Hey there, just reading, sorry to g/c.

Don't no if u no this but according to the disability discrmination act, all schools must  provide the necessary requirements for a child to attend no matter what their disability.

My little girl has the same probs and is now 5 and still in nappies. She is also blind with epilepsy, underactive thyroid and diabetes insipidus. She still went to a mainstream nursery who for their part were excellent and really helped us. But at the end of the day, this is a legal requirement. So the womans initial comment about was he well behaved/ didn't no if they could take him, may well have been breaking the law.

Also, your information may well have been innocently mentioned in passing, however these people are trained in the importance of the data protection act and are not allowed to share your personal info and so I would say their is not much excuse for this.

Sorry if i sound harsh or anything, don't mean to. Its just i feel sometimes with our special children we are made to feel like an inconvenience and as if we have to accept people's prejudices.

Check out the fact that you lost ur places. Since they have no proof and you did not inform them, they could well be breaking the law again x

probably it has just been said in passing.. I'll ask them about it when I see them.. and yep she's a pain in the backside and i'm sure he'll be better at this other school... it  just seems to be one thing on top of the other tbh.. thanks for the reply  

I don't think it's been done maliciously to be honest, or that they're gossiping behind your back. I think it's just something that's been mentioned in passing. Ds1's SALT travels to the same nurseries quite a lot as I'm sure most do and get to know the teachers quite well. I'm sure it's just been mentioned in passing. I also think that headmistress sounds like a right grump. Ds1's headmistress has been fantastic, she's been so lovely to us both. Ds1 has AS and is a right handful at times. She never complains, just giggles at his antics. Think your lo will be better off away from her in the long run. Sorry about all your troubles, you sound really stressed xxxxxx

LOL just realised it looks like I said I came out of the meeting pregnant ... I meant I am pregnant so hormones were all over the place and thats probably why I got so upset.

LOL just realised it looks like I said I came out of the meeting pregnant ... I meant I am pregnant so hormones were all over the place and thats probably why I got so upset.

Hi everyone

I don't post here much but I'm wondering if any of you could help me.

Our DS is nearly 4 with language problems and eating problems and he has speech therapy, they have told us that there are no other problems then these two things, which can be sorted out and once they are he'll be fine.

The problem is that before he was diagnosed with anything we had put both him and DD down for places for nursery in a nearby school. When I went for a meeting with the headmistress she knew all about the assessments (which I do understand they have to)

But she said to me that she didn't know if they could take DS or not because of 'all these problems that he has' I asked her 'what do you mean all these problems?'and she said about him having 'all these tests' (he was only having a speech assessment.

She then asked me if he was well behaved.. I said yes he is  (which he is, we can take him anywhere he'll sit in cafe's at the table and not make a fuss  even though he doesn't eat) and she replied with a 'hmmmmmmm'

I went out of the meeting in tears (pregnant too usually I wouldn't of done that lol), she had never even met Bradley so how could she make all these assumptions.. and why was she even informed if he had not even had a diagnosis?

I pretty much decided there and then that if the headmistress had that kind of attitude I did not want my children going to that school anyway. But I was told that she is retiring this summer so I kept his  name on the list because she offered him a place anyway.

Then we found out that my brother in law is coming back from China and needs his house back (we  are renting from him but thought we would be here at least another couple of years)  and we have to find somewhere else to live and DH wants to go back to where we used to live,, which is a town very nearby to where we are now. But we don't know when we are moving or even if we have got the house we're trying to rent (letting agents messing around.. another long story lol).

but so far its taken 4 months.. I've never known renting a house to take this much fuss. Anyway if we don't know for sure we're moving we can't do anything about putting their names down in another school, although I was going to inform them as soon as possible and definatly way before the summer holidays if we were moving.

But.. someone got there first and informed them for me (I'm pretty sure its someone who he has the speech and langauge therepy with) now neither of them no longer have a place in the school, but luckily for us DH's friend is the headmaster of another school and he is going to take them there.

But my point is.. I don't feel like I can trust them at this place that DS goes to.. I feel like
i'm constantly watching my mouth and only tell them what I absolutly have to, I didn't think that they were allowed to do this and I feel like things are being done behind my back.

I want to take him out of the therapy but I can't because he does need it.

I don't even know if this is how these places usually act.. I'd of thought they would have to inform the school on his progress, i:e forward reports etc... but are they allowed to do what they did?

Sorry its long