i just wanted to say u sound like such an amazing partner and dad!

Using my girlfriends account.

She is currently coping with dperession so is at high risk of PND. All I can say is try to be patient understand that its not her fault when she's like this. I know at times it gets hard but you just have to stick to your guns and shouting at her isn't going to help. Beiong patient and understanding is the key.

i myself had mild pnd n decided not to take meds as i had seen my aunt go thro it.

my aunt was at the docs every other month as the meds she was given didnt work for her. she missed out on so much of my cousins first year because of this, she didnt kno 1 day from the next. it was heartbreakin to watch n her oh at the time was a waste of space, he done nothing but put her down, sayin she was fat n stuff like tht. plus he didnt even lift a finger to help her.

be patient with her, i seen ur thread is relationship/sex, dont give up on her.

i don't normally post on here, but i wanted to share my expereance.

to start of my hubby wasnt as good as you have been, helping with lo,cooking etc..  but after 9-10 months or so he finaly blew.. he said he couldnt cope and that he was leaving.  that night i cryed like i never did before, it was the kick that i needed and vowed to myself and him that i would  really try to get better.

after all no one can help your wife, untill she starts to help herself. i dont mean that in a harsh way, as i know how very hard it is to battle pnd. (or any sort of depression)

it didnt get better striaght away, but i started to see light at the end of the tunnel after a month.

i'm not saying go home and leave your wife,  this is just what worked for me.

maybe a hard talk will help both of you.

depression doesnt just effect one person it effects every one.

Hi

Is your OH showing signs of PND? If you dont mind me asking, what are these signs? If you do suspect she has it i say get her down to the GP's immediately so that they can start getting it sorted out before it really takes hold of your life. But make sure you go with your OH, as she may not be totally honest with the doc.

My wife went to the docs several times alone and they never diagnosed her, but i knew something wasnt right, so i had enough and decided to go along with her. This was about 4 months ago. They diagnosed her on the day with PND and started her on medication immediatly. At first the medication made a massive difference and i had the wife back that i'd married. It lasted about 3 or 4 weeks. Sadly however I think her PND then got worse and the medication is no longer proving effective. She has made an appointment to return to the docs so hopefully they will up the med and help her get better.

hi,

My OH is only circa 7months....but it almost seems as though she is having a few symptoms of pnd.......tbh it sounds as though you are doing quite well...once ur wife recovers i'm sure she will realise how much of a sterling guy you have been and will be very grateful.

I would like to say i respect the fact that you are making the effort....people dont realise how hard it can be for the guy most of the time.

Has she been diagnosed/spoke to the GP etc...is she receiving treatment??

It is hard not to argue back...unfortunately it takes time though, good luck and we r all rooting for you!

Hi

Do any of the dads here have partners who suffer PND. If so, how do you guys cope?

My wife was diagnosed with PND a few months back, although i suspected she had it from the start. It really has affected our relationship in a huge way and has pretty much destroyed the marriage where we are on the verge of a divorce.

Problems with my family, arguments at home and the PND have made life hard. I've tried dealing with it as best i can by being as supportive to my wife as possible, not asing for sex, helping her cook and clean, being a very hands on dad with my daughter, but it seems whatever i do, i end up doing something wrong which results in arguments. I always tell myself not to react to my wife as she is ill, but in the end i cannot hold it in and just argue back.

Do any of you dads here have similar problems?