass!  Whether you have spd or not at your state of pregnancy and little uns the kitchen should be the least of your worries.

Could you maybe give the kids a "lunch dinner" - mines love it when i do them sandwiches, yoghurt, fruit, crisps for dinner and make it a little picnic adventure.  Its not going to hurt them now and again ..... in fact mine are having french toast for dinner cause i just cant be bothered.

Sorry probably havent given much constructive advice. 

xxx

Oh other idea i just had - does your dad or a close friend cook?  Give them a little bit of money and load of tupperware tubs and ask them to do you a batch of shepards pies etc to keep in freezer.  If you were closer hun id do you a load but they might melt by time i get them to you

Awww hun hugs hugs I soo hear you there.  As you know my dh plays wow all the time it's soo frustrating aint it.  I know how you feel about your spd too as since bump dropping my hips feel like they've been wrenched apart.  It's just taken me 10 minutes to walk home from school when it's only 2 mins away the next road over.

I can't beleive (well yes I can look at my dh) how selfish he's being and not even cleaning a few things for you or getting something easy in for dinner hugs hugs.

I hope the kids eat for you tonight and go bed easy hugs certainly not nice being in pain and having to deal with the kids by yourself shall we have a huge crying and hugging session together hun let it all out. hugs

dh wont b home until 7pm, dd gets dinner at 5pm n bed at 6.15 (shes only 11months) and ds tends 2 eat with her. plus despite me askin him 2 get milk 4 ds on his way home hes gone out with no money so ds is gna hav 2 hav some hotchoc b4 bed instead of milk. i dont mind occasionally as hes 2 but id still prefer him 2 hav just milk iykwim.

n i cant even go 2 the shop myself as the double pram is 2 heavy 4 me with spd and the carier i cant use atm coz bumps 2 big

Don't worry. I think this is common among WOW widows! I think most guys are the same and I can't say that I haven't got annoyed at my bf for something similar. I think its just the male way, they don't tend to see things the same way we do and its really frustrating. 

My bf has been doing something similar where he's been complaining about having to get up at 7am to take me to teh station because I have a 1.5 hour commute to work while he has a 15 minute walk to work!! They really are insensitive, but ultimately they do love us, but have a funny way of showing it at times! 

i agree iv been stayin at my nans every couple of days as she has broke her back and when i get bk home its like nothing has been done for weeks even tho i clean b4 i leave. the sink will be full and we have a bloody dish washer! we moved in june and still the babies room is full of boxes so so far we have no cot or anything as there is nowhere to put anything till he shifts it to the attic! which i cant do or i would have by now!!!!!!!!!!!!

MEN!

hi there i've started with spd an it really bad so know how u feel havent been able to do as much as normal

why dont u get ur dh to bring take away home with him or order so u have eve to rest

men just dont understand how bad it is an never will cos they wimps

Men are annoying hey i know how you feel my OH plays WoW among other games. And is a bloody lazy git. I had the urge to finish the babies room yesterday and he refused to help so despite me being in "false" labour for the last week i did it all myself causing yet more pain but i couldn't stand waiting for him to help me any longer. He also promised that he would go out and get me somemore nappies and teats for my new bottles with his money as i've brought everything for LO so far and it turns out he can't now because hes just pre ordered the new warhammer game and bloody spore....

men truely are useless

my dh recently bought  a star wars game, an online version, and for those of you who know about WOW (World of Warcraft) its the star wars version of that.

andyway...

yesterday i did the whole kitchen. ordinairly not a hard task but iv had awful SPD since 10 weeks and there was not 1 clean item in the kitchen, no clean plates, bowls, cutlery, kids stuff, even bottles for dd NOTHING. anyway... i spent hours yesterday tidying it up, couldnt wlak come the evening, and i get no thanks. i took ds to teh shop while dd was in bed for a nap yesterday and asked dh to wash up 3 items... 2 lasagne dishes and a blander. all of which had been soaking for ages and all he needed 2 do was pour water out, wash and leave to dry on draining board. he washed one fine, the other lasagen dish still had crap all in teh corners and all over the outside and he didnt even touch the blender.  his excuse was "i did some baby bits" (this was basically 4/5 plastic plates and a few plastic knives and forks)

last ngiht i could barely walk coz i was in so much pain wih my pelvis and im teh same again 2day. dh very kindly lewt me have a bath and when i came down after havign it i cooked both the kids lunch. whil ei was in the bath he wanted 2 play on his SW game. thru no fault of my own the gams servers were down so he couldnt play on it. while i fed the kids lunch (or rather attempted to as they were refusing to eat) dh had a bath. i then tried to put dd down for a nap but because of dh saying she didnt need one she played up.

dh finally got to go on his game at 2.20pm - 20mins b4 he had to get ready 4 work b4 he had to leave at 3pm. he decides to "explore the desert" he said and then after 10mins of tryin 2 find a city so he gould log off without his little man getting killed he gives up in a huff.

iv done more work in the kitchen 2day whereas as per usual hes done jack sh!t. im in agony coz of my pelvis i jsut wna cry. dh has been yelling at me fom  2.50pm when he decided 2 "jsut log off coz he cant be doing with the grief from me" all i was gna ask him 2 do int eh kitchen was wash up a couple of bakin trays 4 me so i could cook dinner 4 the kids while hes at work. oh n i also asked him 2 go 2 the shop to get some spaghetti hoops so i oculd put something easy on 4 dinner without me gettin up n down 2 much.

all i wna do right now is cry. im so sick of this. he keeps sayin "im being pregnant" but how hard is it 2 want him 2 do some house work???

im now stuck at hoem with both the kids until he gets home from work, iv got nothin easy in 2 giv them 4 dinner so thats gna put me in more pain, n my dads workin in london until 6pm so by the time hes in the area its gna b 2 late 4 the kids dinner so i cant even get him 2 drop anythign in 2 me.

sorry. theres no point 2 this thread jsut needed 2 let it out

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