good luck honey, its easier when you know you want to do it, you will be more determined and more positive, you can do it xxxx

Good luck with it hun, hope you start getting some good nights soon.  Nothing like a good nights sleep.

Good luck, it'll be hard but so worth it when you wake up refreshed after sleeping through the whole night in the morning!

Thanks everyone   I think I forget sometimes that he is growing up and doesn't need 'babying' anymore.  It doesn't help that I've just moved back home with him and his Nan panders to his every need!  I'm going to bite the bullet, book a few days off work and get rid of night feeds for good.  It won't be easy but I know it's for the best and I actually feel really positive about it now.  x

Absolutely agree busbybabe.

At this age it's not exactly controlled crying anymore, not like when they are babies.  If you try the giving water instead thing and just stick with it then your DS will probably whinge and cry a bit but the longer you keep it up for the less he will do this and accept he is not getting his bottle anymore.  Plus, at this age you can explain that he is a big boy and doesn't need his bottle anymore.  Would you give in to a tantrum if he wanted, say, chocolate that you didn't want him to have?  At their age now, it is about testing the boundaries rather than the need for that bottle/cuddle/being hungry etc.

Hi, not exactly "waking for a night feed" but my lo is still having a night time bottle before bed

KIRSTY- Just wanted to say that I am in the same boat! My DS will have a bottle at 7pm and go to sleep but will wake anywhere between 11-2am for a bottle! I have tryed everything and will not do the control crying thing as i am against it! It is hard, especially as i have to leave for work at 6am. I'm just hoping he grows out of it soon... i have tryed water juice, cuddling, everything but nope he still wants it! He eats well so i guess it is out of habbit......!

the thing is your lo is waking for a night feed out of habit not necessity and if you keep giving him a feed he will keep waking for one, the only person who can stop this is you, there are no easy solutions you just have to agree on which method you want to use and stick with it, it might be that your lo screams for the whole night for his bottle but if you give in and give him one then that has taught him the longer you scream  the more you are in control and get what you want coz mum will give in in the end. I have always used the baby whisperer methods throughout each stage of my kids lives and for me they work a treat, the one that is probably best used for this is pick up put down method but you can adpat this a little depending on lo size etc etc but the basic concept is if lo wakes crying (proper crying not whinging) then go in settle back down either with a cuddle or pick up etc etc then once lo is calm lay back down, this may take a million times before lo settles and realises that he is not getting anything else and will give up, this to me is a more clamer way than controlled crying which a lot of parents dont want to do, so you are not letting lo cry but you are not also being lo's crutch once they are calm you put back to bed and you try to leave but ofcourse this is where lo plays up and you have to keep going back and like i say it can take a long time but once you get into night 4 or 5 it will take less and less time, he is 21 months therefore you cant expect to break a habit in one night. make sure that during the day lo has plenty of food so you know deep down he is not hungry and then just go for it, if lo wakes up whinging in the night ignore, lo may then go back over to sleep on own accord. good luck

Am I the only Mum in the world who still has to do night feeds??  My DS is 21 months and still wakes for a bottle through the night.  He isn't eating very well at the moment (teeth??) but normally he will most of his breakfast and lunch at nursery, has a snack midday and tea at home with me so he shouldn't be hungry.  There have been periods where he's slept through the night but these are few are far between.  I'm 11 weeks pregnant and tired all the time so getting up in the middle of the night is killing me at the moment   Also, I want the night feeds to have stopped by time LO arrives.  Any ideas?  I don't like the idea of controlled crying but I don't know what else I can do.  I'm at my wits end with this so any advice would be wonderful.  Thanks x