ok im a gatecrasher sorry i am a reltionship counciler guy (no credentials voulentry) but im a bi guy does this help im married sadly it perfect marrage sorry

ok (im being hinest and appologise if i upset anyone in this story/assistance)

this guy dp should understand you as you ok you get scared comfort you you get cramps help you get comfey you are doing 2 of the most stressfull things ever lets be fair YOUR BOTH STRESSED THE SAME now dp saying he wanted to leave you and not im not overly sure sorry however maybe he is now feeling guilty and trying to use you as the reason when its not you but it puts his mind at ease for a reason to leave

NOTE: please be carefull no ammount of stress deserves any type of abuse the things you describe (swearing,throwing things,shouting at you for nothing) all of these things are classic domestic abuser first stage im sorry to say it

stage 2 is a degradation  telling you your not good enough ignoring you calling you stupid silly ect making you feel inadiquet using you eg sex tidy up expect t and shout when its not done ect

please please look into this before its to late even if i am barking up the wrong tree please just be safe and ring someone profetional for advice

maybe you're both very tired as you're doing up the house. It can be stressful. If he's not answering your calls and responding to you then leave him alone. If you keep calling him you might really piddle him off. I'm sure he'll talk when he's ready.

Apologies for all the dreadfull grammar and spelling mistakes..am typing in dark so as not to wake lo xx

Jessica05 hunny, i totally sypathise with you. this time last year when i wa due today actualy, mu dh had been a complete tw*t  for a few weeks..i really couldn't believe that he could be like that whewn i w as pg with our 1st baby.....we too had to do up opur house rather quickly even thogh we knew when we got masrried that we were gonna try anf start a family..didn't know it would happen on our honeymoon, but that's no excuse...

basically my dh was a complete git to me..he thinks he was ace..while i was pg, i ws scrubbing floors and rubbing down at 38+1 but i wasn't soing enough..even when i was 40+1 and i had a v paionful membrane sweep he still wouldnb't miss cricket and yelled at me for making him feel bad that he stayed and played even though i was bleeding v bad!!! 4 days later our baby was was born but i have never ever forgiven him for choosing cricket ove me at that time...and he really don't understand why...wish i could tell yoiu the whole stry but it is too lopng and far too upsetting for me to have to go  in to even this far on, cos i will NEVER forgive him EVER. Sadly that is eating into or relatyionship cos i hate him for it and can't move on...please don't get to this point cos you will never go back. hopeyou  get it sorted  pm me if you need to chatx. xx

When I was doing up our new house and my wife had to stay at home (other house) to watch little one (who was only a few months)

Everything went wrong in the house, I was frustrated.. tired... didnt want to do the house anymore etc etc etc

I just wanted to be left alone to keep my santity.... I tried too hard with the house which took 3 months

We didnt have too much of a relationship during this time... but to be honest we didnt actually argue we just didnt speak, I just came back to sleep

I suggest you talk to him a bit more, if he is tired then just leave him.... stock a few beers in the fridge and some nice food

I am aware you will be tired also, but if he is working and doing the house he wont have anytime to himself

Thoughts?

im not male LOL but hope youve managed to sort it out now

me and dp are arguing again. we fell out back in the beginning of may, he said he was leaving me. weve been fine since, had a couple of little niggly incidents but nothing major.

were still doing up the house and last night it was going t1ts up, its been going that way all week and last night he got so frustrated everything was my fault. ive not actually done anything other than p*** him off for being alive i guess. i obvioulsy cant do anything and everythings down to him but becuase everything keeps going wrong it looks like hes not doing anything when hes trying so much and so hard. everything seems to be against us.

last night was the worst ive had for a long while (since may) i couldnt sleep i kept having ligament pains and waking up, went to the toilet twice. thunder and lightening woke me up (i get scared) then i had the worst cramp in my right leg ive ever experienced. i was crying it hurt that much and wouldnt go and i couldnt put my leg anywhere. of course all these time i woke up i woke up dp who was totally exhausted. and to top it all off he was in a mood, very angry and not talking to me. he ended up throwing his mobile phone / alarm clock across the room telling me thanks for keeping him up all night. and then he told me to fu*k off and to leave him alone when i was coming out of the bedroom when i told him that i love him and im sorry for what ive done.

ive tried to call him since ive been at work (3 times) and hes been getting ready for work, and all 3 times hes cancelled the call, so i sent a text telling him i love him and that can we talk about it all and sort it out when he gets home. ive not had a reply.

please, please can you give me advice. it would mean a lot.

Im 34+2 days pregnant