You must be psychic as I was going to post something like this today.

Wife is pregnant with second, and it seems I can do no right, waht so ever. Normally she is so chilled about everything, but she is crying loads.

Thing is, I find it difficult and am snapping back too.

She is really struggling this time around, she is exhausted, constantly, so I am trying to up my levels of help, by doing the washing and household chores, I try and take little man out at weekends and do the night bathtimes and put him to bed.

Thing is, I'm getting to the point where I need to be out fo the house for a few hours, even if its down the pub (been out 3 times this year so far, considering we'd be out at least once or twice a fortnight, its a big difference).

Her friends have stopped coming over to see her, my friends have stopped coming around, its difficult to visit friends when our mums live alone...

Anyway, I've upped the help, I'm off to the pub for the day on saturday (was going to watch tottenham play) but staying local in case she needs anything.

Can't wait to get my wife back!

When it comes to the birth, you know what to expect, that could be good or bad.

Problem is after the birth. You can't put your feet up and rest like you did first time round.

All the sleepless nights and sleepless days because the toddler never sleeps! And if he/she does. it won't be the same time as the new baby.

That was just the top of the list of my anxietiys.

Be supportive, and try and talk all the worries through. A problem shared is a problem halved.

This is my second baby too and i'm more paranoid and worried this time as I am more aware of what could go wrong.  I also have another child to look after so then worry i'm not resting enough etc this time round as i'm busy with my dd, and then the other worry would be that if something went wrong then my dd would be affected because she is 3 and aware that she has a sibling coming. ALSO i worry about how having a sibling will affect her, will she feel pushed out?  will she start reverting back to wanting to be baby? etc etc.  It's much more worrying in subsequent pregnancies as you have other children to think of.  I am single mum so thankfully don't have an other half (often like having another child haha) to look after but i definately think you should try and be supportive of her and try to take in to account that she will probably also have a lot of the same feelings that i am having about not resting enough, lo feeing left out etc.  Another point would be if she has previously had post natal depression, as i had that after dd and i'm really worried it may return so it's making me worry and be snappy.  Hope that helps   Good luck with your impending arrival xxx

A pregnant woman needs to feel supported especially with all the hormones flying about.

Maybe its more you with the problem then her??? only a thought

Is anyones mrs worse the second time around???? We are on our second and 2nd June is the big day and it seems like she has metamophasised into Mrs Bucket (Keeping up appearances).

Could someone please advise