your lol is testing the boundaries - your lol is no longer a helpless baby who is dependent in you for everything - at this stage they are beginning to realise that they are a separate person and that they don't have to do what you say or even stay where you put them - they are testing their boundaries it is part of their development and a stage they go through

try not to shout at them this will only frighten them and reinforce their bad behaviour - they don't mean to be annoying or bad they are struggling with the desire to be independent but still want the reliance with you - if you know the signs when your lol is going to do this then distracting them or giving them time out might be a way of stopping it before it happens - time out can be putting them in their bedroom for a maximum of three minutes no more or leaving them in the room and walking out if they do this and again only for a maximum of three minutes or putting them on a time out chair for the same length of time and then at the end of it both you and your child should be much calmer and you can explain that their behaviour is wrong and the reason why and in time they will learn what is acceptable and what is not - like any stage they have to learn and they can only learn from you what is acceptable and what is not

i know this is all easier said than done - not giving advice or judging anyone here just giving another perspective hope it helps in a small way xx

I know, these things can be really frustrating. As long as I know Catherine's in a safe place, i tend to walk away, and find singing really loudly in my head distracts me and thinking to myself that she's only little and doesn't understand how irritating she is! So I'll be going "la la la I'm not listening" while she's screaming or doing something naughty or whatever. If I come back a few minutes later she's usually forgotten whatever set her off! If I stay with her when she's annoying me I'll just blow up at her, so it's better to walk away.

My dd started being realy naughty, standing there and screaming at the the top of her voice, it was driving me mad so one day I flicked a tiny drop of water at her and she stopped straight away, she looked really shocked   She still screams sometimes but a tiny flick and it stops her in her tracks.  Why don't you try, it is far better than shouting,which is what I found myself doing.

Thankyou for replying, i was really good at ignoring yesterday but lost my rag today and shouted!! know i shouldnt shout but this is one of my pet hates and not sure where he has got this from!

I can see why you find that difficult! My guess is that he can see it winds you up and therefore is doing it to get a reaction. My dd did this when I said "ow" to her when she pinched me a couple of times. It took weeks and weeks of ignoring her to get her to stop pinching me on purpose and saying "ow" herself. I'd say ignore him for a good long while, really consistantly and try not to react at all. He'll probably grow out of it anyway, but if it gets no reaction he's less likely to do it. Takes a bit of doing, but it works in the end, hope it sorts itself out!

Hi Ladies, just popping in from 13-18m as will be joining you all soon and no1 responding in that forum- need desp help!

As the title says i am at end of my tether, my lo is 18 months and everytime i tell him off he spits, not like proper spitting but the spitting noise and bit of dribble iyswim!

I have tried the naughty corner, ignoring him, telling him off and nothing works!! can any1 recommend anything as i really hate this and dont want it to get worse! Is any1 elses lo doing this? please tell me im not alone!

Thanks in advance

Jodie