Thanks everyone for your words of comfort. I had to get the feelings off my chest. I am glad i am not the only one who has experienced this. it has made me feel so much better reading your replies, i have now started thinking about names and hubby is going to get Ds baby clothes out of the loft so i can start washing and sorting them, and this is making me feel a lot happier. xxxx

Dear All,

It is my first time on here, my third baby is due on new years eve. I already have 2 boys and have always been desperate for a girl. I wanted to let you know I felt exactly the same when I found out my second was a boy. I put on a brave face to everyone but inside I was gutted I cried and cried  when I was alone and then felt so guilty for being ungrateful. It took a few weeks to come to terms with it and to get past everyone saying "never mind" to me that then made me angry. When he was finally born the instant he was put onto my chest I couldn't believe how I could have ever felt like that, he was a beautiful baby and now at 4 is the most loving child and a real mummy's boy. I promise it will be fine even if you feel dissapointed now. x

Hey, i know how you feel! Thi is my 3rd baby and my littliest s only 14 months old! I am finding it really hard to get excited about this one, i'm not sure if it's because i have just done it all and did it with my first aswell! I couldn't find out at my scan what i am having which i was really upset about as i found out with both my boys and i really really want a girl! It doesn't help that my oh is not excited at all about it, we had planned to go shopping after te scan to get baby bits, hadnt bought anything till then , and when we came out he said whats the point in going shopping when we don't know what it is! I could have swung for him!! He shows no interest at all!! Once bubs is here you will feel totally different, i was convinced my second was a girl and felt the same as you when i found out he was a boy! But i love him to pieces and did from the moment he was born! (and i put a pony tail in his hair the other day lol! was very cute) x x

I  felt abit disappointed when i found out this baby is a  boy too as i already have a son and my hubby doesnt want more than two children so i wont have a little girl either.i felt guilty for feeling abit disappointed but now im really happy.I love my bump to bits and i know i will adore this little boy.I do always tell people im having another little boy though before they ask what im having as people automatically think you want a girl if you have a boy already and i feel very protective of him and dont want people to think we are unhappy that its a boy.Silly really,shouldnt care what other people think!

I know exactly how you feel. I have 2 boys already and i felt disappointed when i had my second boy as i was desperate for a girl.

I am preg with my 3rd (very unplanned) and i have found out that this one is also a boy. I to will never have a girl. People keep asking me if i know what it is and i say no as i know they will feel sorry for me!! I actually was not bothered this time but a part of me thought this may be a girl. My 2 boys do not want a girl and want a brother so i guess they will be happy.

I dont think its wrong to want a particular sex baby. You will be fine and you will get your head round it. My 2 boys play well and are really close so i hope no 3 fits in ok. I still have a yearning when i see girls but i just have to look at what i already have and i soon forget.

Hi Ellen

I really wanted a little girl too as we only plan on having one, but its a boy. At first i was disappointed, OH really wanted a daddy's girl, mother in law wanted a grand-daughter as she had two boys and I really wanted to buy pretty little clothes etc. Then I thought back to my first scan when they told me i had an increased risk for DS and how delighted we were when further tests gave much better odds and I realised that actually all I want is a healthy baby and if that is a boy then that is fine by me....not used to baby boys but I believe they are much closer to their mums and less problamatic in their teens. I now feel so protective of my little one and am actually proud to be having a boy now we have given him a name OH even talks to him now! I do still look at little girl clothes though!

We have booked for a 3d/4d scan to bond a bit more with him, do you think that would help you once you see his little face?

I asked scanning lady if def boy as I couldn't tell she said couldn't say def as not allowed to but it had a penis and balls so look at it how you want to. too the point I suppose.

Cried till my eyes were nipping and I couldn't anymore - which unfortunatley meant I was sick in the process lol. Then I zoned out watching crap telly and just tried not to think about it. It's not gone away but I don't feel devestated anymore, I actually feel really silly and ungrateful but I'm not accepting it either if that makes any sense. My gut feeling is that it's a boy and as I didn't get to see on screen coz she was a cow she might still have it wrong. I'm preparing myself for another girl but treating bump as yellow till it arrives or till hubby lets me have a gender scan xx

pbandjelly.  Your words are so true what helpfull advice. I hope I don't feel let down for long as I really want to enjoy this pg like I did my 1st as this will be my last. How did you overcome your feelings???

Scottishbq - yeah, have been on here before but not loads, just come on whenever i get the chance x

Just let your self feel like it hunni, I'm not quite the same but felt disappointed yesterday after my scan nonetheless. I found I felt worse as I was beating myself up about it, you'll work though it and I'm sure you'll end up having a wonderful bond, it'll just take a bit of time. It sounds a bit weird but your grieving in a way for the daughter you're not going to have and like getting over anything you have to accept it before you can move on xx

Ellen - are you new to this site as not seen you on here before?

Hi ellen

I am exactly the same I was looking at clothes the other day and wasn't interested 1 little bit. I too wanted a little girl as I now will never have a daughter. I don't need to shop as I have everything from my ds. I was so excited about 1st pg. when spoke to dh about it he said its prob because youv'e done it all before & my labour was horrific.I now I will snap out of it sooner or later just feel bad at the minute for feeling like this

You might feel different when you finally meet your son ? Good luck to you hun xx

didnt want to read and run but sorry chick ive not had those feelings but im sure you be ok xxx

21+1

I am 22 wks with my second and am having real trouble getting excited about this one. last time I was sooo excited and couldn't wait to start getting things ready. I was also utterly convinced that this one was a girl, but it is a boy. I am not upset that it is a boy, but i can't help being upset that it is not a girl and I will never have a daughter. Even my 2 1/2 year old asked me yesterday if i minded having 2 boys.  I feel so bad having these feelings. Is it just me, or has anyone else felt like this? I really wanted to enjoy this pregnancy as I won't be doing it again xx