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thats ok hun...my mum used to let me get off with things bec she thought it was down to my deafness but it had nothing to do with it, unfortunately my mum clicked on and i got told off just like my older sister lol..i used to get very angry due to comunication problems as i was not allowed to sign when i was younger i was brought up strcitly orally....i am quite lucky and have got good speach, however i struggled to explain what i meant at times and still do now. sometimes i will say something and people think i mean something else! it used to really frustrate me when i was younger and i used to headbutt the walls bec of the frustration! (cringe! lol) but take it from me...they know when they being buggers! they just need to be shown other ways to express feelings instead of tantrums.

good luck for the op on wed! dont feel like a bad mother hun! u coming on here and asking for advice is a good thing and proves u want to do the best for ur child!

xxxxxxx

Thanks girls, thanks welshbabe thats really helpful info, im going to try the picture reinforcing what im saying etc. Oh I dont know, he goes in for his op on wednesday and im so anxious about all that just feel like a crap mum at the moment!

good advice ladies. my dd is now 6 with a speech level at age 3-4. whenever i need to tell her not to do something it really has to be consistant and I am slowly learning that even though she is deaf in both ears I have to treat her like a hearing child but with visual things and as a back up sign language. Get as many visual things you can no matter how normal they may mean to you and your child will learn what's wrong and right. I admit myself that I used to be lazy with consistancy and would hide behind the fact that she's deaf but I am slowly coming round to the fact that my little monster is a bright little thing and as sharp as a tack. your child will learn soon not to bite and hit. my daughter used to throw things in frustration even plastic chairs that kids sit on. It used to be dive for cover in our house! But she's learning from her two younger hearing siblings and she's getting there

so good luck, you'll wonder why you had a problem with it when he gets over it and it will soon be forgotten in a couple of months

good luck

Hi there, i have a 3 year old son too, he is not deaf, but i am deaf myself...

As you said the reason for his behaviour is most likely due to frustration! probably not being able to communicate properly or express what he wants to say very well....he needs to be punished for bad behaviour just like you would with your other children..just bec he is deaf doesnt mean he can get away with it....however, just like your other children he will need explaining (and actually understand) why he is being punished. If he is being punished but hasnt understood or heard why, it will just frustrate him more!

Another thing u could is see what triggers his tantrums. what happened around that time? that way if you can see him getting frustrated try and take that little bit of extra time to sit and listen to him without rushing around doing loads of other things (hard i know when you have a busy life of a mum) but sometimes its all they need.

Try asking why he is having a tantrum and biting you? whats upsetting him? i got my son to tell me what happened as he used to have a habit of just screaming and pointing! i would ask him to show me what was wrong...perhaps this could help? maybe introducing flash cards or cut outs from magazines of drinks or food for example and letting him show you that way if he really struggles to communicate.

there are lots of things you could try really.....but taking time to talk to him and about what upsets him, triggers etc..could help you. keep up with the punishment though...deaf children are not a special exeption from telling off's, just remember to make it clear WHY!

hope this helps, feel free to contact me if you want to chat some more

xxx (sorry it was long) xx

Hi there. My ds is not deaf but has had glue ear in the past and we were told his behaviour would deterioriate because of this which it did for a while until it cleared up. It must be very frustrating for your ds.

My ds has behavioural problems he is due to have an assessment for ASD/ADHD in November. It is difficult to know with him what is due to his difficulties and what is just normal naughty 4 year old behaviour but I have found the best way to deal with it is to treat him like any other child and have exactly the same expectations behaviour wise. He knows it is totally unacceptable to hit, bite etc but he can't always control his behaviour as well as some other children.

Just be very consistent with him and I am sure his behaviour will gradually improve over time.

Hi im new to this forum but wondered if anyone can give me some advice.  My ds 3 is deaf in one ear, glue ear in the other so his hearing is very poor.  Hes a happy, sociable kid normally despite his problems but im finding dealing with hitting/biting very hard cos I know hes doing it through frustration but hes got to know its not acceptable.  Im torn between the fact that he has different needs to other kids his own age and him knowing its wrong but its not his fault hes partially deaf iykwim??