Hiya

You as the parent need to decide who your daughter sees. Obviously if the contact is going well with the father then there is no need to change that arrangement but if it were me I would speak to my solicitor and clarify the situation and get the contact you want. The girlfriend has no legal rights at all. From a professional point of view..I'm a social worker we usually want to see good contact with the father first before any other relatives are introduced to the scene as this can cause uneccessary upset for the child. There are exceptions if other family members have been one of the main carers then they would be offered contact but in your case I would have thought it would be one to one to start with. You need to clarify this with your solicitor and then get her to respond accordingly. Good Luck!

Well I think it should be jst 1 2 1 with his daughter shes 9yrs but when she was 7 1 of the last occations she had contact wiv her dad ( I stopped it as he tried 2 attack me again & the girlfriend told my daughter that I didnt love her as I didnt run in2 their flat 2 try & get her (as he was tryin 2 attack me) Im still so angry that she said this 2 my daughter & dont really want her near her,my son has witnessed alot & doesnt want any contact wiv them at all he is 14yrs but I would never stop the contact as it should be their desition but dont want my dd or ds 2 witness domestic violence again,Im so confussed I want it 2b their choice, but am so scared that the contact ruling will change 2 direct contact, my partner has been pickin up & dropping off dd as even in the court ex & his partner shouted abuse at me & even waited outside 4 me. Mayb I should leave it & allow her 2b there I jst feel its her dad shes goin 2 see not the girlfriend. mayb Im wrong I donno?

Dont see why not

TO CUT LNG STORY SHORT I SPLIT FRM X HUBBY 2YRS AGO AS HE WAS ALWAYS HAVIN AFAIRS BUT MOST OF ALL WAS ABUSIVE 2 MYSELF & HIS SON, MY SON IS 14YRS & DOESNT WANT CONTACT WIV HIS DAD BUT DAUGHTER WHOS 9YRS DOES,                                                                                                                                                  HIS NEW GIRLFREIND WAS HAVIN AN AFFAIR WIV HIM WEN DD WAS 6MTHS OLD,I HAD ALLOWED MY DD 2 STAY AT HIS WIV THEM BOTH AT 1ST BUT THEY BOTH STARTED 2 HARASS ME eg CALLING CONSTENTLY THEATS ECT POLICE WERE INVOLVED,                                                                                                                                                   I HAVE RECENTLY ALLOWED CONTACT AT A CONTACT CENTRE, IT WAS THE 2ND TIME LAST WKEND & WAS SURPRISED THAT HIS GIRLFREIND WAS WIV HIM AS THOUGHT IS WAS ONLY 4 THE FATHER,SHE HAS ONLY MET MY DD ON A COUPLE OF OCCATIONS SO NOT SURE WHY SHE SHOULD BE THERE, HE HASNT SEEN DD FOR OVER A YEAR B4 CONTACT STARTED, DO U THINK ITS NECESSARY 4 HER 2B THERE???   SORRY ITS IN CAPS