First of all big big hugs (( __))

2nd of all he is the pratt and you are completly faultless and please dont feel guilty, you gave him a second chance out of  the kindness of your heart anyone in your position would have done the same thing.

The prospect of being a single mum will be daunting but please please dont be afraid as you will find the strength to do it chick, when you have your lil girl in your arms your first instinct will be to protect her and do whats best for her, she will be your strength!

All i can think to say is do what is best for you and dont bother with him, you have yourself and your daughter to think about so focus on yourself and dont give him any energy.

hi hun, didnt want to read and run but dont really know what to say. that nasty p***.

you dont need to feel stupid. this isnt your fault. its him that should be feeling stupid.

you and your little girl will be fine without him hun. loads of cuddles sent your way.

shellie

Hope everything goes ok for you. BIG HUGS xxx

Doesn't he have some family or friends he can go and live with? I was going to suggest you go, but you haven't done anything wrong so he should go. I wish there were something more helpful I could say.

He's the stupid one, why would he do such a thing and risk losing both you and the baby. If you ever need to chat we're all here for you xxx

Oh hunni! It must be bad enough finding out about him cheating, but to have all this extra stress too!  leave him, you and your little-un will be absolutely fine on your own, and then you can devote all your attention to baby without worrying what he will be up to!

I hope all goes ok at the clinic, if you ever need to talk we are all here. you deserve someone so much better than him hun, i know its easier said than done. but you do not need this stress!

big big big hugs hunni, wish we could wave a wand and make it all better xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

OMG!! Big Hugs Sweetheart!!!!!

Don't really know what to say, and don't have any advice really but didn't want to read & run. Your going through a terrible ordeal babe and god only knows how you must be feeling. But in no way is this your fault hun.

Hope you & your baby are clear and wishing you all the luck in the world for whatever you decide to do xxxxx

Just wanted to send you (((big hugs)))

Take care of you and most importantly lo.

Lou xxx

dont really have any advise other than do NOT blame urself, this is not ur fault at all, and i hope he feels guilty for putting u and his baby through this.! just to let u no, SIL got chlamidia while she was pg as oh had cheated (a lot) she got rid of it, trusted him again, and it happened again, she ended up with chlamidia again bout 3 weeks before baby due, sent her into labour and she was warned bout all these risks, but here baby is perfectly fine and is now a healthy 8 yr old. dont know how thats meant to help u, just that u dont feel so bad as ur not the only one and also a case where it all ended up ok. x

Sending you Big ((((((((Hugs)))))))))  ((((((((((Hugs))))))))))

dont really know what to say but didnt wanna read and run  

Thanks girls im just so lost atm hes still staying with me atm as he has nowhere else to go. But the constant arguing and lying is starting to affect me i went into early labour on friday and the stress just makes it all the more difficult to deal with. I really had no idea that he was capable of cheating on me at all let alone with a man hes always been so sweet and loving. Just so worried ill still be a mess when baby gets here and its unfair on her.

Oh hun i really dont know what to say but i do hope your ok!!! you must be feeling all sorts of emotions right now but i do understand why you gave him a second chance, i would of done the same i think in your posistion, we will do anything when were in love!

Has your OH left now??

It's better knowing now if you have got something than after you have given birth, someone close to me didn't know she a an STD untill after she had the baby and he had poorly eye's so they took swab's and that's how they knew what it was ect, he is ok now but it was hard for the MUM to deal with, let's keep our fingers crossed that you haven't caught anything hun

xxx

OMG, what a terrible ordeal for you to go through. Firstly I just want to say that he has not made you look stupid, he has actually shown you how stupid and irresponsible he is, not you! I think it is time you both sat down and had a good chat about your future, as you will need to be able to trust him not to go off and do something like that again. Especially after you have had your baby, your hormones will be all over the place and you will need to be able to trust that he is not off putting it about. Sorry to be so blunt but I am shocked that he has put you through all of this. Big hugs to you, hope you can sort it out.

OMG, what a terrible ordeal for you to go through. Firstly I just want to say that he has not made you look stupid, he has actually shown you how stupid and irresponsible he is, not you! I think it is time you both sat down and had a good chat about your future, as you will need to be able to trust him not to go off and do something like that again. Especially after you have had your baby, your hormones will be all over the place and you will need to be able to trust that he is not off putting it about. Sorry to be so blunt but I am shocked that he has put you through all of this. Big hugs to you, hope you can sort it out.

Hi hun, i don't know what to say either but want to give you big (((((hugs)))))

I hope you and baby are in the clear.  Your DP has been very very stupid putting both yours and baby's health at risk.  Big (((((hugs))))) again xxxx

OMG I really don't know what to say, but didn't want to read and run.  Firstly you have NOT been made to look stupid - your OH has done that to himself, not to you.  He is the one looking like a class A t0sser at this precise moment in time.  I'm sending you tons of ((HUGS)).   I really hope everything comes back OK after your trip to the clinic, what a selfish w@nker to put you and his unborn child at risk like that. 

I know your future may appear quite a scary prospect now - presuming it will be just you and baby, but you really do deserve better and you and your baby will be better off without the stress of wondering whether your OH is being faithful and/or what diseases he's bringing home to you this time. 

I really think you should try and speak to your family if you can as you will need support through this time, don't try and deal with it all on your own.  xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

This really really isnt your fault so stop thinking that!

He has abused your trust - simple as!  You done the right thing in giving him a 2nd chance back when you first found out and you would only have forever had that "what if"  guilt had you not.

You will cope as a single parent hun - its scary but in my experience you cope and in the end its better than being in a rotten relationship.  I was on my own with a 3 and 5 year old and i coped as do many many others ..... it will give you and bubs that extra special bond.

I really cant believe he has put you and bubs at risk so def think you need to discuss with mw risks etc (which you may have done already)

Also you will feel so much better if you find one family member or friend to confide in ........ dont keep all this inside you have nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about

all my love

xxxx

Bless you I don't really know what to say other than he's behaved despicably!!! Were you aware that he was bi-sexual or did that come as a complete shock to you?  Its bad enough that he would cheat on you at any time but even worse when you're heavily pregnant and it doesn't sound like he used contraception either before coming back and sleeping with you.  Only you can decide what you do next but it doesn't sound like he can be trusted and although I hate to say it, you and your LO maybe better off on your own xx

hey hun

cant really offer any advice but wanted to give you lots of hugs, cant imagine how you must be feeling

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I know this has nothing to do with anything pregnancy related but i just need to vent sorry girls

My OH and i have been together for just over 3 years and until i got pregnant i thought it was a great relationship we were like best mates aswell as lovers we were extremely close and told eachother everything (so i thought)

But 4 weeks after i got pregnant he got a text on his phone from a number we both didn't recognise so he showed me, it was from some guy asking how he was and why he hadn't been in contact for afew weeks.He denied all knowledge of who it was for days but i know when he is lying so decided to text back and ask who it was thats when i wished i hadn't it turns out he had been texting and msning this guy for months. And they were planning to meet up. at first i thought he was a fellow gamer and was confused to why my OH hadn't mentioned it so probed deeper and found a whole secret email account where he had been chatting up guy and girls behind my back it had been going on for ages.

We spilt up for 2 months and he promised it was a one off and would never happen and because i loved him i believed him and stupidly took him back, everything was forgotten and it all went back to normal life was good i was really looking forward to being a proper family till he started playing his games till 3am in the morning and sleeping on the sofa or waking me up when he came to bed. I ignored it because i really trusted he was just playing his stupid games till a week ago he told me i needed to go to a sexual health clinic because he had caught an STI off a random guy he met offline... so now im waiting to find out if me and my baby could have it and i've been reading how STI affect babies and i feel like its all my fault for trusting him again and putting my little girls life at risk.

I don't have any friends that i can tell or family as they would go mad or tell me its my fault i just feel so alone and all this only weeks off my due date looks like now i'll be a single mother

sorry for the long random post just really needed to get it off my chest

xx