Hi Im a sahm aswell and feel like most of my friends dont bother with me anymore aswell! I just make sure I try and do something with dd everyday. On Mondays we do play group, Tuesdays musical minis, wednesday library club, thusrdays play group and today weve got some of her friends we met in play group coming round to play.

It can be very clicky in the mum and tot groups and I nearly stopped going cos of it but I just ignored it and have made some new 'friends' there.

i am a sahm 5 days aweek (work thurs and sats) i am going to start some activity classes now, olivia is 13mths and walking so she may enjoy it more now.

i have a best friend who has a daughter a mth youngr than mine and we see eachother once a week and my mum once a week. i couldnt cope without the interaction with them!

my sis and 2 v close mates are teachers so i will miss them next week! roll on classes- i am a bit scared but ust do it for lo

Hiya, I know how you feel. All of my ohs friends had babies years ago, and all of mine are still establishing themselves in their careers so no children there I don't see much of either of our friends!

I started to go to baby groups and have met a few moms that I socialise with, with and ithout the baby

I am a sahm but going back to work in 4 weeks (whoop whoop).

In my day I get up, come on line for half an hour check mail etc. Lo gets up at 7. I feed him breakfast, we play/read a story and watch tv and then have a bath.

It's  about 9 at that point, and then we set out for a baby group (4 days a week) either 9:30 - 11:30 or 10-12.

I feed him lunch on the way home(take a packed lunch with me!) he feeds himself. When we get home he sleeps for an hour and a half. I clean during this time.

It's about 2pm now and the baby wakes up, that's when i vacuum and he follows me around with his vacuum!

We go swimming after his nap once per week and go to soft play sometimes or feed the ducks in the park, or out on his back on the estate if the weather is ok.

At 5:30 lo has dinner and then 7pm we start getting ready for bed, at 7:30 he is usually asleep.

i know how you feel jodie but dont give up remember if they dont know how your really feeling then they dont realise what its doing to you.  Sometimes i carry on like that say $%^& them why should i always make the effort but i never tell people how im feeling i just trudge along.  the post before my last one sounded smart some meet mums thing maybe you/we should try that out.  I know the mums and tods group in my town is very clicky i seen the girl who runs it nearly everyday her child went to same playgroup as my ds and i dont think she ever cracked a smile but then im a city girl maybe they dont like "macueys" thats what the people up here call the people from belfast

i literally see nobody anymore.

My friends invite me to stupid places for example drayton manor last week that will be fun at 8 months pregnant!

Im just so down and lonely at the moment.

I have text my sister every day since monday and said wanna do something today?

and she has "been busy" or couldnt be bothered.

I just get tired of making the effort all of the time, think i will just give up with trying!

omg i thought i was the only one feeling like this and some of you sound worse off than me.  I moved to this town 4 years ago just as a had ds1 although my sis lives in the town i felt so lonely, its only a year ago i found a few friends who have kids same age as my ds1 and we do meet up when we can i have no where near enough friends i think i should have up here although i do see my mates often enough from the city although its me that always has to drive in (they cant drive) i have one mate who lives like 40 miles away and i would say her kids are my kids best mates we always make an effort and as both of us drive we take it in turns.

I really felt i suffered from SAD winter just depresses me and with all the crap weather lately ive been dreading the autumn coming although my routine will have to change and i will have to get ready and face the outside as ds1 is starting nursery ds2 worries me he is bored he is only 17 months and always wants out i do take him out the front and stay out with him but he always runs into other peoples gardens and i end up bringing him in.  For ds1 startin school im investin in welly boots and a set of reins for ds2 hell love jumping in puddles no doubt well have loads of those.

I feel such a fraud i dont know how some of you are coping cuz although at times i feel reallly down i work 3 days a week and sometimes i cant wait to get out to work

We don't have things we do every week but I have to get out of the house or it drives me nuts!!  You'd be very surprised at how many other mums feel like you and are too shy...have you tried netmums website?  there is a meet-a-mum section and maybe you could put yourself on there and just chat on email before arranging to meet?  might be a bit easier?  could you try another tots group?  they're not all the same - we go to one in our local leisure centre and they have lots of toys so you can play with your DD if you want to and don't feel under pressure to chat to other mums...hope things get a bit better for you, I know how hard it can be!

I have asked my mum to baby sit but no matter how much notice i give her its not enough or when it comes to it she has something she has "forgot" to do.

Im far to shy to meet other mums form my area!

Good advice though thanks hun

I suppose ill just battle through.

I just wish sometimes people would make the effort tot come and see us for a change.

Aww hunni i feel for you, apart from on Thursday i see not one person from 5.30am-5pm and like you i love ds but there is only so much housework you can do. Why not ask your mum or dp's mum to babysit so you and your dp can have a night out? I know it's not really helping during the day but would give you something to look forward to again. Why not try the mum's near you forum too see if some mum's would like to meet up for a coffee one day if they live near you? I am way to shy for that but if your not might be worth a try.  don't know what i would do without the net now, when i first moved here, i was soo lonely i would cry for days and only had the four walls for company now at least i can 'chat' to adults. I seem to live for Thursdays and the weekends when my dp is at home so i have someone to talk to.

If you have some friends you havn't spoken to in awhile pick up the phone and either call or send a text, yeah you may feel that it's always you but at least it shows you care and your interested in how they are!!

xx

Im pretty much the same, i drop the boys at school, go to the shop and im home for 10.30 most mornings. Im so bored and fed up, i live in a small village and theres nothing to do apart from 1 mums and tots group which im severely peed off at (see mums and tot thread lol)

Its actually soul destroying most days doing the exact same thing everyday and not seeing anyone. IM quite new to the village so everyone has their own friends already. I have acquiantences but i want 'real' friends lol.  Obviously i love dd to bits but it does drive me mad some days. Dp gets home at 5pm and i cant be bothered making conversation probably because im used to no adult convo all day lol

i dont have any of that

Im feeling sorry for myself now.

None of my friends text me anymore and my best friend works full time so i NEVER see her unless its a special occasion.

My family dont ever come to my house and i always have to ring them for conversation.

Or go to there house to see them

dps parents are the same they ring to see if we are okay but never just pop over to say hello.

Its just ALWAYS me df and DD

As you all probably know by now im heavily pregnant so its going to be even harder.

You know when you have a 14 month old and your house is still tidy you dont have much of a life!

Dont get me wrong i love being at home with DD but am seriously lonely and missing adult conversation.

I can go from when i wake up till tea time when dp gets home without even seeing someone smile, or say hello, or how are you.

Am i going loopy?

Hiya, well my days are pretty much the same everyday as i don't drive and live out in the sticks where there is no baby or toddler groups. My poor ds must be so bored bless him. He is 14months now and can't crawl but does bum shuffle around so he is happy to play with his toys sometimes and he loves cbeebies. He sleeps from about 1-3 if i am lucky!! The only routines i have is his breakfast, lunch, dinner and bedtimes. He seems to like having a routine and it works for us.

I have lost touch with some of my friends and find it is always me who has to text first for them to reply, i was really close to a friend who has a baby daughter but we never see each other anymore and i thought seeing as we had something in common we would be i find my single friends stay in touch more than she does. I go out with the girls sometimes when mum will babysit so that gives me something to look forward to and i get to let my hair down and be 'me' again for afew hours. I look forward to Thursdays as mum comes over and we do the weekly food shop (my god how sad do i sound) lol.

xx

most of my friends now are ones that have kids, the ones that dont i hear from once in a blue moon by text or email. Even the ones with kids are not always so keen to keep in touch, i'm starting to get offended lol pone of my friends was there for me everyday of my pregnancy, we were pregnant at the same time, she was due 4 months before me but had baby 11 weeks early - understandably she had her own things to deal with but she didnt see dd til she was about 3-4months old, keeps saying she'll pop round but has only brought her kids round once and that was on dds birthday, keep saying we'll do this and that but something always comes up, its a shame cos shes practically my best friend, always at the end of the phone when i need to have a moan, we both went through pnd aswell, both ended up having emcs situations quite similar.

Another friend was a lazy moo before she had her baby not a lot has changed, i call her at 3pm sometimes and her sister answers saying shes in bed! i've never been asleep in the afternoon since havng dd!! just dont get the chance to! shes always asking her dad/sister to watch baby, if i want someone to have dd i have to ask a few days in advance. she doesnt realise how easy she has it, still complains

sorry lol feeling sorry for myself now - i barely have any friends!! i have lots of aquaintances but not many real friends. shame we dont all live closeby x

I know this might sounds really stupid but I keep the radio on all day for company -- it's kinda sad, but that's my adult company. I listen to Radio 5 live and it got lots of debates and current affairs stuff so it's good for keeping my brain oiled too.

I go to mums and tots group once in a blue moon. I'm not too keen, but I figure they're good for ds, he needs to get used to playing with other kids, sharing etc. I go for a long walk every day, ds who is 15 mths loves looking around and being nosey and dd who is 10 wks usually sleeps.

ahh hugs hun alot of my friends have dropped me 2 since having jamie but iv made loads of new friends now and really happy

depending on weather we go to my friends farm jamie gets to run around, ride the horses, play with the puppys just generally get messy ect

we go to soft play on saturdays and sundays and afterwards normally the sunday go out for lunch with one of the mums and her lo

we go swimming on a wed or thurs to mothers and toddlers

go to the park

go shopping

paint pictures

just do anything really to pass the time and wear jamie out!

you do in the day?!

Have you got a routine you stick to

certain activities you and your Lo gets up to.

I ask because none of my friends bother with me anymore since having Lo which i expected so thats fine but i get lonely and bored

Im sure DD does too

I tried going to a mother and baby group but didnt like it.