yeh go chrissie go!!  The cheeky git!!

Well yeh he;s gonna have to get used to the idea that he can only see him weekends. After all he's the one who chose to walk out on us... what did he expect?!

i saw your pictures of ethan ... he is gorgeous no wonder you are both fighting over him!!  I dont think its healthy that you should have him 2 weeks each, the poor lil man would be living in his suitcase all the time.  he needs stability, like you say.  little boys love their dads its a man thing.  I dont think he would choose him over you.  If ex wants to see ethan then he will have to make the effort to see him @ weekends and stuff.  Its not ur problem.  All you want is more stability for ethan he should understand that.  stand up to him dont let him win u are doing whats best.... chin up!!

He was going to nursery 2 and half hours a day, but since being pg i havent been able to walk that far so he will be starting again when lo is born

If he doesn't need to change the arrangement just yet I wouldn't.  He will just accept the change when he goes to school.  Does he go to preschool now?  He may just be saying this to have a go back so you can see what it feels like(?)

Choices need to be made in terms of schools quite soon, but honestly, boys need their Mummies, especially at this age!

it sound like he is being an awkward t!t to me chrissie... surley if he wants to see his son that much he will move closer....

Yeh he wont be starting till next year. Was just thinking that it'd be a good idea to start having him with me more now to get him used to being here permanently

Thats what i told him , he'd just have to have him at weekends and holidays. Not sure how his partner feels about it, guessing she doesnt have a problem with it

If he's 3 he's not going to school until sept 09 - is that right.  So why does the choice need to be made now?  I know you apply for schools in Dec (and you will be really busy around then!) but if you want him at home you should have that choice.

There are plenty of school holidays and weekends for him to be there.

My dh works very long hours and only gets to see the kids at weekends and holidays (and sometimes in the middle of the night!)  He works away a lot too.  So even though we are together he doesn't see that much of the kids - your ex may need to accept that he is a fortunate situation at the moment as your ds isn't a school and he can do that.

Either that or he moves closer?

It shouldn't have to be all of your compromise.

Sarah x

thats horse s-h-i-t init not everywhere in bham is a s-hole at all. i definatley agree that ethan should be with you until he is old enough to choose where he wants to stay. Maybe you could sugest he see's ethan everyother weekend and more in the holidays?

And how does his partner feel about all of this ?

what gets to me is that if Ethan was to decide, i think he'd choose his dad.... and it breaks my heart

Oh look at me now, sat in tears!

well i live in birmingham and him in north wales, and he thinks that everywhere in bham is a s***hole lol, i actually live in a nice place. and he is due his 2nd in jan too....

HMMM this is a tricky one chrissie.... Have you got the better school near you? its obvious he will be better with you anyways as you are having another baby and it will be good for ethan to bond with his little sister.... Sorry im not much help but i hope you get it sorted pretty quickly xx

Ok heres the story

DS is 3 and me and his dad have him 2 weeks each out of the month so that he gets to see us both equally, and when he's at his dads he can see my parents as i dont live near them.

Just been talking to him saying i think we should start keeping him with me more so that he gets used to not seeing his dad for so long, as he'll be starting school next year and will be with me full time....

He's decided now that he's not happy with it, and thinks ds should stay with him and go to school at his, He's a great dad and i know that he's gonna miss him loads but it was arranged before we decided that he'd see him more. I'm worried that he's going to make things difficult.

If Ethan was older then he'd be able to choose where he'd rather stay full time, but obviously he's not old enough to decide that.... How do i make him see sense? He believes he would be better with him