I'm finding my 2 year old incredibly difficult at the moment! He is nearly 3, and I was just thinking how much easier he was getting untill his behaviour did a 'U' turn and we are back to the terrible 2's. I have a 4 month old DD who thankfully he is great with. But, the tantrums, hitting, throwing things etc is really wearing me down. I too have totally lost it with him shouted and grabbed him horribly! I feel like an awful Mum. Especially at times when I just feel like I really don't like him! Time out step and taking away privilages doesn't work anymore

It doesn't help that I am exhausted. Not only am I up at night feeding the baby but my son is up in the night too, screaming and crying for no reason. Then in the day his behaviour is worse because he is tired!..... I just keep reminding myself that it's not forever and with age he should soon calm down!

Good advice from PP regarding spending quality time!!!

Good luck and let me know if you have any break throughs

Jo..xx

thank you both (kirty and abbie) for you thoughts, tips and concerns and more so the boost i needed to feel sane again. he has continued to play not nice but I’m working hard on the naughty step the explanation of why he cant and also have separated them when it has got too bad and I need time to chill. I hope soon he learns as really does put a damper on playtime thanks againx

Hi, didn't want to read and run, I have a 3year old DD and my friends DS is almost 4, and when my DD was starting to crawl he used to try and push her to the floor, or climb on her all the time. I think it was like you said that he was excited that now she was moving around so wanted to play. I think at the age your DS is he just doesn't understand yet that she can't play how he wants her to, I realise it must be so frustrating for you especially if the naughty step isn't working for you. maybe you could try showing him ways that he can play with his sister without hurting her, I don't really know what to suggest as I only have one DD Sorry this post isn't more helpful, just remember you are not a bad mum xxx

hey hun this is a hard 1 personally i dont agree with smacking but i can fully understand why/how u got that wound up. could it be that he just wants ur attention and by annoying his sister hes getting it? when ur dd is asleep maybe try spending some one on one time with him. my dd is a bit older but she wen through a phase like this and i told her thats not nice and she has made ur brother cry. how would she feel if someone was to push her over? she agreed shewouldnt like it and as my son got older and started copying her and doing it back she soon stopped! i use the naughty  chair and it is hard work keeping her on it she goes through phases of sitting nicely for her 2 mins to running off laughing which is vey frustrating but believe me if you r consistant he will stay there and start to understand when he does wrong he does get punished.

big hugs hun if ur feeling that wound up again try leaving the room calming yourself down or just counting to 10 before you react towhat he has done hth xxxx

i’m not sure what i need i just know ive got to speak out about whats happening to me. i have a boy of just over 2yrs and a girl of 8mths both are generally happy little ones except for the normal crys and tantrums. however by little girl has recently learnt to crawl and my boy found this to be very exciting as he now has a playmate. my girl being young not always want to follow big brother which results in him s***ing her toys off her constantly so she will follow. i have tried to explain she is too little to keep chasing and how to leave her with her toys to play but doesnt seem to work. he has now moved on to pinching her cheeks pulling her bibs until they come off (his intention) pulling her over, pinching her,pulling hair until she bangs to the floor, cutting her in two when she is happily in her baby bouncer and occasionally biting. i have tried calm techniques, supernanny naughty step! this last week has been tough as they have both been down with colds which has meant i am on my 6th night of nearly no sleep and today very tired not handling my son at all well, to the point i have yelled at him where he stood scared, grabbed him really horrible and smacked his leg all because he will not play nice with his sister. im reduced to tears and scared im hurting my son i dont want him to be frightened of me i feel im such a bad mum i just sometime want to quit because i feel im so horrible. i speak to my husband who tells my i have happy children and im a good mother but he never sees these days when i explode so quickly. i don’t know what to do or how to do it. thanks for listening