vonniemarie- its not your fault! lol...the nightlights are great, just think that my dd has never had something so bright and changing colours in her bedroom that she found it a bit unsettling

dizzyspud- glad to hear your lo is getting better sleeping again, well my dd has got much better over the last few days thanks god. i have too been telling her she will get a present if she goes to sleep without crying and not wake up through the night....its worked so far, but my bank balance is now crying ha ha...

daddy is bringing her a new toy from the disney store tonight that she has been asking for, after this it will have to be from the pound shop ha ha.

for the last 2 nights she has gone back to sleeping 6.45pm to 7am (when daddy gets up), so fingers crossed she's getting back to normal x

Hi Sheltaylor

Sorry the night light didn't work!  I hope you're having a better night tonight.  That's awful though that you partner doesn't want the landing light on.  I hope he changes his mind.  Especially as he's not sleeping because of lo's crying. 

Would it help if you stayed by her cot with her until she goes to sleep or will she wake up in the night and cry if she sees you are not there.

Good luck hun.  It will get better soon!!!

aww thanks for your reply....

i will let you know if i tackle it, but not holding me breath at the moment!

dd is still in her cotbed thank god, so dont have to keep putting her back, just the crying and screaming to listen to 

she went to bed not too bad tonight, just whimpering and not heard from her yet, but there is time yet lol...usually about midnight when the fun and games start.

hope you can sort things out for your lo, it's absolutely shattering isn't it.

if you crack it, dont forget to let me know pleeeeease x

Your not alone, I am going through exactly the same thing with my son.  He was perfect sleeper untill 7 weeks ago and he changed over night.  Started crying when i mention bed time and point blank refuses to get into bed on his own he will scream if i put him in there even if it is light outside. I have to sit with him untill he's asleep, he wakes up in the night and comes running into our room into my bed saying mummys bed, i put him straight back without saying anything and walk out.  Normally by the time I walk out he's asleep againb but other times I could be in there for a few mins settling him again.  The answer I just dont no, wanted to say your not alone.  If you find something that works please let me know. 7 weeks with 1 full nights sleep starting to think im going mad lol. Just keep at the putting her back to bed without saying anything hopefully she will get the idea. and tell you DF to bugger off it aint your fault xx

well it was the worse night since this all started

dd was up from about 11.30 crying and shouting us till about 3am

up for the morning at 7am.

really dont know how i'm going to cope as at work tomorrow all week...cant even function this morning.

she says she wants me or daddy and she doesnt like the dark, wants to sleep in our bed, but not sure if all this is attention because she slept in same room for a week on holiday, or if she is genuinly scared?

the lumilove nightlight didnt work after all

sorry for rambling..df has fallen out with me saying its all my fault cos she slept with me on holiday (she slept in the bed at side of me as no other option) and that i will have been cuddling her etc everynight, so she is now kicking up a fuss at being on her own.

she was a perfect sleeper, couldnt ask for more, and now it seems its all ruined

i bought one from mothercare, had puppy, rabbit and the panda. my dd wanted the rabbit.

put it on tonight in her room...she still cried when i left but only for about 10 mins which is better.

dreading through the night as df has told me to turn the big landing light out as he can not sleep with any light!

i know she will be up crying

We bought our in boots but I notice that they have not got them on the website now.  If your passing a large boots though it may be worth a look.

thanks for all your help.

we are going night light shopping today. i will look out for the lumilove lights as i have heard that they are great.

fingers crossed this will do the trick x

My DD is 2 and we recently went through the same experience.  She always slept in the pitch black with the door shut and was fine.  Then all of a sudden she kept crying at bedtime and waking in the night crying.  Then she started to say it was "Too dark".

My advice would be to put something in her room that excites/pleases her.  We bought her a Lumilove panda nightlight, which changes colours. I took her out shoping for one and she loves it. For the first couple of nights I sat  with her and watched the colours change.  

We also had to keep the landing light on and the door open.  Another thing that helped was changing her bedtime routine.  I used to read her 3 mr men books each night and she started  to cry whilst I was reading the third one.  Now I take her to bed with DH chasing us making her giggle..  Then I put her in bed and he reads her two different books.  She's gone back to being a dream now and never cries.  

It's all trial and error and the accumulation of the above has made her feel more secure at night.

hths

My ds is 2 n half and has all of a sudden started telling me he doesn't like the dark. It started with him waking in night and when I went in he asked me to 'take it off him', lol. He woke a few times that night requesting the same, and now sometimes before bed as he's about to go up starts saying that he's not going to bed cos he doesn't like the dark. I would say go with a nightlight, if it helps resolve the problem then great, its not like a small nightlight is a huge problem. I would try that, as ds has one integrated in his monitor, however we have recently started having to use this as a signal for morning, eg, when the light comes on its morning time and he can get up, to combat early rising since ds 2 born, so for obv reasons we can't now have it on at night!

We've simply explained to him why its dark (cos its night time) and told him he doesn't need to be frightened of it, and that if he closes his eyes and goes to sleep he won't be able to see the dark. He occasionally still wakes, but not v often.

Hope it works out for you! x

thanks. she's had all her teeth for months now, seems well in herself.

will just have to see how it goes...

she did the same tonight, crying and shouting for me when i came downstairs, so i suppose it will be the same through the night again

can't understand it at all as she has not been like this since she was born and she is 3 in January

may have to try a night light in her bedroom and give that a go.

Sometimes they just don't like the door to be shut as they can start to feel a bit isolated.  Maybe that's the case if she's felt closer to you on hol? How are her teeth? Could she be cutting the last molars and feeling a bit uncomfortable?  The weather's been cold lately too, which I think is one reason my DS 2y8m is waking at the moment.  Just some ideas there.

hi ladies,

i wondered if anyone had experience this or that could maybe give some tips...

my dd has never really had problems sleeping, slept through in her own room for very young, with light off in pitch black, woke up next morning.

we went on holiday, been back for few days and she had to sleep in the same room as us as this was the layout of the apartment. whilst we were there she started crying asking for the light on and wouldnt settle without it, so we thought just a strange room and left the bathroom light on to give it a bit of light.

now back home, so is crying before bed, saying she doesnt want to go to bed, or she wants to sleep in mummy and daddys bed, she is also screaming for the landing light on and also waking up 2 or 3 times in the night crying.

thing is she has been on holiday abroad maybe 3 or 4 times before and never been like this when she got back....and tips on how to overcome it as i really dont want to start with trouble at night time and her not sleeping through anymore?

she is already starting to say she doesn't want to go to bed and telling me not to shut the door properly in her bedroom....

any tips to get back to normal would be great x