hi i didnt wanna read and run im not sure what can imediatly help im sure youve talked to heath visitor or doctor  have you spoken to your childs nursary teacher evry one tells you to ignore the bad but reward the good have you tried reward charts like say if you be good at nursary you can have a sticker and when you get 5 you can have a treat doesnt have to be expensive and when you get to 10 a better treat we used reward coins bought off ebay and you give the child a bag to put the coins in but if i was honest you need to speek to your health visitor again and ask if theres any support groups in you area have you looked at his diet i found by cutting sugary drinks and some proccesed foods my son whom has adhd is a little bit better behaviour its hard to get medical people to take notice feel free to ask anything ill try and answer

i am having a really really s*** time at the minute and heres why,

my ds1 is 3 1/2 and has always hurt himself from about 8mths old, it started with head banging on anything, over the years he has got worse but its turned to other people now. he hits, kicks, throws things at any1 or anything and this includes his 9mth old brother and our dog. he is argumentative and shouts, spits and constantly tells us he doesn't want us. he is even hitting teachers at pre-school. today i am absolutley disgusted with him, he wee'ed on a girl in the toilets, no reason for it but i am really starting to worry about him. any ideas on why he could be acting this way and how i can help him? i have tried everything and even thought about leaving my partner because he winds him up and has lost his patience with him. i am waiting for a referral from our inter-agency link team but the list is huge. i dont know what i can do. i am slowly losing it.     sorry its long but really could do with a natter with any1 going through the same or similar. ty, ema xx