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GEM GILLY IVF DIARY
16/9/08 15:49
14/9/08 17:50
Hi Gem,
I hadn't read your ttc journey before as only just recently come on to Bounty and so am so sorry about your BFN in August. I have posted my ttc diary (think it is on page3) and know how after every cycle of treatment that I have had and got a BFN that it takes a while to get back the strength you need to start again. Hopefully by December you'll either not need treatment or if you do, you'll be in such a better frame of mind.
I know what you mean about people saying the most annoying things tho, all of my friends have 2+ kids and are always coming out with the cliches re having a baby. I really don't think that they know what to say most of the time though and they get a bit embarressed. At the end of the day, unless you've been through what we have on this forum you really can't have any idea how awful it is.
Anyway we have to be positive otherwise what is the point, so here's to wishing that there is going to be lots of 2009 bundles of joy on this forum!!
Good luck and nice ot say hello.
X
12/9/08 08:34
Glad to see you back and feeling more positive, and as you say hopefully you won't need your next try. Try not to think about dates and ovluation, just go for it whenever, and you never know !!!!!!!
11/9/08 15:49
Hi Gem,
Welcome back, hon, its lovely to hear from you again. I'm so glad you are feeling better again. Its great news that you're starting your second attempt in December. I've always found it so much easier recovering from a BFN when you have something forthcoming to focus on. And as you say, you may not even need your second attempt!
I also got another BFN at the end of August just after you got yours (I was lurking around on you diary). We have had 4 cycles - the first two were aborted after 5 weeks of injections due to complications and the last 2 resulted in BFN's. We too have decided to try again in December/January, so I may be going through it around the same time as you. Anyway, good luck hon...heres hoping you don't need to go through IVF in December!!!
Love,
Scarlett xxxxxxxxxxxxx
11/9/08 15:38
Hi Girls,
Thanks for all your lovely posts. I thought I would pop on Bounty just to see how things were going for everyone and I have missed so much in just a few weeks! Congrats to bythebeachjo!!! Woo hoo!
I am now back from my holiday and dh and I are feeling nice and relaxed. We have done no ttc at all and have just been having fun which is so lovely!
After my IVF treatment failed in August I didn't think I could go again but I am now looking forward to December when we can start our second attempt. I have sent all the consent forms back and I have spoken to my consultant to let them know we will be attending in December because at first I really didn't want to go through it all over again but I have got my head round the idea now as I know some girls have had to go through 3 or 4 attempts so I really need to be a little tougher!!
For the time being we are going to just have fun and try on our own so I am looking forward to that....and although I hate it when people say it to me you never know what can happen!!
Gem x x
13/8/08 21:33
Good for you lovey, that's sounds like just the ticket!
Have a fab holiday, get drunk and "do it" in funny places, you just never know,lol!!
13/8/08 21:30
Hi Gem
I'm so glad you are feeling stronger and your holiday couldn't have come at a better time. Hope you and dh have a fabulous time!
Take care
x
13/8/08 19:41
hi gem,
glad to hear that you're feeling a bit better now and that you've made a decision about how to take things forward. hopefully the time out will do you both good - and hey, you never know - you hear so many stories of people who fall the minute they stop trying....
a holiday in the sun will be fab though and you don't have to worry about staying off the c***tails!! hope you have a great time and can well and truly relax - i'm sure it will be just what you and dh need.
take care of yourself and keep us posted on how you are doing.
jxx
13/8/08 12:39
Have a fab holiday Gem. You deserve it so much after all the stress of this TTC lark. Anyway, I hope you have a lovely time!
Love, Scarlett xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
13/8/08 09:54
Hi Gem
Have a lovely well deserved holiday I hope the sunshine makes things seem a bit brighter for you.
Have a couple of Mojitos for me too!
Love Jo x
13/8/08 09:30
Glad to hear you are feeling better. Hope you have a lovely holiday x x x
Emma
11/8/08 16:53
Hi Girls,
Sorry I have been a stranger for the past few days but I needed to get away from ttc and everything to do with it. I have finally picked myself up off the floor and haven't cried since Saturday so thats definitely a sign I am beginning to feel better.
We are due to go to Majorca next Tuesday for a fortnight so that will be a welcomed break. We have decided to have the next 3 months off of ttc and just relax and enjoy being married again. Maybe when we return from our hols we will feel better about ivf etc but right now for our own sanity we are going to just have fun for a while and not think about peeing on sticks or charting etc!!!
Thaks again for all your support. Gem x x
9/8/08 10:59
I am so sorry it didn't work, what a total bummer, it's so unfair, I was really keeping everything crossed for you. I know it feels really raw at the moment, but you will pick yourself up ready to try again. Sending you lots of love and big hugs xx
8/8/08 19:58
I just wanted to drop in with a massive (((((((((((((((HUG)))))))))))))) for you hun. I'm really and truly sorry that it didn't work for you. It's only natural that you will be feeling pretty darn low, but hopefully you will be shouting from the rooftops about your BFP very soon.
xxxxxx
8/8/08 18:46
Hi Hun
Im so sorry to hear your news.
It must be very hard, but try and stay postive
We are all here if you need to talk to us.
Look after yourself x x x x x
8/8/08 16:33
Gem,
I have been popping in and out of your thread reading and running but felt that now I just wanted to say I am so sorry to hear your news.
Sending huge hugs to you and dh
xxxxx
8/8/08 15:20
Oh Gem hun I am so sorry. I know you must feel utterly heartbroken at the moment as it has been a long journey for you. I wish it was over for you I really do.
I think everything is so horribly overwhelming for you at the moment that it is impossible to think of going through it again. IVF is so hard physically that it is impossible to start to feel better emotionally when you are so drained physically. The drugs will be out of your system in the next few days which will make you start to feel more alive again.
Take some time to grieve for your loss because that is what it is. We practically have that 6 cell embryo through school, married and having their own children by the end of the 2WW. Small comfort but it will get easier and you of all people will be strong enough to carry on to get your dream.
Take care and huge {{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}} I will be thinking of you and DH
Jo x
8/8/08 12:00
Hi Gem, this is just sh1t isnt it?? I know you must be totally devastated, angry, depressed, and negative at the mo but it is amazing how much strength we find in ourselves. You are probably goign through the worst it can get now, and so it can only get better form now on. If you are attempting again in December you are fore-armed with how it is going to be and your consultant will know so much more about your body.
I've also read lots of stories about how people get pg straight after IVF naturally.... so keep remaining positive. Your BFP could just be round the corner.
8/8/08 09:59
HiGem,
Oh hun, I'm just so, so sorry about your result - I really hoped it would be different for you. I just really feel for you right now - I know how much it hurts. ((Hugs))
Of course you're going to feel completely floored at the moment; ivf is a hell of an emontional investment, not to mention the effect that all the hormones you've been taking will have. You just need to give yourself some time to grieve for what's happened before you even start thinking about what to do next.
I was exactly where you are just over a week ago and convinced I couldn't go on with it, but it does get easier. Just put any decisions to one side until you're back on an even keel and then you can make them with a clear head.
Look after yourself, take the time you need and come on here are vent as much as you need to - it helped me a lot! Plus the best bit of advice I was given was to go treat yourself to something that you couldn't do if you'd had your bfp - whether that's a large glass of wine of whatever. It's not much, but it helps....
Take care,
Jxx
8/8/08 08:52
Hi
Just to say I have been following your thread and had everything crossed for you. I a really feel for you right now, you have been through so much and really deserve to get a BFP. I know that nothing we can say will make you feel any better atthe moment, you need to cry and get out all your frustration before you can even think of going through it all again. I'm sorry people are making you angry, they are just trying to keep you positive, but I understand that u are not ready to be positive yet.
Everyone is here for you to rant as mush as you like right now. I hope that you can start to feel positive again soon.
Lots of love X
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Hi Gem
Glad to see you back on Bounty and that you had a good holiday. Thanks for your post in my diary.
It is excellent you are going ahead with another cycle. I think some time away helps clear your head and focus you on what you want to do. I think we are all a lot stronger than we give ourselves credit for.
Never doubt that this will work for you Gem. I have everything crossed that your next cycle in Dec ends in a lovely BFP and everything will have been worth it.
hun and keep up the positive thinking.
Right I think that is everyone rounded up in a mammoth diary round.
Jo x