Hi all thanks for your replies it's good to know I'm not alone in feeling like this good luck to you all

My partner was the same the 1st few months, he did help out the 1st 2 weeks he was home, he would stay up at night with her so i could have a few hr's sleep but after that he stopped using work as a excuse not to feed her or change her nappies at one point he even said our dd was boring and she didnt do anything apart from eat sleep and poo, at which stage i wanted to throw him out the house and not see him again, but slowly as the months went on he started to get more and more intrested in her, and she is now 6 months old and laughing and smiling and moving and he cant get enough of her, im even going to liverpool shopping on sat for the day and leaving her behing (he has never had her on his own all day) im excited about it but a little worried.

so there is hope for your fellas yet,

good luck girls

Hi, yes I am in the same situation.  Leo is my second child but with a different dad and the only reason I had another baby was because I really thought my husband would help me out as it is so hard to do it all on your own.

I am really disappointed in my husband.  All he seems to want to do is look at Leo and play with him occasionally.  He never feeds or baths him and I feel so sad and lonely all the time.  I love Leo to bits but to just have a little break every now and again would be lovely.  I think its so unfair on mothers - their whole life changes whilst men just seem to carry on as normal

x

Hi does anyone feel a bit let down by their partners? I felt  so lost and lonely when my lo was 1st born my dp couldn't cope with the sleepless night so he would sleep in the spare room and go camping at the weekends he didn't change a nappy for the 1st couple of mths and didn't seem all that interested in our lo this caused lots of arguments my mw said a lot of men are not interested in newborns and that they start to bond more when baby starts smiling at them ect this seems to be the case with my dp he helps out a lot more now that our lo is sleeping better at night  and has a better relationship with him. I'm hoping things get better and better as baby gets older I have always wanted 2 children and still do but the first 4 months were so tough I'm not so sure now does anyone else have a similar experience?