4-6 Month Baby
- 4-6 Month Baby
- violent fiance
9/7/08 20:02
9/7/08 08:40
heylo, yesh they did come but mike had already dropped the charges....i went to see him yday to sort out stuff with luke and he was very upset and sowwi for wat e did.
ive decided not to get a restraining order atm but we are not back tgether...wanna try keep this as civil as possible for luke...
thankyou to all of you for your support hopefully it wil get better
love vicki xxxx
8/7/08 22:03
Did the police come? Please let us know that you are ok??
8/7/08 12:29
OMG!! what a horrible man!! Can you have someone with you when the police arrive? Maybe your uncle who saw him attack you??
Try not to get angry in front of the police, they may take it the wrong way.
Stay strong for your little boy.
8/7/08 12:15
hes having me arrested police will be coming to my house very shortly/....apparantly hes accusin me of pushin him dwn the stairs.... and also my mate seen im in asdas last nyt wid another gurl
am heartbroken the fukin T*** ...
7/7/08 17:12
Hi, I'm so sorry to hear what you've been going through! I have some understanding of how you feel, I left my ex a month ago and moved back in with my mum because I was so miserable. He would shout at me for nothing and push me around when we argued, throwing me on sofa, sticking his fingers down my throat etc., and was horrible to lo, telling him off for crying and refusing to do anything to help me.
Believe me, things do get better. I already feel so much happier! I feel that I can now be myself without fear of constantly being controlled and lo is much more settled too.
You are brave for leaving, I was terrified but at the end of the day I just knew I had to do what was best for lo, and being in that situation definitely wasn't! As others have said, you are so much better off without him, men like that don't change and Luke deserves better xx
7/7/08 13:48
a huge hug from me
i am so sorry to hear about what you have had to go through. i use to be in a really bad relationship i havent talked about it to anyone since i have come out of it. my dp who am with now saved my life i have a beautiful baby girl and love my life.
you will be happy again u just have to be strong if you want to talk just pm me xx
7/7/08 12:58
Now don't you be swayed by that apology if he knows anything about police response then he would have known he would have got a caution if he said sorry to them!!! and I won't do it again doesn't come with a guarantee. If he has been warned to stay away from you then you should phone them if he comes back and gives you grief take care hun and be safe!! xxx
7/7/08 10:59
hey...he got arrested last nyt for 3 hours...and was given a caution....nothing more and told to stay away from me...the police told me that he admitted he did it and was very sorry. And the things he sed he sed out of anger
xxx
6/7/08 19:08
Hey hon, Dont really know what to say, Hope you and Luke are ok! As everyone has said although it may be hard your better off without him! You will be able 2 do it on your own dont worry lots of hugs xoxoxox
6/7/08 18:56
As the ladies have already said... you are a brave woman for leaving! It is the best thing you can do. Especially if your bloke is not afraid to attack you in front of other adults! How dare men think that they can treat women like that!
I too hope the police do something, but like you I doubt they will!
Wishing you all the best in your new life, with your lovely baby. I hope that in time you will find that you don't think about this last few days so much, and can move on.
Keep posting on here, we are all behind you!
6/7/08 15:05
omg poor you, this must be devastating for you...not only what he has done but the fact it has just come totally out of the blue and I just cannot believe he did while your Uncle was there, but am so glad your Uncle was there to help you. You are so very brave for ending this, and putting both your lo and yourself first.....I have no experience of this and hope to god I never do, but I am sure and hope it will get better in time for you. Once the shock has worn off, you will see you have done the right thing and how much better of both you and Luke are without him, just cannot believe he could do this not only to you but in front of his baby. Sending you lots of hugs, let your family help you out and look after Luke when you need it so you have some time to yourself to sort your head and feelings out . take good care of yourself xxx6/7/08 14:04
Best thing I ever did was get out of a violent relationship even though I wanted to go back loads!!!! it was the fear of not wanting to be on my own and at least I knew what to do in my past relationship ie not put a coffee cup down on a table or id get a slap or something so simple as that!!!! it is definately the right thing to do and stick to your guns I didn't have a lo with my ex but just concentrate on luke and he will give you the strength to stay away from him!!!
I am now in a loving relationship with a lo and a nice house car etc and am so glad that my ex did what he did and that he had an affair and found someone else. So glad that sex was 'better' with 'her' and not with me! as he put it.
Remember what goes around comes around i truely believe in that and 5 yrs after I split with my ex he contacted a mutual friend and said he wished he had been better with me and was sorry for what he had done and that looking back I was the best girlfriend he had!!! so that was my reward for staying away and it felt soooo good knowing that he finally saw what he had done and that I was in a much better place and happy with someone else.
There is always hope even 5 yrs after a relationship ends. Be strong hun Huge hugs to you I know exactly what you're going thru and you will be a better person for being you!!! just think how much fun and enjoyment you are going to get out of luke now you don't have him around and he will miss all of it!!!
Huge hug and kisses hun you have my support
XXXX
6/7/08 13:20
You have definately done the best thing and if you had any doubts in your mind at all about leaving him then I am sure he has just got rid of them doubts!!!
You will find happiness again and your lo will definately be better off without a father figure like that!!!
Glad you have phoned the police and I hope they do something about it!!
xxxx
6/7/08 13:15
Hi hun you are a stronger lady than me. My hubby attacked me while I was 11 weeks preg with our first DD luckily she survived it. I reposted him to Naval Police as we were both in Navy at that point. Well he sweet talked me to drop charges. Worse thing I ever did.
Well me being the weak one here went on to have another DD with him and a DS, When I just had the 2 girls something was said upstairs while 1 child was on our bed the other was on the floor. He went for me in front of them and punched a hole in the door, He was still shouting at me while my baby girl was putting wood off door in her mouth. I couldnt move to get her otherwise h would of got worse
Things are still very crap between us and I do admit im very weak! Would love to know I could leave and things will be ok.
I do admire your strength and im glad you got out while you can and your little one is still too young to remember that happening xxx
6/7/08 13:06
hey guys well i went bk tday to get sum stuff my uncle carl was movin it...... and he went to take the 1st lot bk...and mike went for me agen dragging me off the couch my uncle had to drag im off me....i have bruisin and a bubble on my arm...just called the police but dnt think they will do out
very scared and sore now x
5/7/08 21:09
thats really s***ty, i really dont know what i can say to you. i hope you are feeling better soon. i really do think you have been so brave and it sounds like your lo will be better off without him in your life. huge hugs to you. really hope you feel better soon
5/7/08 20:39
Hun here is a huge cuddle from me.I have been in a severe violent relationship with my first lo's dad.He was dangerous.He threw me downstairs,poured hot coffee over my face and punched me when pregnant and the worst thing was when i tried to leave him he trapped me and 11 week old lo against a wall with a double bed tipped up against us.I was terrified of leaving.He always said he would kill me if i did.I finally took the risk when lo was 11 weeks old.I got away and stayed at a womens refuge.The staff were amazing.They kept us safe.I went straight to a solicitor and he wrote to my lo's dad to tell him he needn't bother to take me t ocourt to see lo.He was a danger to her.He spent 2 years in prison.That was over 4 years ago.Now i have a lo with a new partner and we are gettind wed next yer.I never thought i would find anyone so gentle and loving and he treats my eldest like his own.So it does get easier.Please be strong for your lo.You don't deserve to be spoken to or treated like this.You are the mother of his child and he should show you nothing but respect. At times you my feel lonely and be tempted to go back but believe me hun they don't change.You are a brave lady.Stay strong.We are all here for you.Please keep us posted and let us know you are ok..Take care xx
Sorry have ranted on a bit.Just feel so strongly about these things....
5/7/08 20:39
Hun here is a huge cuddle from me.I have been in a severe violent relationship with my first lo's dad.He was dangerous.He threw me downstairs,poured hot coffee over my face and punched me when pregnant and the worst thing was when i tried to leave him he trapped me and 11 week old lo against a wall with a double bed tipped up against us.I was terrified of leaving.He always said he would kill me if i did.I finally took the risk when lo was 11 weeks old.I got away and stayed at a womens refuge.The staff were amazing.They kept us safe.I went straight to a solicitor and he wrote to my lo's dad to tell him he needn't bother to take me t ocourt to see lo.He was a danger to her.He spent 2 years in prison.That was over 4 years ago.Now i have a lo with a new partner and we are gettind wed next yer.I never thought i would find anyone so gentle and loving and he treats my eldest like his own.So it does get easier.Please be strong for your lo.You don't deserve to be spoken to or treated like this.You are the mother of his child and he should show you nothing but respect. At times you my feel lonely and be tempted to go back but believe me hun they don't change.You are a brave lady.Stay strong.We are all here for you.Please keep us posted and let us know you are ok..Take care xx
Sorry have ranted on a bit.Just feel so strongly about these things....
5/7/08 20:20
I wish there was something more I could say to help you. Just try to remember that you are Luke are better off in the long run and in the meantime things will gradually get easier. Try to concentrate your energy on Luke to try and take your mind off things.
I hope things get easier for you soon.
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Good, I am glad he sort of came to his senses!
But I am also really glad you are not taking him back, he is a danger to you, but as you say, the more civil you are to each other, the better for your lo.
What a horrible few days you have had!! Keep being strong though.
Love
Jane