Ds1 goes to nursery 1 day a week.  I went back to work when he was 7 months old, so he went 3 days a week.  He loved it there, so when I started mat leave again, I decided to keep him in 1 day a week as I think it is good for them.

Have to say tho, when I was working he never cried once when I took him, not once.  But since May, when I started mat leave, everytime I take him he cried when I leave him, its not nice.  But I know the minute I am gone, he is fine.  I know this because I look through the window when he thinks I am gone.  Also when I pick him up he is always so happy and runs away from me so I have to catch him before we leave.  I know he loves it there, I think it is just because he spends 6 days a week with me, and he see's me lave with ds2.

It is such a good thing for them in my opinion going to nursery.  They really come on socially.

I hope you like and your ds likes it.

Good luck x

Thanks pinkly. Hes been really sweet today he was kissing DD and saying sshhhh when she was asleep. Like you we have some fab days were we have such a fun day playing and hes good as gold. Just part and parcel of being a parent eh. He is still my baby, i dont think that will ever change. Took them to kids world today and he was following all the other kids around as he wanted to play with them but they were playing amongst themselves, bless him. Be great when DD a bit older so they can play together. Ive also got appt next thu to visit a nursery ive heard so much about for 2 afternoons a week as think he would love it as he is very social. Im scared though as we are always together, hoping i like it and most importantly he does. He might make some lil friends.xx

I also have a 17 month old son and a 11 week old son too.

I can totally understand what you are going through.  Somedays are just so hard, and when ds1 goes to bed I feel guilty that I have spent most of the day telling him off.  But then at the same time, some days he is so good and we have a lovely time playing together.

Like you, I seem to have to give all my attention to ds1, and poor ds2 gets fed and put to sleep or in his chair, as he is just happy to watch us.  It is so hard to try and give them both attention.  Like a pp said, I do try to get ds1 to play with soft toys in front of ds2, I even try and get him to talk to his little brother to make him smile.  Ds2 loves his big brother, he always gives him big smiles... even though his big brother likes to pivch his toes and lean on him all the time, bless.

I am sure things will get better.  I think we just have to remember that although he is a big brother now, he still really is a baby himself and he has so much to learn.

But you are def not alone in this one x

Thanx ladies. The thing is he gets all my attention, DD never does bless her. She feeds, sleeps and is happy watching DS and me. He doesnt realise that he is hurting DD he is just heavy handed and a real boy. Went to my mums last week and she couldnt believe how active he is, i know everything is fun and a game and i do try not to say no to everything as then it just gets silly so i only say no to the things he really shouldnt do.

The playpen sounds fab, my mums been saying i should get one. Where did you get yours from?? Also i do try and encourage Ds to help me with DD and he feeds her a bottle which is lovely.

I love him to its but you know what its like when you get to the end of the day and feel like its been one massive struggle all day and you feel like you have said no all day.  Guess this is the start of terrible 2's because he has also started screaming when he doesnt get his own way and throwing himself on the floor which i ignore.

Kids eh, ha.xx

as well as having time alone to play with your ds, try spending another 1/2 hour or so playing with him and your younger one together, it'll help them bond. if you have some bright soft toys try waving them around for the younger one and then get your ds to do the same. even if he's a bit rough or clumsy, ignore it as long as he's not hurting the lo and praise him for being a good boy and playing nicely.

hi hun my jamie is 16 months and the exact same what iv found works is using different words to no as he hears no so often he doesnt register it iyswim?

so i say AWAY, stop, down, back, ah ah, nope, ect ect

if he doesnt listen he has a warning and if he carries on he gets put in his play pen for time out to calm down

after 5 mins he gives kisses and hugs and is allowed out

it does work with time as i have coal fire but no fire guard and took weeks of him getting black hands before he learnt he now doesnt touch it

try not to shout as i found when i shouted he just got upset and at the end of day its all new and interesting to him we would be the same if we got bought a house as a surprise xxx

Hi

I have 16 month old twins and they are exactly the same, fight with each other constantly and do everything they're not meant to, get to the computer, phone, climb on the sofa jump off it etc. I think it's just the age unfortunately. Do you have a playpen? When they have done something really naughty I clear all toys from there and put them in it for a few minutes, almost like a naughty step/time out area. My DD was the same and wouldn't go to bed - or she would for a few hours then be up, in the end I left her to scream it out, checked she was ok ie if i picked her up and she instantly stopped I would put her back she soon got the message and luckily it only took 2 nights to sort out.

You're not alone xx

sorry you're having a  hard time, didnt wana read and run x

Do you sit down and have time alone with your ds when dd is asleep or amusing herself? my friends lo really played up when she had another baby, she was always trying to get her mums attention and did start to get spiteful to baby. someone on here mentioned that they were going to get their son a doll to teach them about the baby, they were going to get a bottle/nappies etc for it so when mummy was looking after the baby and feeding/changing them their son could do the same with the doll to feel involved, things like asking them to go and fetch h the nappies/wipes makes them feel like they are helping and involved, has he only been like this since the baby has been here or always been active? x

Hes very very active and absolutely into everything. He never listens to no and is constantly doing something he shouldnt. Today has been a bad day and hes really tested me. I have 18 weeks old DD and hes pushed her out of bouncer when i literally turned my back for a min to get hes drink and then tonight he chucked a puzzle (wooden one) and it hit her on the head and shes got a massive graze Just sometimes he really tests me, and hes constantly into something he know is naughty. He goes to bed after 9pm as he just cant/wont settle. Its like he has ants in his pants. I go out everyday to try and tire him out.

What can i do??