thanks for your reply.I am not sure when it is as i just went in there before after he had gone to work and saw that the last fag that was there has gone, so not sure when he went in there to take it since Sat as I have been in when he has!! Idon't want to approach him again for it to end up in an argument, so I thinkI am just goingto leave it for now and if a new box appears in there then I am going to ask him then and have it with me as evidence! I just want him to stop lying to me and want to know why he has done.

hiya hun
sorry not a dad but a mum to be
anyway, i hate to admit this but i smoked and my ex hated it. i we agreed and i stopped smokin infront of him and in the house and did it on walks to the shop, when i was with mates etc etc. if i was you i wouldnt approach him with the money thing cuz he can easy turn around and say "well its my money" and then it will end in an argument .. iv been there lol. When do u think he is smoking? maybe when you suspect he is having a crafty fag pop out to see if he wants a coffee,,, catch him red handed .. i know that sounds harsh but if u have asked him streight out before and he denied it, he will deny it again. and again. and again. 
dont really know what to say but i didnt want to read and run.
xx

Hi, I wasn't sure where to post this for advice so please try and help me if you can......

Beginning/mid last year I suspected my df was smoking which he knows I hate and was keeping it from me, when we met he wasn't otherwise I would not have moved in with him and got engaged in the first place!! I asked him about it as there were some empty packets of fags in his bedside table and also a pack with some in.  He said he wasn't and they were from when he had some weed left over and smoked it some nights to help him sleep (I know he has smoked this before a few times with his matesand knew when we got together - and as long as he doesn't do in house or all the time I don't mind) - he said there was none left now and soI believed him (as you would).

Then a few months ago I found a receipt in the bedroom for fags and questioned him again and he said he didn't know where it had come from and then tried to look confused but to me looked guilty(ish) and then said his mate had given him money that he had owed him and maybe passed it with that. I even said that of he was he should just tell me and I was giving him chance to, but he said he wasn't and that was that.

But since then I have been in his garage and there have been fags in his toolbox and they keep going down. Just been in there now to check and there are fags stubs on the floor near a chair that I havent noticed before and 2 lighters there and there are 2 empty fag boxes in his toolbox and another box with 1 left which wasn't there when I last checked(which was a while ago as we have got a 4 week old baby and I was in and out of hospital ill before having him - we also have a 5 and a 2 yr old).

How can I again confront him without him lying to me and do I really want him to know I have been keeping an eye on them an snooping in his stuff in his garage? I think it is safe to say he is smoking and lying to me about it!! I was going to take the fags and lighters and just see whether he asked me about them!!

Another thing aswell as the lying is that we are strapped for cash at the moment asI am not working at all and are relying on his money solely, so why spend money on them!! I know it isn't weed he is smoking as the man he used to get it from died in a road accident last year.

What should I do? Am I over reacting? I am so angry and really upset that he keeps lying!!