ooh this sounds a great idea. thanks will defiantely give it a try.

after reading what you have put it makes sense. i have used the method with other issues in the past with other tokens etc.

thanks for rejogging my memory.

Sam xx

oh and you keep reducing down every few days or so at a pace that he can live with until he gets to about 2 or 3 hopefully within time he will get out of the habit, you will be suprised, by how quick it works when they don't get a reaction for cursing, you will need to involve the school, and get the full support of all his teachers

Reward him for it yes you did hear me right

get the school to help, if at all possible first right down everything you condider to be a swear word, different people have different ideas.

then start taking a record of how often he curses, say in one case he curses at the most 50 times a day

next step is to bring in a token system for a younger child (this has worked btw) two containers one with a happy face one with a sad face, don't know what you could use for a older child but be inventive

system works like this he curses 50 time a day give him 55 straws, each time he has been heard to curse, he moves a straw containers, if he has straws left at the end of the day, he gets a reward token than can then  be saved for a treat of his chosing, a new computer game, etc etc, next day take out two straws and so on , praise him to high heaven everytime he has straws left, good boy johnny you only cursed 40 time today that is very good

you can decided how many tokens is needed to get the good reward at the end, don't make it too hard to achieve though, you may never stop him completely, but then we all curse in the right circumstances, get him to move his own straws or whatever but never make a fuss when he curses

maybe for a older child you could get him a special book, and draw up charts that must be tickedwhen he curses

morning

my son is nearly 12, he started at secondary school last September. i am having major issues with his swearing, jsut wondered if anyone had any advice with regards to getting him to stop,

i have tried the usual grounding, sending friends home (well friend), taking tele off him etc. any advicewould be much appreciated.

im at my wits end, he swears at me, in front ofme, in front of others andi jsut dont know what to do. i ve tried ignoringhim, ive tried shouting at him. i feel likeive run out of options but i jsut cant bear it any longer!

please give me advice

thanks Sam xx