have you tried some medised or night calpol as this will help him sleep if hes feeling poorly. xx

I really feel for you! Big hugs and I hope it gets a bit easier for you  x x

If he's got a sore throat that won't help at the moment. Once he's starting to feel better I'm sure he will settle a bit and then you will be able to get your routine back. In the mean time give him lots of cuddles and let him sleep in your arms. When there poorly they need reasurrance from you. I know it's tough but I still think you need to see the Gp for you! keep up the good work your doing a great job! x x x

So sorry to hear you are having problems, hope you and your lo are both feeling a little better today. xx

hello. i have had the same problem with my twins at the moment. they had been sleeping through the night since 4 months bu now they are not going down without a fight and are waking me up in the night. i havent had a decent night sleep for ages. i feel so low, but dont know what could be wrong with them. they are 8 months old and are teething but they havent been bothered by it at all. they just come through. i have been putting bonjela on their gums before i put them down and also giving them calpol before bed, but it has not helped. i really dont know what to do. i am only 19 and have coped well so far but at the moment i am so tired and its making me short tempered and moody all the time. i love my girls and never take it out on them, so my poor husband has to put up with me moaning all the time while he is trying to work and provide for us. Any advice would be appreciated.

abbie

Hi justinsmummy

Please, please see a doctor to get yourself some medicaton.  Your buba needs you and loves you so much and an overdose would deprive him of the one stable and such important thing in his life.  If you get help to feel better, im sure your posititivy will help you and your buba.

My lo cries all night, please read my previous thread regarding cc that you dont go into to.  Ive been at my wits end for weeks, hes done this for over 3 months plus he is so clingly in the day, I cant even brush my teeth without him crying.

Is there anybody you could have to stay over at yours for a few nights, to help support you?  A friend or sister?  My oh is crap and so i get a lot of support from my sis and she would be over to help in a flash if needed.

Ive read other threads of yours and you are a fantastic mum with fantastic advice.  Please hang this one out and reflect on all good things.  As ive been told, it will pass and we just need to be strong.

If you need anything or feel low, please mail me or drop a thread on Bounty and we will all support you in the best way we can.

PLEASE, PLEASE, do not do anything silly.  Im sure there is someone on this site who has felt just like you and could help support you through this emotional time that a lot of us could not do so as we have not been there.

Sorry to ramble.  Keep up the good work.

Lots of hugs.

x

Could you maybe let lo fall asleep in your arms for a few nights? Just so that he starts to associate bedtimes with nice warm snuggly time? Also helps you if you just sit and hold baby as he falls asleep, it just may be less stressfull for you. It helped me to understand what's important, enjoying and being with your baby and having a relaxed secure baby. I think techniques and routines and controlled crying etc may be too much stress and pressure for you right now. Also, would you consider co-sleeping? Anything to ensure you continue to get a reasonable amount of sleep so you can think straight and feel a little stronger.

Please pick up the phone and speak to someone if you feel like you may do something to yourself xxxx

i hope he's settled ok. it is soo hard, DS1 used to cry til he was sick, proper hysteria every night. but they do grow out of it. i'm sorry your going through this.

i think there are some help lines you can ring when LO is screaming??? crysis, i think is one. we're all here, and please be kind to your self cos it is hard and you not alone in finding it tough. ((((()))))) xxxxxxxxx

hi, i felt just the same a few weeks ago (i put the post on im putting my dd up for adoption), well things have settled down and are much better now.

do you have a bed time routine? this has really helped my dd as she know when its time for bed

we do a bath at 6.30 and then straight into pj's and then a bottle i then put her straight into bed, she sometimes crys for a few mins but settles fairly quickly as shes had the wind down time.

the last few nights we have been reading a few books after her bottle as well and she really relaxes and it great bonding time - maybe you could try this.

the more relaxed you are the more relaxed your baby is, they can pick up if your tense.

when you put your lo down you have to be really positive, take him up to bed saying its night night time now and say it every night so he asociates night night time as bedtime, lay him down in the cot, kiss his head say see you in the morning and walk out (dont hoover around the cot, just leave the room as you being in the room will only make him cry more for you to pick him up, babys are very clever) hopefully this will help you, the first few nights will be hard but in time it will get much better as you lo will learn how to settle him self and you will learn to relax when you have put him down and that a few mins crying wont hurt him.

if hes really screaming go in 5 mins after you have left the room, lay him down kiss his head and say night night, the walk back out, then leave it 10 mins and go back in and do the same then leave it 15 mins, then 20 mins, then back to 5 mins and start again.

sorry to have gone on.

i hope this helps you a little and if you want to talk please feel free to pm me. i will help all i can, your not alone so please dont feel it. xx

Sounds like you're having a rough time - and you're always the one with good advice for us! Can only suggest same as PP, to put lo down 'before he's tired' if you know what I mean. Alfie always grumpy if I leave him til he looks tired, so I go by the clock - he usually loses interest in toys and chatting, always a good sign he's ready. 

Lots of love xx 

Don't do anything to yourself. Your lo loves you and would be lost without you!

It's so hard when they do this. Izzy does it. but she has never got so bad she's been sick.  Is ther anyone else that can help you settle lo at night? Just to give you a break?  Or someone that could have him for a few hours in the day so you can catch upon some sleep.

If you carry on feeling like this please speak to GP, Hv and also get rid of all the medications in the house. I know it's hard being a mum, but from reading other threads you have written on you sound like a really good mum!

Big big hugs to you x x

our lo can be the same. so now we let her fall asleep on our bed first and then  move her into hers.

it seems to be a comfort thing having me and dh nearby.

could you maybe si in with him abit so he knows you are still there  or use controlled crying i dont have a problem on a night just during the day my son crys most of the day and so do i cant stand all the crying  i think if you feel that low you maybe need to get some help from family and friends and health visitors hope you feel better soon and get your son to sleep again sorry i cant help but i do know partly how you feel