Curcumcision
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28/8/08 20:36
28/8/08 20:32
cor this has caused a bit of a stir has'nt it!! yea basically earlier the better, i personally think 3 months or earlier or not at all, apart from on medical reasons, its just too painful for them..
since my lo has been circumcised i now know where the word 'nob' comes from tho, cause it looks exactly like a little door k***, hehe, he went dipping in the sea yesterday & it was tinge blue, lol...
28/8/08 20:15
My son was circumcised when he was 1 and a half due to having an extremely tight foreskin and recurrent urine infections because of this. I worried like hell on the day of the op but he was fine, he was a little sore but happily sat naked on a sheet playing with his toys whilst it healed. (air rather than being covered). He had calpol for discomfort on the first day and wasn't bothered after that.
My son is 13 now and is pleased with his willy and glad that he had it done, we've chatted about it as his elder half brother never had it done.
If I had another son I would get it done as a baby as much cleaner etc. To be honest, all the men I've known have had it done.
28/8/08 19:59
okay flakey i respect your choice and i respect you did it younger i mean 3 weeks is alot different to a child of over 1 years old.. especially if you NEVER doubted you wouldnt get it done in first place.. IMO!
anyway ive aired my view and leave it at that.
28/8/08 19:54
I think dentistbaby's reputation has taken a downward turn and any future posts from this lady will be met with a lack of response.
28/8/08 19:34
Ladies please don't let this discussion cause a rift. I am african as well and can understand what dentist baby is talking about like wise her oh. I had my ds own done when he was 3wks, well I know you girls will think am insane but, the truth is that apart from religious reasons it makes the area clean, besides all the men I have met with ( I mean intimately) have all been circs, haven't seen an uncircs wilky before lol. it sounds silly but that's just the truth. I had his done is a surgery down in London bermondsey and it was done under anthesia. It was a bit painful for him initially and the pain weared out within 3hrs. and the next day he was fine.
I know most poeple will not understand whot this culture and religious thing is all about but we just have to respect people's opinion about things. If i had another male chil, I would circs them and i wouldn't criticise someone that doesn't.
28/8/08 18:57
nah cos thats got nothing to do with this complete different topics and i have nothing personal against u. just something i dont agree with is un-neccessary circumcision just as u choose to agree. each to their own for whatever reason. i only personally agree to medical reasons tbh but then if u lived in a culture of the norm i could see where ur hand can be swayed iykwim.
as for hiv i dont see what it has to do with it all tbh..as end result is safe sex or even better in my case my boy is NEVER gonna have a girl friend lol
28/8/08 18:49
Emma you amuse me too, really. Asking for my opinion in another thread and slating me in here. It's like being at school really - very 2 faced. I thought we were all mature ladies, in here.
28/8/08 18:43
it should never have been put up anyway. it must have been done for a reaction, as nobody else has ever mentioned circumcision.
i think the majority agree earlier done is better (whether or not we agree to it or not) her EX's reputataion shouldnt really come into it (though you have some very brilliant valid points there hun) except to the point of, i wouldnt do anything to make him bloody happy after whats hes done.
so if you are doing it for your sons welfare, then fine, but dont do it for his dad, your son may not thank you for it.
and as youve said, the sooner the netter, before he is 2yrs, as this is when most memories start forming and sticking in our brains x
enough said as PP pointed out. let her life her life. just let this thread die its death x
28/8/08 18:32
I think this thread should stop now it seems to be getting a bit out of hand.... shes getting him done - end of.
28/8/08 18:14
sorry to be find this amusing now..
so let me get this right..
your OH is brink of bank rupt but he will pay for you child to be butchered...
it prevents catching stds (as would a condom or less partners lol) but ur hubby sleeps with prostitutes who u also sleep/slept with and obv no protection which resulted in ur gorgeous lil boy... but ur so sure he wraps it for a prostitute??? so therefore ur son was at risk from the start of catching hiv etc cos ur hubby uses dirtys..
if ur getting it done do it.. i mean thinking about it wont take his pain away and as someone else said if he has tight foreskin go to ur dr to monitor it..why pay when he can have it done for free..
u say its ur hubbys culture.. is it urs too? just outta curiosity.. cos im guessing prostitutes dont come under anybody culture lmao!
28/8/08 17:57
Poor little boy
28/8/08 17:49
*shakes head in disbelief*
28/8/08 17:42
I am going back to work and I wont be on the verge of bankruptcy they are my ex/ohs debts. and he would be paying the £75 anyway. I think I will get lo done asap so he doesn't remember.
We all were taught safe sex, but few people practice it - i am doing this to him for several reasons, he'll prob have to have it done when older anyway, his dad wants him to have it done for his reasons and i just think the cleanliness and aids thing is just an added bonus. Thanks ladies!
28/8/08 17:31
Why don't you just teach your son to practice safe sex when he's at that age in order to prevent HIV/AIDS.....?
You said it costs £75 to have it done, wouldn't someone who claims they're on the verge of bankrupcy, selling your car because you can't afford to keep it, and just become a single mum because your husband has a habit of sleeping with prostitutes have better things to do with that £75??
At the end of the day it's your son and your money and what you choose to do with both is your business but you did ask for our opinions!
28/8/08 17:26
still dont agree with it regardless, ill teach my child safe sex and the risks of sleeping about
28/8/08 17:23
In his otherwise excellent review of the AIDS epidemic in the 21st century, Fauci presented no new strategies for preventing the spread of the disease.1 He made no mention of male circumcision, yet there is now compelling epidemiological evidence from over 40 studies which shows that male circumcision provides significant protection against HIV infection; circumcised males are two to eight times less likely to become infected with HIV.2 Furthermore, circumcision also protects against other sexually transmitted infections, such as syphilis and gonorrhoea, 3 4 and since people who have a sexually transmitted infection are two to five times more likely to become infected with HIV,5 circumcision may be even more protective. The most dramatic evidence of the protective effect of circumcision comes from a new study of couples in Uganda who had discordant HIV status; in this study the woman was HIV positive and her male partner was not.6 No new infections occurred among any of the 50 circumcised men over 30 months, whereas 40 of 137 uncircumcised men became infected during this time. Both groups had been given free access to HIV testing, intensive instruction about preventing infection, and free condoms (which were continuously available), but 89% of the men never used condoms, and condom use did not seem to influence the rate of transmission of HIV. These findings should focus the spotlight of scientific attention onto the foreskin. Why does its removal reduce a man's susceptibility to HIV infection?
This is an extract from the british medical journal - that ALL doctors are compelled to read as further learning requirement.28/8/08 17:14
as someone posted earlier unessasary circumcision is barbaric,my 16 month old has been ill once and seeing him in pain killed me,so putting your son threw unessary pain is beyond me,fair enough if your child had a condition and it needs doing then yes
as for the aids/ hiv teach your son to wear a condom! simple and safe
28/8/08 17:09
THOUGHT being the right word. theyve not scientifically proved it or anything.
if you are going to have it done because his dads beliefs etc, then fine, but to use that as an excuse. safe sex prevents passing HIV and its a lot less painfull id imagine.
you asked whether to have it done earlier or later. maybe that should have been more appropriately posted in debates.
if you are going to get it done, get it done asap. that way he will have no memory of it, its only you that has to deal with it, or get his dad to do it, and let him deal with it. its his religion after all.
28/8/08 17:00
why don't you google it?? circumcision is thought to cut the risk of catching hiv/aids for men.
Hi,
I'm muslim and my son was circumcised at 3.5 months. I didn't want him to be done so early but my parents and dp said it would hurt him less and heal quicker if he was circumcised when he was younger. He was in pain for a couple of days and was fine after that.
I do understand that anyone who does not have a religious understanding of why it needs to be done would find this hard to comprehend and very disturbing. So I respect your views. xx