A thread for 35 year old woman who`ve hit that `age` but determined not to give up
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10/11/11 18:49
Right ladies, I'm sure like me you are hearing and reading lots about ttc. And even worrying like me that at 35 we are considered to be past our prime. Well at last my doc seems to show a genuine interest in the fact that I'm struggling to conceive. Well today I've decided I'm not giving up. I've toyed with the idea of saying 'I'm content in life' but I'm not. Who's with me? Let's share this journey! Calling all 35 year old woman!
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28/4/12 21:24
But if you don't talk to him and ask him why, you'll still resent him. You both need to have an honest conversation and make your decisions together. I know my ex had problems with his sperm count and it really affected him mentally. He felt less of a man, felt if we had a child it wouldn't be his (due to the lack of viable sperm). Money is also a big consideration and in these situations noone wins. I actually did get pregnant naturally after ttc for 8 years, but he couldnt cope with it and we split up when my DS was 3 months old. He spent so long being told that we couldn't, he had days of doubt that DS wasn't his. He couldn't deal with the pressure of ttc or of the arrival of our DS (definitely his btw). That's why I said men are simple creatures, they deal with facts before emotions. Please talk to your dh before you both build up tension beyond something that can be repaired. Xx -
28/4/12 21:08
Ah thanks for the advice..... I know what you saying is right, men aren't good at saying things tactfully and maybe he is worrying about these things BUT if he isn't then I will resent him for dperiving me of this. He is in charge of this and I really hate it....... I just know this feeling of wanting a baby isn't going to disapppear BUT my resentment will grow! :-( -
28/4/12 07:49
Talk to him and explain how you feel. He may be worried that this is 'his fault' as he see's it. He could be worried about money, going through the process with no luck and still feel its his problem. Men are simple creatures, he may be saying it to prevent you getting hurt, just not good at saying the right thing. Hope this makes sense. X -
28/4/12 07:34
I'm devastated..... After a year and a half of monitoring with fertility tests at home, numerous blood tests, scans, internals, meeting, sperm test fot hubbie...... We get the letter, it's our turn to start the ivf part of this journey and all i need to do is ring and hubbie has said - I dont think I want another child. I'm heartbroken.... He's known for 4 years now that I want this so bad...... Please help! X -
25/4/12 08:07
I posted this on your other thread but in case you don't see it: I cant remember if my print out looked like yours but I was put on the list for IVI with icis and got pregnant naturally the month atfter I was told I would be put on the waiting list. i think I stopped worrying and thought well I'll wait for the ivf and it just happened! If your other half has some sperm you can still get pregnant naturally (although your chances are reduced) so don't give up hope whatever you do!! and I got my other half taking supplements with zinc to boost his fertility too x p.s. Im 38 ! was 36 when I last was pregnant
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24/4/12 20:39
Haven't been on here for a long time..... things are manic. Wondered is anyone was still around.
We are now on an IVF waiting list with the hope of starting in August/September or October time. This all had to happen as my hubbie's sperm results state that natural conception is VERY unlikely. I have got the all clear........... Looks like a £5000 bill will land on our doormat :-(
Here are hubbie's results - might just help someone else as I was clueless. :-( x
Anyway - hubbies sperm tests are as follows:
Volum: 2.3mls
PH: 8
Concentration: 49 mill./ml
Morphology: 10% nor.
Motility 'A' : 57%
Motility 'B' 3%
Motility 'C' 40%
Round Cells 0.1mill/ml
Antisperm Ab. Significant
Sperm Prep Details:
SUP Total: 0.35 million
Motility o hrs : 98%
24 hours: 92%
48 Hours: 88%
Sample Conclusion:
Sample s: Sub-Normal
Reason: Mild teratozosperia, ASAB positive (lgG-tail)
Suitable for IUI: NO
Suitable for IVF: No
Suitable for ICSI: Yes
Comments: Teratozoospermia. lgG Antisperm antibody positive, approxiately 50% tail bound. Good motility, swim up and survival. -
2/3/12 20:27
Right 21days bloods done again..... Aunt flo arrived again...... HSG SCAN booked..... 19days to go....... Should really be done around calendar day 10ish as there is no chance of being pregnant yet BUT they are fully booked and they only do them on Wednesdays - bugger. Have agreed to abstain from doing the deed for 19 days...... Dont think hubbie will be too happy. Lol....... Wont tell him, will just go to bed in fluffy pjs.
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