when  i stopped swaddling my son he woke up anpt 15 times the 1st night, 10 the second, 5 the next and he still wakes up a few times in the night but i would just stick with it because the longer they are swaddled the harder it will be to wean off it, for some babies but not all. good luck!

I never really swaddled my ds, he was such a wriggler he could get out of my tightest efforts. As for dummy i know exactly what u mean n agree with emz bout the 'how they go off to sleep'. I managed to get ds out of the habit of having his dummy at night, n now he sleeps lots better. i found i had to w8 until he was soooo tired he wouldn't kick up a fuss... and that worked. He also sleeps with a muslim sq (blankie  ) he normally just plays with that now till he falls asleep. He still has a dummy during the day tho dont think ill break that, i like to plug him if we're out shopping if he has a sreamin fit  xx

my dd swaddled for about 3 months, my sons hated it but all loved there dummys

My daughter is exactly the same, not as much with the dummy part tho.  I tried her in a baby sleepin back without being swaddled n she woke every 2 hrs, the next nite i swaddled her n she only woke once.  Think i will try the slow weaning technique n c how that goes.  Thanks for the advice, will let u all know how it goes.

If you find anything that works please post on this forum as it seems loads of us are in the same boat.

Hi Thanks for the replies.  Think I'm going to try the slow wean off swaddling technique with one arm out for a week.  As for the dummy, this is so tricky when as a tired mum sleep is everything!!!  Think will aim for restricting use to the cot (dh is always trying to shove it in her mouth!) and perhaps use it to relax her into sleep but take it out before she drops off prorperly.  I'll see if I can get her used sleeping without it so if she wakes can hopefully can go back to sleep on her own.

I'll let you know how things go as if I can find a technique that works it will hopefully help others with similar problems!!

my ds is 16 weeks and gets swaddled at bed time or if he just wont settle during the day too. he also has a dummy.

me and my dp tried him 4 a week in a sleeping bag, he did ok but woke up every 4 hours for a bottle and he lasts the night when he is swaddled so we are just going to continue swaddling until he doesnt like it anymore, which hopefully isnt when he's 18 lol!!!!

as for the dummy my dp gives ds it alot but i only give him it 4 fallin asleep or if he's really unsettled. on a night time he falls asleep sometimes with it but sometimes without it and without it he last longer have you heard when HV's say when a baby wakes up they'l want to go back off to sleep as they did previously, if that makes sense... i think this is the case for my ds, if he falls asleep without it he stays asleep alot longer but if he falls asleep with it, he wakes up and cries for it meaning me or my dp has to get up to give him it back. so obviously him falling asleep without it is better 4 everyone lol

just a little advice though when i do replace it i stand for a few seconds and pull on his dummy so he has a really good latch on it, and he seems to keep it in his mouth longer than just puttin it in and leavin him... dont know if this'll work for you???

let me know if you try it n if it works?

hth x

the problem you are having is what i went through!

ok i would suggest taking the swaddling slowly as the baby will be usd to it. what i did was swaddle with only one arm in the wrap, leave the other out and possibly her legs out. this will get her used to having one arm free, do this for about a week. i did this.on week too swaddle but with her arms out so she still feels wrapped up. then buy a  baby sleeping bag. she will get used to the arms being free.

my son used to have me in tears because he would knock his dummy out but after 3 days or so he got used to not beingswddled and was fine.

with regards to the dummy, i can suggest anything as my son is driving me crazy. i have to putit in all night long. i look like a zombie and im on my own with him so im up and down all  night long then he wakes up for good at 5.30am.

karenx

sorry hun cant offer advice just watching with interest as my DS is 18wks on saturday and has a dummy and swaddled too, he as a rule only has his dummy to fall asleep and 9/10 spits it out of his own accord, but what is worrying me is the swaddling, like you said, my DS wacks himself pokes his eyes and scratches his face even though i cut his nails i always miss a corner! and im now worrying about him rolling over as he wont have his hands to stop himself from rolling onto his face, would love advice too.  we try to not swaddle him after his dream feed which sometimes works.

Claire xx

Some advice please ladies if you have a mo!!  My dd is 18weeks now and I desparately want to get rid of her dummy.  She will happily sleep without it but needs it to drop off to sleep.  As a consequence of this she cries for it when she wakes in the night and either myself or my dh has to go into her room to put it back in.  This can be as much as once an hour and quite frankly I'm exhausted!!!!  Should I wean her off it or, as other friends have suggested, persevere with it until she gets old enough to put it back in herself?

Also she is now able to get out of her swaddle, even the mothercare miracle wrap, so need to get rid of this habit soon.  Without swaddling she rubs her face and knocks the dummy out which is going to double this problem.  My questions for those who have been through similar problems are:

1)  Should the dummy go, if so how?

2)  How do I wean off the swaddle?

3)  Should I aim to get rid of both together and just go cold turkey?

I appreciate any thoughts, by now I thought I would be getting a little more sleep!!