Seriously hun I went from g&a to pethidine to epidural within one hour of them breaking my waters which was as soon I got on delivery suite after being induced so I can tell you now there aren't many people who can handle the pain of induced contractions! I had exactly the same fears as you & I listened to hypnobirthing cd's which I found really helped, just getting your head round the idea that yes it will hurt but not to be afraid of it because it isn't a pain that is actually harming you like all other pain. If you can focus on that & just concentrate  on breathing through every contraction I promise you it really helps! I had no pain relief whatsoever with ds2 & I can honestly say I never actually thought about asking for it until right at the end & then my waters went & there was instant relief & then I started pushing & he was born 12 minutes later!

You can do it, & remember if all else fails & you want pain relief you can transfer to hospital but I doubt that will happen, being in your own surroundings with no disruption makes a HUGE diference! hth xx

Thank you, I'm really annoyed about it tho as I've been so confident and sure all the way through until now   Now my mind's thinking about the horrible experience with my wee boy, I was started and didn't handle the pain very well so had an epidural (all which I never wanted).  Am I being unrealisitic thinking I can handle it any better this time round - sometimes I struggle with braxton hicks

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PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE don't let them put you off! I guarantee as soon as you got to hospital all the memories of your horrid hospital birth will come back & it will make things slow down & more painful as you will be more tense! If you have a normal pg there really is no need to be at hospital, as so many women on here will tell you home really is the place to give birth

Unfortunately there are some mw's who for some reason hate to see women do fantastically well without them! As pp said you can always transfer when the time comes if you feel you want to but I have yet to hear of someone chnge their mind once in labour & I have yet to hear of a genuinely bad experience xx

i think its a natural feeling tbh hunni, im only 19+5 but keep feeling the same.  my midwife is very supportive and even after giving birth to a 9lb8 baby 2nd time round in hospital the midwives that were with me through the delivery part of baby being born said i should defo go for a home birth the next time.  i said there wont be a next time lol but here i am.  you can always change your mind at the last minute hunni, nothing is set in stone but if a homebirth is what your heart realy wants then go for it and dont let anyone put you off or make you doubt yourself.x. good luck

Hi I was at a mw appointment today and didn't see my normal mw who was saying that the mw team had spoke about the preg lady that wants a home birth (me).  At first she was ok about it but then I felt as if she was trying to put me off, she was speaking about how lovely our hospital mw suite was with birthing pools and twinkly lights in the ceiling and saying how she thought it was nice when women go home the next day from there after delivering.

This has made me doubt whether I'm doing the right thing and now I'm a bit worried - I've went from feeling confident that this was the right choice for me, esp due to the horrensous hospital experience I had with my ds but now I'm all over the place.

Julie xxx

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