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9/7/08 19:02
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6/7/08 21:43
DP - are you eating again chubb?
what a load of rubbish about hormones your just feeling sorry for yourself.
why are you tired? you dnt do nothing all day? (no i was only up at 5 this morning)
MIL -- is he hungry again? have you changed his nappy recently, I am sure its dirty..please check...(whats wrong with your eyes?)
you will wean him when he is going to school...6mths is far too late (you a hv now?)
my mil does my head in too!
6/7/08 21:40
if she smiles at me she says no thats just wind then she adds for good measure se smiled at me first .... erm no she didnt she was 3 weeks when the supposed first smile happened i got one at 4 and half weeks now when i call her boo boo he smiles even the hv said its a smile but she wont do them for anyone else hehehe
6/7/08 21:36
MIL say the most annoying things the one i get all the time:
I say something and my DD looks at me and she says "oh she knows you" (of course she bloody does shes 19 weeks old and has been with me every single day... Just cos your bloody jealous) Sometimes i wanna shout and say SHES MY DAUGHTER IF YOU WANT TO DO IT YOUR WAY YOU HAVE ANOTHER BABY!!!! GROW UP WOMAN!!!!
Another one i always get off MIL " i never had a girl to buy pink for" (Yes cos you had 3 boys and was very lucky to get them with IVF etc be thankful for what you have got,.. anywho you now have two grandaughter so buy things for them..."Oh i dont want to spoil her!" an odd gift here and there isnt spoiling its called bloody thoughtfulness!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! GGGGGGRRRRRRRRRR MOTHER IN LAWS DO MY HEAD IN!!!!!!!!!!
6/7/08 21:27
lol trace soooooo bloody true
rich says
shes crying again she wants boob
can you not do your job and get her asleep..... no ive just been sitting in the bedroom for 3 hours feeding and rocking and walked her round the block as well as finding time to bath all 3 kids getting the other 2 in bed by 8 and not even managed have tea yet when at 11 she finally nods off i go in the kitchen to get food when he walks in and says
you eating again fatty youll never get rid of then hips so i finish my food and go get ready for bed when he comes in and says o so your going bed now you never spend time with me and he slams the door waking baby up so i feed her and fall asleep then when the other kids wake up he shouts me to deal with them even tho hes still up watching telly plus feeding baby so im up all night then when the alarm goes off for school he says its your turn im shattered
then dont go bed a 3am!then he gets up at 11 has a poop tells me go get a paper and then he reads it while having a poop and then says hes tired and goes back bed till 4 pm at which point ive had to get toby from school feed the kids and woke the baby as mil wants to go grandads earlier and he doesnt like me bf infront of him so baby gets hysterical as she can smell me but mil wont pass her too me and says its wind and i need to top over feeding her then when i get in rich calls me lazy as i didnt make him tea and manage clean the kitcen after tea i swear im gonna stab him one of these days
6/7/08 21:17
omg this has cheered me up so much
i swear mils are the worst mine is trying to get me to bottle feed so she can give her a bottle once a week
then when she cries when mil piks her up its ooooo she must have wind you really must swap her to bottle itd stop all that nasty wind
and when baby wakes at 5 am and her precious son shouts at me and calls me lazy for putting bubs in bed with me which then wakes er and the other 2 kids up so i then have to feed them all get toby ready for school and get the other 2 dressed and myself looking decent then clean up before the school run and she says well next time just drop the kids into me while you clean up cuz your carpets could do with a good clean then you can just take toby scholl while i watch the baby well i could if youd stop being selfish and swap to bottle....
i mean wtf i dont wanna bottle feed as her lazy arsed son will do f*** all and havig to wash and make up ottles everyday is just one more thing to add to the i cant be arsed with pile grrrr6/7/08 20:58
This is a great thread, has given me a good chuckle. My favourite line is, you sure she is 8 weeks, looks alot younger than that.
Some classics from my mil:
Your sure your not depressed, I cried for the first year after your dh sister was born. (Only cried when my boobs where bleeding at 4 days after dd was born.)
You must really miss your mum. (actually have gotten over the fact that my mum is 16,000 km away)
From Dh
I'm so tried, (well, go to bed before 11pm and get a good night sleep we have children remember)
Trace have you feed her, she is chewing her fist again. ( Yes remember I just had her attched to my boob for 15mins)
Trace does she need feeding because she is crying again. ( well hold her and stop dd1 using her stomach as a pillow.
Trace and Niamh 8weeks
6/7/08 20:30
This thread is great. I've been getting so fed up with some of comments, particularly from MIL.
1 when DD couple wks old and i was having bad weepy day..."didn't you know how hard it is " No this is my first grrr.
2 same day "careful you don't get depressed" well if you may be made me a drink i mite feel betta
3 can my friend come to see baby... when is good time for you, i reply not mornings. can she come after work then, when is that i ask... about half 10 to 11 am.... DER is that not still morning!!!
There's loads more but i can't laugh when i think of them all i get wound up. Because that's all i seem to get every time i see her and 3 months on it aint any betta!!! But at least now i know i'm not alone. LOL
6/7/08 20:19
Seppy - too young to be ill? whats that all about!!!
Mil said to me the other day that I neednt worry about dd getting ill as babies couldnt get ill in the first 6 weeks of their life! and this is from someone that has brought up 3 children!
6/7/08 20:17
Forgot my favourite - I had the sun/UV cover on my Phil and Ted and a little old lady came up to me and asked what it was and then said I was suffocating my child (dread to think what she would have made of DD underneath!!!)
6/7/08 20:14
Tee Hee - I just say 'Gold top mummy milk......................and the odd roast dinner'. I also get the 'are you sure' when I say she's 3 months old - just long and very alert.
When I have DD in the moby wrap and DS on reins - "You've got your hands full", I do and I understand when 1 (or both) are crying, but they are generally so well behaved. Also with the wrap I do laugh when older people tell me 'Of course we didn't have those in my day' It's a 5m piece of fabric, of course you had them - just didn't use them,
6/7/08 18:12
Steak n chips lol people tell me i shud be feedin my ds mince n tatties. Cracks me up!
6/7/08 17:51
pmsl i have the same thing with my dd as she is a chunk its amazing how people say cor she likes her food
how rude!!! either that or say are you feeding her again?? well if i didnt you would look coz shes screamin
oh and one of the in laws friends said when she had an ear infection shes to young to be ill wtf does that mean???
6/7/08 17:24
pmfsl at steak and chips!
6/7/08 17:15
love this thread! Ok, ive just had my 3rd baby - DD, also have DS1 and DS2. Everyone says...."are you glad u had a girl after having 2 boys?" - Erm, im just glad i hav another healthy baby and childbirth is now a distant memory!!
Another one, i had a fab homebirth this time and hav been asked..." did u hav a cesearean" and "did u go 2 hospital after u had her?" - Wot wud b the point of a HB if i was gonna go in 2 hospital afterwards!!
"How r the boys with the baby?"- Well they havnt exactly started a petition 2 get her put back in my womb!!
My personal favourite, when baby was fast asleep in car seat wen visiting relatives " I think i'll just walk past the seat and kick it so she wakes up and i can hav a hold of her then!" - Anyone who thinks kicking a sleeping baby is a gud idea is certainly not going 2 hold her whether shes awake or asleep!!!
6/7/08 09:59
Gate crashing from 4 - 6 months but you've given me a good giggle this morning so thought i would add...
From BIL on msn to OH.."How are Loz (me) and Emily doing"? WTF? I'd answer if i knew who Emily was but my daughter is called Sophie
An old lady in Boots stopped me to admire lo and asked me how old she was, so i told her 6 weeks and then i get "Are you sure?" Errm, well i seem to remember being in hospital about 6 weeks ago being told to push so yes IM SURE SHE'S 6 WEEKS OLD
My lo is a chunky monkey and people ask me all the time what im feeding her, now i just reply with steak and chips twice a day with a perfectly straight face and carry on the conversation, it's worth it to see the look on their faces!
6/7/08 08:39
This is a great post.
I got a DD 16 months so always get the comment of "they are close together did you plan it that way?" (Yes we did)
"Your going to wait a while till you have your next" Is it any of your business?
"Next time your going to try for a boy?" Well I'm quite happy to have two beautiful girls thank if a boy comes then I'll be happy but if it's another girl she will be loved just the same.
Had mum over after having the baby when I'm making up a bottle "Your not doing it right" How can i be doing it wrong I'm putting water from a kettle into a bottle thats all. Hadn't even got to putting powder in the bottle
My DH is a teacher and mum went off on one at him about us treating DD1 as one of his pupils rather than his child I cant help picturing my DH cuddle his pupils especially some big yr 11 boy or chases them round the room like he does DD
5/7/08 23:25
Omg all these things r crackin me up! Because im a young mum im always gettin "So ul not be with the dad anymore?" is there some kind of obligation to be a single parent at my age?!! But of course i smile politely and say "Actually we live together"
Wen i was pregnant a woman was standin quite near by me talkin to her friend when she suddenly caught sight of me and said (well shouted really!) "Omg shes pregnant!"
Is tht what tht bulge is? And theres me thinkin it was wind!
My mother tellin me he was ready for solids at 2weeks old and thts his bottle isnt satisfying him. Thtl be why hes slept through the night since he was 6 weeks old
"Awww. A little girl?" yes...dressed all in blue as u can see and named Liam as u heard me call HIM
"Is ur mummy nippin u?" What an odd thing to suggest i do to my 11 week old son
Im sure il be back with plenty more! lol
5/7/08 23:25
This thread has made my weekend
Can't stop laughing.1) My lo likes a moan before he falls asleep and I recognise this as I'm used to it. And most mornings after his bath, he'll eat then go to sleep. So after bath lo starts to cry as he usally does...
MIL: whats wrong?
Me: he wants to sleep.
MIL: Oh no, he must be wet.
Me: I've just given him a bath and changed his diapers (as you do).
MIL: I'll just check to make sure.
So as Lo is dozng off, she opens up diaper and changes it anyway which distracts him..
2) So after he's finally off to sleep and I come down...
MIL: Where si he?
Me: Upstairs.
MIL: Is he sleeping???
Me: (No I just left him up by himself and he's very quiet for no reason) Yes.
3) My DH and MIL ask this regularly and it winds me up. I've just put Lo down in his crib and he's fast asleep.
DH or MIL: Where is he?
Me: (I've sent him down to the shops to get me some sweets) Where else will he be? In his CRIB and then (you've guessed the next question)
DH or MIL: Is he sleeping?
Oh I could go on, hang on just remembered another one.
DH: Why are you so moody?
ME: (Oh could be the fact that my hormones are everywhere after just giving birth)
I know they mean well but it still really annoys me.
My Aunt at the weekend.........
"Gemma can i just say something....."
"Yeah sure...."
"I'm not interfering or anything lik that BUT...."
NOT INTERFERING MY ARSE!!!!!
If someone says something like that it's sooooo obvious what they're doing!!!
